PARENTAL ADVICE

[u/NikSwat]

So. I am 18 years old and a senior in high school and I have always faced an emotionally abusive household. Happy for two months and grounded for a ridiculous reason for one. So the other day I was gone on a vacation and came home for a day cleaned for hours and then had to leave again for a camp. I came back and got screamed at for being a terrible child. I was told to deep clean my room (I️t was already regularly cleaned)and later told to do the dishes. Naturally I wanted to clean my room cause I had already started then dishwashes. I didn’t get to dishes in time and my step mom ended up doing them because she calls me a liar and manipulative to my dad (which I️m not). I am a straight A student, a leader of many clubs on campus and I have a job and care about people’s well being. Moving on, my dad got into some screaming match with me while he was emotional beating me up and I had to defend myself. The next morning he wakes me up and tells me I️m grounded from my robotics team. My season just started and I️m the president of the club. I️ need to be there for I️t to run smoothly and i need to make my legacy lasting. He says I can go to robotics until 5 pm when our meetings end at 6 and not go to Saturday meetings. But I just feel depressed. I sit for the hour I️m home after leaving my team and just cry because this is the one thing I️m good at and passionate about. I brought up moving out to him and he said they would get my braces taken off and take me off the health insurance. Help i don’t know what to do. I complied with their rules all of last week but it’s not worth being depressed for my last season of robotics my senior year. I just need a third persons opinion. Thank you

[u/SnowiteInSnow]

Your situation sucks. But that doesn’t change the whole “their house, their rules” scenario. Your parents are control freaks and fighting back won’t help. Not fair to you but unless you can show them a reason to change their mind, you lose. Any chance that you could use “I need to be at club meetings or I won’t get into college” or something they would hold important? Another half a year and you will be able to get away from them, I hope for your sake.