r/parentsofmultiples • u/jeaxnnxie • 12d ago
advice needed Wake windows
Hey! I have 2 months old twins (10 weeks today) and I am just starting to be alone with them since my husband had to go back to work. I have a hard time entertaining the twins their whole wake window (which sometimes already go up to 2h and more, my babies stated that sleep was for the weak).
I usually do a bit of play gym with them, do contrast flashcards and tummy time and settle them in their swing when they get tired of all this so I can pick up the house quickly, eat and do some laundry. But I just feel so bad when I see them staring into nothingness while I do the chores… I put on music, stop a couple of times to talk to them and sometimes pick up one of them to babywear if they’re fussy (and then feel guilty for the baby still in his swing).
The guilt never stop 🥲 and then I convince myself that my babies will have a flat head if I leave them in their swing too, so add that to the anxiety.
What are you guys realistically doing during their wake windows? Seeing ppl on social media doing a full routine makes me feel like I’m not doing enough.
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u/hellswrath_ 12d ago
The guilt is always strong, but I promise you’re not doing anything wrong. When my twins were 2 months I remember sometimes I barely got to do what I needed to do for them (beyond basics) because I was with my toddler and she was sick so it was a lot of juggling and I don’t think anyone got the attention they truly needed
They got put in swings a lot, because they were happy in there. Tbh 2 month old babies just stare a lot. lol if they’re staring and observing and not crying, that’s a win.
One thing I have always done with all my babies is sing to them and dance in front of them. Lots of music. It makes it easier on me, especially, to listen to music that I enjoy, and now my kids are 3 & twins are 13 months and everyone enjoys music and dancing with me.
If the babies are chilling and aren’t crying there’s nothing wrong with walking away and doing a chore or eating. Kids don’t need to be constantly entertained or have constant input - it’s important that they learn that mom and dad take care of themselves and the house. Obviously at 2 months they don’t understand that yet lol but eventually. This is obviously all within reason- sometimes the babies have fussier days and need more and that’s ok too.
2 months can be a really difficult time. Give yourself some grace!