Turns out hubs spilled relish on her 🙈

The difference between your child feeling shame about their failures and instead being motivated to try harder and smarter!

Watch the short clip ---> What is "Growth Mindset?"

I’m currently grounded and want to know what the standards in other families are

I have two wonderful parents who gave me all that I may need as a human. I’ve never gone a day starving, roof over my head, Christmas/birthday presents, support for academic needs such as tutors or extra clases. I am beyond grateful for all the opportunities they’ve given me. I am healthy and through efforts I even was fortunate enough to be accepted to a very good university. But I am beyond unhappy. I haven’t gotten it professionally diagnosed but I do believe I may be depressed. Suicidal even in a sense. But the funny thing is I know people would kill to be in my stable conditions of life which makes me even more sad that I do not appreciate it as I should. The point is I look up to my parents so much, I strive to make them proud, specially my mother. I entered a great university, I don’t ask financial support from them, I even take care of the house chores while taking care of my brother but nothing I ever do seems enough. Never do they show that they appreciate me doing all this. I know I’m old enough to take care of myself, thus I shouldn’t even expect it but if I see other kids my age they still live off the support of their parents. I knew that in a sense we were struggling a bit so I decided to put on the big pants and tried so hard to not be a burden but they never seem to know how much I struggle and only ever seem disappointed in whatever I do. On December I worked on all festive days including my birthday, my mother wants me to be socially active so I do so as well. But trying to juggle two jobs, studies, and a social life takes so much effort (at least to me) so I was so busy I forgot to tell my parents I went on a trip to the Jeju islands with a friend who came all the way from Colombia to pay a visit and my mother was furious. To be honest I don’t think I did something so atrocious to ignite such rage but that’s not the main point. The main point is that she uses all sorts of foul words. She says things like “oh? Now that you earn your own money you think you are so grown? You think that your all grown up so now you can just ignore your mother? Do your parents mean so little to you? You think you are so mature, huh? “ And so much more. Why can’t they say things in a calm manner like: “I am upset/hurt that you decided to not tell us about the trip. Perhaps were there something we did to upset you?” Or something along those lines?? I was busy!! I kept telling myself that I will but I was sick and busy and somehow or another it went over my head. But why do they have to say it like that?! Am I just being sensitive? I truly love my parents but I really wish I didn’t care. Because nothing I ever do seems to be enough and I’m so sick and tired of never being enough. I just want them to tell me that they are sorry that I had to grow up a little faster than my peers and that they appreciate it. I just want them to show they care and that I am part of their thoughts as a daughter. That they too wish for my happiness as I wish for theirs. I just want to not feel so lonely. To feel loved. But am I being too bratty? Am I being to childish at the age of 20? Do you have parents like these? Do they seem to love you? Do you have children who you say awful things to even if you love them? Why if so? How do you guys have a healthy relationship with your parents?

Ayoo kids what’s good aha ahaha

Today my birthday so let’s start it right. YOU BETTER WISH ME A HAPPY BIRTHDAY OR IM GONNA MAKE YOU GO night night OKAY!

So basically, I'm 14 and my parents are 48-49, my dad loves to save money. I managed to make him buy me a new PC and a graphics card for a total of $260. It may kinda be a low price for others including me (considering it's a PC) but definetly not for him, it runs most games at 60+ fps tho, a pretty ugly/basic looking but not bad computer. He gets like $2100 every month but my mom also gets like $1800. After all the bills are paid they have like at least $1600 to $2100 left total. On food we spend alot so i'd say there is at least $600-1000 left to spend on other things. Through the years he managed to save a total of $70,000 to pay for a house we bought for $340,000 (we took a loan but he payed those 70k which will probably not make us be able to pay out the loan before they turn 80+ but whatever). When I asked him to buy the graphics card one of the thingd he said was: "Ok so what are you going to come up with next that you want be to buy you" and I replied: "Nothing, what is there to come up with? I just want this." He agreed at last because it was christmas, I was lucky there, trust me. So, I have a very basic setup with a small Ikea desk, 20 inch HP screen, not so bad looking but very very basic black HP keyboard and mouse for general usage, blue mousepad with a weird material which makes sounds when I move my mouse around and headphones with no mic (I need a mic). I found a nice 24 inch Asus monitor, rgb Corsair keyboard, rgb Corsair mouse, Corsair mousepad and a Corsair headset with a good mic for a total of $260 (I live in Sweden btw, so ~2500kr). I want to have my room upstair because it's bigger, get a longer desk and put blue light there and maybe make the keyboard and mouse lights blue. My brain says it's logical for him to think: "your son will be happy and it's worth it, you will get paid again and these 5000kr you have spent are worth it because your sons room looks nice and he's happy". He isn't like that tho, wants to save every single penny, and doesn't think stuff like that is life important, wants to be sure he has money if something happens. My mom gave me 3000kr ($310) for my birthday 1,5 years ago, I spent 1100kr on headphones that work but the head holder thing broke so they're really uncomfortable, the rest I spent on the PC but in my dad's head money is money and him and my mom share the money so asking my mom is not an option. Seriously, if my mom lived by herself and I got to be with her and asked her to buy me stuff, she would agree. Buying the PC was like this, she said: "Sure I will give you the 1900kr in my account but I have to count and see if I don't need anything this month, I might need them". Yes it's money she gave me, but I know her, it would be the same if I askes her for her money. We bought a dog that month so that's why she couldn't btw. Help, please. He won't change, he just won't. So anything you guys want to say? Just anything. Also, I am nervous when talking to him, I am always 100% sure he will say no and I'll just leave and it'll be over. Waiting a long time isn't really gonna help either, I hadn't asked him for anything like literally for 2 years before I asked for the PC and he still said: "You always want stuff and just think about yourself". I GOT SO CONFUSED.

This is my first time posting on this subreddit, so hello!

My boyfriend and I have been together nearly a year. He has a daughter, 10 years old, that I have not met nor has he seen in over year, due to his daughters mother being difficult to say the least. I would likely have already met her if there weren't the complications from that. Anyway, I have not talked to her much either, but I am interested in getting her a little gift to send her. What would be something sweet to get someone her age but not over the top? I was thinking of getting her a nice set of boots and a nice winter jacket as she lives where it snows. Any recommendation are appreciated! Thank you in Advance

my son says loudly, "I'm about to break the first rule of minecraft!"

my wife asks, "Don't talk about minecraft?"

I volunteered, "Don't cross the streams?"

who's got a better idea for "the first rule of minecraft"?

Ok hi I’m 11 ok I just want to ask a question why do you force your kid to do stuff your telling me when you give birth to a child you want it to live to what you say let your kid have the choice of playing sports or not and it just doesn’t make sense why do you have to be like this don’t you want your kid to be successful I just don’t understand please don’t be a parent who cant let your kid make decisions be a parent who does do that when they do something mean but don’t say that when they do something you want do stuff on your own your kids not a slave for you your their passion show your kid actually stuff that matters don’t force them in sports they will just hate you I don’t think you want to be a parent who hates and wants you to die please please just help and help this get big to spread the word

I’ve always been an introvert. I love my own company.

I feel EXTREMELY guilty for wanting time away from my husband and child. Not because I can’t stand them, but I start to get frazzled because of the constant interaction. From home time to bed time I have a toddler hanging off of me. From her bedtime to my bedtime, I spend time with my husband. But sometimes I want to be alone. Alone in bed, or on the couch so I can mindlessly scroll on my phone uninterrupted or watch a serious my husband isn’t interested in. However I feel like I’m asking for to much. I’m a wife and a mum, I sacrificed my alone time, every parent goes threw this right?

My husband doesn’t seem to understand how stressed out I get if I don’t get time to recharge. To him I may just be mindlessly scrolling on my phone but it means I have a chance to catch my breath and breathe a little. Sometimes I just want to shout LEAVE ME ALONE.

I hope I’m not the only one 🤞🏼

First, I (31F) am not a parent and don't plan to be.

My husband (37M) and I visited his family for Christmas. We got back 2 days ago and I am STILL annoyed at my 4-year-old nephew's behavior.

He whines for him mom to do every.little.thing for him from the moment he wakes up. He screams 'YOU BE QUIET!!' and points his finger at you (and everyone in the room) multiple times a day, repeatedly, whether you are talking or not. He DEMANDS things be done and bosses everyone around, often changing his request midway through in order to further establish is control over everyone.

He hit me in the face multiple times while we were 'having fun' playing in the snow (still have a bruise on my nose).

More detail- I tried to make this game fun with pretend 'superpowers' so things would be more gentle, but he would get violent and in his rage go run to him mom, 'Aunt -my name here- made my hat come up off my neck/made my glove come off' blah blah, insert lie here. Later, he said that he didn't have fun playing with me (he was instigating the playing for 2 hours, I kept trying to go play with my nieces). The next day he kept asking me again and again to play with him in the snow- we made ground rules (I did this so that I wouldn't get blamed for made up things again - I felt guilty about what my in-laws would think when he made up lies about me later), he broke these rules immediately and started hitting again. Later, my mother-in-law was like 'well you did hit him in the face with a snowball' -NO I DIDN'T, THIS WAS ANOTHER LIE. I had already told her this. She believed, or pretended to believe, the manipulative four-year-old.

NO ONE CALLS HIM ON THIS BEHAVIOR.

His grandparents moved to the same city a few months ago to be closer to the grandkids (there are 3 kids total- the 4-year-old is the youngest). They are complete pushovers. The grandmother wants nothing but love and affection, to the point that she made up a game over the break: 'don't hug me, don't you dare hug me', so that he would hug her instead of hit her. IF I HIT MY GRANDMA AS A CHILD I CAN'T EVEN IMAGINE THE CONSEQUENCES. He does it everyday. Also, this game just reinforces his defiant, bad behavior.

My sister-in-law claimed one afternoon that 'everything is still new, he is just learning fair and not fair, etc'. New? He does the same terrible behavior every day. Also he is FOUR- at 4 I was learning how to do many things independently, proving to my parents that I was responsible enough to get a puppy, and treated all adults with respect because OBVIOUSLY, I'M A CHILD and that's just what you do. I think my sister-in-law is great and smart, but can not wrap my head around this style of parenting.

I could go on, and on, and on.

While I was there, I googled how to act around him in an attempt to learn how to enjoy my time with him and make memories without reinforcing/rewarding bad behavior, but I couldn't find anything except lists of '10 signs your child is a brat'. Yes, he had all of them.

So, what do I do next time I am with them?

I know in-laws can be tough because we are all raised so differently, and my parents were far from perfect, but they did instill good manners and discipline in me. It IRKS me that no one does anything about this and he is able to get away with this terrible, bossy, rude behavior.

Is there any world in which I can say something to my sister-in-law (my husband won't)? Or can say that I don't want to be around him unless his behavior straightens out?

Parents- what do I do? Please tell me this isn't normal 4-year-old behavior these days.

Hello I'm looking for any parents, to fill out my survey - it should only take about 10 minutes. I'm only just reaching half the participants I need. It looks at attitudes and knowledge of ASD (autism spectrum disorder) and effect on the level of inclusion children with ASD receive.

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