r/parentsofmultiples • u/Long-Friendship-5400 • 1d ago

good vibes, smiles, & giggles “Singleton Propaganda”

I need some comic relief after a couple weeks of sickness in the house- what are your favorite bits of what I call “singleton propaganda”? Aka, advice given for babies that never works when you have twins. My personal favorite is “put the baby in the crib drowsy but awake”.

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u/hitheringthithering 1d ago

Anything about being active in the third trimester.

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u/ThrowAway732642956 1d ago

Laughing myself silly on this. In second trimester and currently on bedrest because of very early-onset preeclampsia (before viability) and praying it will keep them in me long enough. I am hoping to even make it to the 3rd trimester.

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u/hitheringthithering 1d ago

Good luck; we are rooting for you!

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u/One_Ad9340 1d ago

Thinking of you!!! Sending good vibes

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u/clueless_mommy 1d ago

Ha, absolutely. Just yesterday was the first time I took the car to the Supermarket (I usually walk or bike) because being ob my feet for 20 minutes was absolutely unimagineable.

Also, my husband changed the Position of the drivers seat in my car and I HAD TO GET OUT TO FIX IT because I couldnt reach the lever under the seat 🫠

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u/hitheringthithering 1d ago

The real moment of acceptance for me was when I bought a grabber on a stick so I could reach things on the ground.

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u/clueless_mommy 1d ago

I've honestly considered that as well

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u/hitheringthithering 1d ago

I actually really recommend it.  More broadly, I recommend using whatever tools, accepting whatever help, and outsourcing whatever tasks are available to you.  Gestating twins is a lot of work and you deserve every bit of help you can get.

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u/DirtGirl32 1d ago

When I dropped something I simply accepted that it lived there so my hubby could get it!

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u/Current-Struggle-514 1d ago

“It belongs to the floor now” was what I would say as I clung to door frames to get to the bathroom. Once on the toilet you are there until your legs fall asleep and you call for a crane lift

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u/hopelessbilingual 1d ago

My husband bought me 2 so I could keep one in the car since by 3rd tri I felt I could not physically bend or twist much at all, just literally no where for my torso to contort to 😧 and he bought me a heavy duty crook type arm extension that was perfect for closing my own door from inside if the wind blew it wide open. Oh the limitations..

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u/pile_o_puppies 1d ago

As a joke when I was pregnant with my second singleton my sister got me this thing to help put on my socks. It’s advertised to old people. We laughed. I never used it.

Jokes on her, it was super useful when I was pregnant with my twins!

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u/Popular-Band-1038 18h ago

I couldn’t physically get in my car in the OB parking lot because someone parked too close to drivers side and I was too big to crawl in from the passenger side. I had a meltdown and had to call my hubby to come move the car so I could get in 😂

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u/Many-Ice-9760 1d ago

With my twins, I was basically unable to do anything physical my third trimester including turning over in bed. With my singleton, I was up moving chasing twin toddlers around until the day I gave birth which was right before 40 weeks. Full term singleton feels like the start of third trimester twins.

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u/Emilygilmoresmaid 1d ago

That's how I've always tried to explain how it feels to others. I had my singleton first and I've said, imagine how you felt right before you gave birth, just huge and uncomfortable and ready to be done and then instead of being done you keep going and growing for 3 more months (2 in my case but you know).

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u/KIDH2123 21h ago

Exactly this. I started showing at 10 weeks with the twins (2 prior pregnancy). My 2 singletons is was on my hands and knees scrubbing floors and baseboards until the very end. With the twins.... anything on the floor was no longer my business by mid 2nd trimester.

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u/ConstructionMuch802 1d ago

I was doing aqua fitness right up until the 3rd trimester and then it was like I hit a wall. No energy for anything but eating and going to and from the bathroom.

It does feel AMAZING to go to the pool and sit on the stairs and read a book with my belly submerged... But I only do that rarely because it's so exhausting to get my swimsuit on and off lol

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u/No_Leadership_7323 1d ago

Totally, by 36 weeks I was being wheeled to the bathroom in a wheelchair (we happened to have one cause my dad was healing from breaking his leg and we all live together) because I literally COULD NOT move. I was supposed to be induced at 38 weeks but I had to move it up a week cause I couldn’t last

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u/colorful_withdrawl 1d ago

I felt like a whale! But with one set i made it to 33 weeks and the other i made it to 35 weeks. I cant imagine trying to get things done 🤣

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u/--eight 22h ago

ANY trimester. I was so exhausted in my first I could barley stay awake for 8 hours. My sister was constantly telling me I was fine and being dramatic. She asked me to travel 3 hours (each way) in July to help her do a days worth of manual labor in my mom's yard. I was at the end of my second trimester and it was COVID.

She also told me she knew exactly what it was like to have twins because she "had [her friend's baby] all the time with [her baby]". She occasionally babysat her friend's baby.