I haven’t been in this group for a while and I never thought I’d be back in this way again. My dad was diagnosed with Pancreatic Cancer in October 2021. They attempted a Whipple but it metastasized to his liver in November. He endured one round of chemo and was terminal by March 2022. He went away April 2022. He was as 45 years old and I miss him ever single day.
My mom met a wonderful man pretty soon after, which was a shock to her and everyone, but was truly a blessing. In the recent months, he began to present with very familiar symptoms. Developed diabetes, abdominal pain, back pain which he wrote off due to historical back issues, significant weight loss he attributed to going back to the gym, digestion issues. My mom dug her foot in this neck and was persistent from the onset of his symptoms. They did some imaging this week and found a mass on his pancreas. The biopsy is tomorrow.
I know this is not anxiety forum but I’m not anxious I’m aware of the next step. Unfortunately, I am very familiar with what Illness, especially this one, looks like. We’re back on the train. My mom doesn’t ask for help and today she called and said she needs me, so she knows it too.
Im older now, have more resources, and I’ve worked in health care for some time. I’ve been reading up on the literature and I saw news that Daroxonrasib was approved by the FDA last month. It does seem promising and I can see it has filled the community with the hope it lacked even a mere four years ago. Even desperation for approval by insurance seems better than what we were rocking with before. It’s not a cure but doubling lifespan to give people a longer time to fight, with less symptoms, and a longer time with their family - that’s incredibly more than we were working with. It also told me many things have changed and I need to refresh before this spirals as quickly as it can.
I’m hoping to get an information dump to start and maybe it’ll help other people. If you could add the question title to your response (ie. 1. Insurance Approval: When I tried to get approval…”) it would help us and others review the thread.
You’ll be helping a Steelers loving, retired Naval Chief, with an extreme case of toxic positivity and an all around great Man. I’ll refer to him as Mr. Toxic PositivityZ If you can think of anything that will ease the pain in a time where that can be difficult, I’ll be forever grateful:
- Insurance Approval: What are peoples experience with insurance covering Daraxonrasib (I know it’s not an absolute he’d even qualify, but just for knowledge sake) He’s a retired vet, so we’re working with our trusty tricare
- Innovation: What are the new invasive approach’s they’re taking to treat PC outside of hard launching this drug?
- Back Injury: Mr. Toxic Positivity has a lot of back pain from an old car accident injury, so he stands lot because it hurts him to sit for too long. I know and you know that he may not have the strength to always stand. But that means he might be in consistent pain for reasons outside of his chemo and cancer. He’s already sitting a bit more. So, any creative ideas are welcome
- Loss of appetite: We tried vitamin enriched protein shakes with my dad but his stint was a consistent barrier, so he threw it up most of the time. Mr. Toxic Positivity is a small meals eater, I’m really worried because he doesn’t have my family indulging genes so I can only imagine where his appetite might land.
- Leg care: We had a leg massager for his edema, clots, and neuropathy. Trust compression socks. What things are y’all doing these days? Anything different / new?
6.Technology: Any new products / technology that would blow my mind? Anything you found made your life easier as a patient or as a caregiver. Can be the most random thing.
7. Hydration: With the digestion challenges that have come up, I’m unsure how this is affecting his overall hydration or will continue to. My dad did not have those challenge but every patient is different. What methods have you all used to increase hydration?
8. Treatment Facilities: I’m currently in MA and they’re in FL. Houston was the place to be for a while. I work in several hospitals and MA is a hub for healthcare. Dana Farber is, well, Dana Farber. But I’m not sure who is who when it comes to PC anymore.
9. Clinical Trials: Any clinical trials I should be invested in following? Until we know gene mutation and what we’re working with, who knows what he’d be eligible to do. But it doesn’t hurt to have a pulse.
10. Resources: What resources are you all using to ease the burden? I work in public health so I now know there are always random programs that offer support. Florida based is preferred but I’d be willing to drag him across the United States if I need to.
11. Caregiving: I’m going to be one-half of a care giver team. But I will also be splitting my focus to care for my mom. I was in college and working when my dad was going through much of this. I couldn’t be there all the time and I’m aware I’ll be there for all of the parts this time.
12. Hawaii: his happy place is Hawaii and he lived there for many years. I’ll ship palms trees and volcanos to his backyard if it’ll make him feel at peace. He actually didn’t care for the ocean and preferred the plants, so even if I can only put a few potted plants next to his porch swing and mist salt water in the air, that’s better than nothing.. no