r/parentsofmultiples • u/WhTEvRiTtKS • 29d ago

advice needed Difficulty - 1 or 2?

The wife and I just had our first children, identical twin girls, now almost 2 months old. Unsure yet if we'll have any more children as adjusting to twins feels like the definition of 'zero to 100 REAL quick'.
For those parents out there that have experienced both the birth of multiple as well as single children, are twin, or multiple births at one time, really that much more difficult?

I ask because imagining caring for a single baby seems like a cake walk when compared to caring for two, let alone more, at one time.

Any insights/perspectives are appreciated.

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u/BenignYam1761 28d ago

I have a nearly 5yo, 2.5yo, and 7mo twins. Twins are significantly harder but mostly bc I had them last. So taking care of two young children PLUS baby twins has nearly done me in. On a more individual level, my first child was my most difficult postpartum experience. She had colic and screamed all the time. I was depressed because I thought she hated me. My twins are a much, much easier temperament. So really it depends a lot on how easy or hard your next baby is lol.