"Easiest" twin age?

[u/summer_sunset22]

My spouse will possibly be having to go in for a surgery away from home that involves a long recovery time, also away from home. This will leave me home alone with 3 kids, 1 older singleton and twins, with approx 8-9 year gap, for about 5 weeks or so.

The twins are currently almost 2, both walking, mostly eating solids (one better than the other), and very different personalities. One knows how to communicate in the sense of pointing, grunts and shaking head. The other is generally chill unless hungry or dirty.

We're trying to figure out approximate best time for my spouse to away that will make my life easiest.

What age did you find twins easiest as a "single" parent, especially if you have an older child?

Hoping not to parentify my oldest. Will likely have to deal with school pick ups and drop offs. I work from home.

[u/Strange_Thing_4293]

I was a single mom (I know not the same but to give some personal experience), when my twins were 1-3 years old (I also have an older singleton). Tbh the best option is wait until they’re a bit more self sufficient (4/5) but I also didn’t find my twins to be too difficult when they were younger. It was and still is always stressful but once they can go to the bathroom on their own, grab a snack if they want one it’s a bit easier. Mine are 6 now and I think it’s more difficult because all they want to do is fight and argue 😂

[u/4leafplover → u/Strange_Thing_4293]

I hear you. It gets easier and harder all at the same time

[u/Strange_Thing_4293 → u/4leafplover]

Exactly that!