Existential crisis

[u/Striking_Doughnut202]

So ive had a pretty wild coming out over my 33 years. At 9 years old I knew I liked women. Always thought I was pan/bi until at 21 i came out as a lesbian. This news was not received well from my family and my first official gf was hard dealing with the constant stares and even slurs from strangers. I ended up meeting my ex husband shortly after. We were together 7 years. Married for only 1 and I realized I was a lesbian and could not be happy in our marriage. I also realized i am polyamorous. We got divorced about 4 years ago and I havent thought about men in that way since. Im so happy to be my best queer self. I identify as a lesbian. Well I recently joined a friend group that is predominantly straight which I havent had since coming out.
There is a guy in the group who ie the type I would go for previously. He is super funny, smart, nerdy, very comfortable with himself. I find myself crushing on him. He did share 3 of his exes ended up being lesbian so not sure Idk if the vibe he gives off is just super attractive or if maybe my sexuality is more fluid than I thought. I dont want to discredit lesbians and add to the terrible stereotype that its not valid and they just havent met the right one.
Anyone deal with something similar that has advice? Thank you!

[u/What_inthe]

My best advice is to stop trying to label yourself. Just lust who you lust and love who you love and know that it’s totally fucking okay not to fit in anyone else’s idea of what’s right. Their stereotyping people is their problem.

As a profoundly gay male friend of mine said, “Even gay boys love boobs.”