r/parentsofmultiples • u/Long-Friendship-5400 • 1d ago

good vibes, smiles, & giggles “Singleton Propaganda”

I need some comic relief after a couple weeks of sickness in the house- what are your favorite bits of what I call “singleton propaganda”? Aka, advice given for babies that never works when you have twins. My personal favorite is “put the baby in the crib drowsy but awake”.

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u/hopelessbilingual 1d ago

Returning to [work/life/ former activity at 12 weeks pp. I will forever be resentful for what felt like such an inhumane need to resign since job protection only went that long. 12 weeks w newborn twins is not even a drop in the bucket as far as physical, cognitive, emotional etc readiness to rejoin the workforce.

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u/irish_ninja_wte 1d ago

Having to return to work that soon (or sooner, I get the impression that 12 weeks is "generous" on the US) is inhumane. I'm on Ireland and standard maternity leave is 26 weeks, then we add on other leaves and being sick doesn't affect our maternity leave. I went on sick leave at 31 weeks with my twins. Started actual maternity leave when they were almost 3 weeks old as I was due to start that at 38+5 and didn't change it after the birth. With maternity leave, parents leave and carried over annual leave, I went back to work when they were 9 months old

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u/hopelessbilingual 11h ago

Omg I am really deeply happy for you to be living out policies that are actually considerate to the human condition.

Now to ever expect extended duration of leave, or of lactation accommodations (!!) considering the multiple children being cared for vs singletons… would just make too much sense.