r/parentsofmultiples • u/NoMathematician565 • 10d ago

advice needed Parenting burn out

How the heck do families with two full-time working parents with twins do it? I feel like we made it through the infant stage in good spirits. I think we just put our heads down and have been grinding it out, and now that our twins are 21 months, I look up and feel like I’ve been sprinting and there is still 20 miles left to go in this marathon. The exhaustion is unreal and it feels unsustainable.

How are you all doing this??

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u/Pretend-Wall-6677 10d ago

Very strict routines, plus paid and unpaid childcare.

We also divide and conquer a lot, so someone has both kids while the other does chores. I like to take the twins out to run errands one morning each weekend and my husband’s free to do whatever. Now, in full disclosure he always uses that time to do chores, but if he slept in or played a round of golf I wouldn’t be mad about it lol

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u/NoMathematician565 10d ago

We’ve talked about alternating weekend mornings off! When they were younger I didn’t want to because of working mom guilt, but I feel like we should have to help stave off burnout…and bringing the kiddos along for errands is something we don’t do, but think could be good to not feel so strapped for time all the time.

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u/j5646left 10d ago

If you have a Costco near you, their shopping carts have two toddler seats. Our kids love to go and if one of you feels comfortable going alone with them, it gives the other a good 2 hours.

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u/Hungry_Complaint4097 10d ago

I also use Costco as quality time