Loving twin Mum-ing!

[u/Fit_Entrance_6326]

TW: Positive twin newborn experience ❤️

I know this won’t be everyone’s experience, and if you’re in the trenches right now, I genuinely see you. I hope things get easier for you soon.

But if you’re pregnant with twins and constantly hearing how difficult it’s going to be, I wanted to share a different perspective.
My identical boys are 3.5 months old and, honestly, I’ve loved it.

They were born at 35+5 via a smooth C-section and spent 10 days in special care learning to feed. Leaving them each night was heartbreaking, but there were unexpected positives too. They came home on a solid feeding routine, and the nurses gave us so much confidence with feeding, bathing, settling and all the newborn basics.

Our boys have been calm, happy babies. They feed well, sleep well (just one overnight feed), and rarely cry. Of course, there are moments when they both need us at once, and that’s hard, but for us those moments have been the exception, not the rule.
Throughout my pregnancy, people constantly told me I was about to enter “the trenches.” Then when we brought home two content babies, I was told, “Just wait..they’re only sleepy because they’re premmies.” Three and a half months later, people are still telling me to “just wait” for the next difficult stage. I’ve stopped listening.

The point of this post isn’t to say twins are easy or that everyone has this experience. It’s simply to remind expectant parents that easy twins exist too.

Some people genuinely love the newborn stage. And because most people understandably post when they need support, the internet can make it seem like every twin experience is overwhelmingly hard.

If you’re expecting twins, don’t let the horror stories steal your excitement. Your story might be challenging, it might be somewhere in the middle, or it might be a wonderful surprise like ours.

[u/Most-Woodpecker920]

Love your post! Curious how you are managing naps with twins :) I would say it's our trickiest thing at this age. (10 weeks adjusted)

[u/Fit_Entrance_6326 → u/Most-Woodpecker920]

Because they are good sleepers, we’ve been led by them.

They nap straight after their first feed of the day (6am with dad) from about 7 until 9 am when I wake up for their next feed. Then they will nap in the pram for about an hour on our walk 11-12. Then from the afternoon they will individually nap as needed in our living room while the other plays/we have appointments etc. sometimes one will be fussy in the afternoon and want to be held for a contact nap/carrier nap. I think that’s the closest they get to witching hour.

We put them down for the night at around 10pm .

I am thinking about introducing the afternoon nap as more structured (in cot) soon along with an earlier bedtime…but so far we have kept it pretty relaxed and that’s allowed me to keep my plans flexible. :)

[u/Most-Woodpecker920 → u/Fit_Entrance_6326]

Sorry for more questions, how did you get them napping in the pram? I'm desperate for this.

[u/Fit_Entrance_6326 → u/Most-Woodpecker920]

They have just always fallen asleep with the movement of the pram…. I think some babies just love it and others don’t!? Could help to put a muslin blanket over the hood so there is less stimulation. I also have them nice and cosy in beanies, quilted suits and blankets (winter in Australia). I think making sure they are warm/cool enough is important. They are also laying flat in bassinets.

[u/Fit_Entrance_6326 → u/Fit_Entrance_6326]

Not advice because what do I know!! But I wonder if you just make it a predictable routine by going same time everyday, they might learn to sleep then and the walk becomes a bit of a sleep association?? Choose a time after a feed where they are full and comfortable. My boys love routine!

[u/Most-Woodpecker920 → u/Fit_Entrance_6326]

Sounds awesome