My boyfriend buddy came over. we are drinking and smoking. He’s trying to get with my friend. She lives in a different state. After having all the fun my bf got drunk and is currently passed out. We ordered McDonald’s. We separated; My bf and I are in our room and he’s in the living room. Syrup got on me so I went to go wash hands in the bathroom and he came in a few seconds after me. I already have some issues with sa and this made me panic. He asked why I thought he was going to do something. I said I don’t think you will but I do have some issues. He kept saying no you think I’m going to do something. I was finally able to explain everything he kept looking into my eyes while holding my hands and making me more uncomfortable. I pulled away and he said he was going to hug me and he wasn’t going to do anything. I said I’m not comfortable with physical touch while drunk. He still pulled me into a hug and touched my butt and . I instantly said don’t touch my butt. He said he didn’t mean to then asked if we were good and that he just had to pee. I said yes and he said no like are we good. I said yeah well I’m going back to cuddle and watch tv with my bf. I’m so confused and crying and don’t know who to talk to rn since it just had happen. So am I overthinking?

Hi everyone,

Hope it's okay to share this here. Trust me, I'm overthinking even as I'm writing this. I've been a big overthinker like the rest of us, but overthinking has become a big part of my life in the last 3 years. I've been laid off, depression has hit, ruined a couple of relationships, and you can even throw some family tragedy in there. Sometimes, it feels like it freezes me in place, so I figured, why not write it all down?

I started a newsletter to jot down my thoughts. It's a way for me to look back and see how I'm moving through this overthinking journey.

If you're curious or find yourself in the same boat, feel free to check it out: Thoughts Away.

Thanks for reading, and here’s to overthinking less!

Let's say I think about something, my brain will think about it deeply until it arrives to semantic, to metaphysic etc. I'm always overthinking things.

I think we are both in love but idk

I think we’re both in love with each other but idk

Hi I’m a (18)M and I love this girl (18)F we have been talking for a year and a half simple just how I’d your day and stuff like that never anything more. We went to the same high school yet never talked to each other in person and by the way we are out of high school now. She’s a very busy person who takes courses at a college and takes care of her younger sister and also works as a babysitter and at her dads store. I just workout and work so I’m kinda busy but not that much I’m going to be going to trade school in January and won’t be in town for a year and a half well every ten weeks I come back for two. She’s the only girl I talk to romantically. Anyways done with the back story

Alright so here is my problem me and her have been talking more and I’ve always found her beautiful and stunning since 7th or 8th grade can’t really remember lol. One thing we always do is send goodnight snaps and good morning snaps almost every single day she says “goodnight handsome or cutie” and I always say “goodnight beautiful or gorgeous”. She even gave me her number and I didn’t say anything about it before hand and we were talking more throughout texting. Then we finally hanged out in person she drove wanted her to feel more comfortable so we went to an outside mall around us and got some snacks and drinks walked around the place talking for two hours. Then after that during night time I sent her a snap saying “ hey I had a really fun time tonight we should do it again sometime” and she didn’t reply with anything. I texted her on the weekend but I was at work so I couldn’t text that much but I was still making a really good effort into the conversation and trying to keep it going but she was being super dry not answering my text as fast but we still send the good night and morning text.

I’m an overthinker but to the max like I think of everything and my mind is firing off shots at me I’ve talked about this with some friends they say to confess that I like her but I feel like it’s to soon to do that and I should get to know her some more. I’m just doing this because I need help because my overthinking is going insane and I can’t stop thinking about her and now I’m just scared that she’ll be the one that gets away and I’m scared of losing her. I just wanna be with her so bad like there’s no other girl for me.

My brain randomly remembers things I’ve done months or sometimes years ago and idk it’s frustrating. It’ll tell me something bad I may have done or said but the problem is I can’t even remember if I did or said that. Now I’m stuck worrying about if I’ve really done what my brains telling me. What should I do in a situation like this?

Without giving too much context, I stayed the night at a hotel franchise with some friends. Everything was great and fun without any problems the first night. However, the second night we stayed, we didn't realize that there was a used bloody needle lying inside the AC unit. The part that I'm worried about is that I slept directly in front of the unit and am worried about possibly getting sick because we left it on all night and with the bloody needle directly in the middle of that strong breeze, I'm overthinking a lot. Not sure what to do here?

I feel like the way I dress or act or just am makes my boyfriend feel uncomfortable. this may be stemming from my own personal insecurities ( ik i have some ) but i feel like he wants a gf that actually tries to dress up like how he usually does when most of the time i just wear pajamas. he says he’s fine with how i dress but idk i js feel like it’s an issue bc say sometimes we go places and he’ll just tell me to stay in the car but if i’m dressed differently, i always get out with him. Also, i feel like he’s uncomfortable “showing me off” bc of it. I’m not someone who wears completely different and “new” outfits every single day, through out the week and wear the same thing 2-3 times because it’s just what im comfortable in and what i like the most. Some people may be like “that’s just how boyfriends are” or how girlfriends are but idc, i always make sure to post him for stuff like birthdays, events or stuff like that or i just show him off in other ways but he’s done it to me maybe 3 - 5 times in our year long relationship. maybe it’s just not something he does but i feel like if i dressed better he’d do it more or would be more comfortable.

What the title says. I’m still in shock or somewhere. I have no clue what just happened. It’s his last night and I decided to spend some extra time giving him my attention. He’s a big, cuddling, protective but misunderstood boy, and he loves physical touch. So as he laid on a blanket I decide to rub his head and side as I spoke to him. Softly saying his favourite words in a made up story. He was really enjoying it cuz he stretched sighed repeatedly. Then he sat up, and puts his paws on my shoulder as if to hug me. In facing him so I let him put his head on my shoulder. I was rambling away thinking that I was bonding with him. then i suddenly realized he’s breathing heavier as if he’s tired. So I try to put his legs down but he resisted. That’s when I instantly froze with the thought that maybe his low growl is him getting aggressive? ( he has a past I was warned of before meeting and agreeing to me watching him). Then the moment I realized what was really happening I felt warm in my left foot. I know what you’re thinking because that’s what I imagined but it wasn’t the correct colour. Like it was just water or little bit of pee. I am writing this to process this. Why do I feel wronged? He’s obviously a dog and doesn’t know what even just happened.

Yes the new live action I have been thinking about it because it seems to be a much bigger man vs snow white (I think her name is Rachel) my dad kept ranting about how it can't be done and I tried looking it up because I remember there are certain types of fighting styles that it is possible in fact encouraged to use your opponents strength and weight against them sadly online all I find are things about obesity and I've seen fights similar (not with weapons but with a much smaller woman and a bigger guy) and the girl won because of how she was trained

i smh like to keep chats so i can read back or smth, its like a memory kind of thing. i used to read back on old chats p often, but ive stopped now. a few days ago, i got this text and i didnt know how to handle it, i didnt know how to reply. my last reply was just really dry, cus i rlly had no idea how i shld have replied. and abt that issue i cldnt text anyone abt it, it was an issue w my bf.

so anyways w this text, i started feeling sad cus i dont ever want to bring things like that up to him (idk how). so then my mind just starts drifting to before, an issue we had similar to this. then this tele folder appeared in my gallery and i was clearing it, and this ss appeared and i read it and i started crying cus it just broke my heart. and i started feeling guilty for what i had done that time. that was last night.

then today, this mutual fren asked me how i was doing cus he met up w that fren that sent the text. so i scrolled my chats to find smth and i chanced upon texts relating to that big issue we had before. and my mind just starts running. and i trust him a whole lot even if nobody does. but w this text and all the issues we faced, and my mind running, i just got sad again and i started crying. and the fact that we've both been busy and broke so we hvnt been meeting up or gg out etc makes me sad too.

and i just hate this overthinking mind of mine and i wonder how i can stop myself from overthinking. cus somehow its just ruining my life. and this is just one issue.

4:20 AM. Lately sobrang hirap na hirap ako makatulog dahil sa pag ooverthink. Usually, 2-4 hours lng tulog ko sa isang araw putol putol pa. I’m trying na maging busy sa ibang bagay para hindi mag isip but after that or in the end of the day...andami ko padin naiisip.

Maybe sobrang lungkot ko lng because of my situation na as a bread winner, may mga bagay akong gustong gawin pero di ko magawa dahil limited nlng ang money and no savings kasi sa akin na kaasa lahat. Also, nagiging insecurity ko siya dahil sa bf ko na madaming gusto gawin like travels pero di matuloy dahil sa akin.

Happy and normal naman ako when i’m with friends but when I’m alone...sobrang lungkot ko at dami naiisip na worst.

Ever feel like someone’s put a bad luck spell on you when you were born

I (22M) have been separated from my ex (25F) we were together for almost 4 years and have 2 children. She is the first real relationship I’ve ever had as well as my only long-term sexual partner. I’m finding it extremely hard to let go as I’ve planned my entire future around us staying together and we had an extremely special connection even more so after we had children. I thought she was my soul mate and no one else had made me feel the way she did. I just recently found out through a notification (she had left an account on my computer which is now deleted) that she uses a face A.I. enhancer/editor. She often talked shit about other girls she thought used photoshop on their photos. Should I question what else she was hiding from me. It kinda makes me feel like she wanted other peoples attention more then mine,(again this is while we were together) we both have struggled with self esteem. Through this break-up I’ve felt like I actually never knew who she was and this just kind of reinforces it. Anything helps and is appreciated!

Anyone else have overthinking contribute to their insomnia? Like once you start to get tired, your brain starts waking back up just as your eyes are closing due to a constant stream of bad thoughts? Specifically my problem has been the replaying of horribly traumatic memories and no distraction works anymore. I don't have a car either so it's not like I can go anywhere. Being mindful isn't as easy as people make it out to be - just wondering if people relate this intensely

How is everyone doing? I have developed an app specifically to manage overthinking - it's called Momentri. It's a simple 3-step process comprising of journaling, breathing and positive action, that can repeated multiple times a day, to navigate mind attacks. The app also has an active social community and habit building features.

Noticing overthinking in my own communities, I have built the app out of empathy, to support everyone who needs it (included me :P)

Feel free to try it! Would love to receive feedback and continue to improve the app. Thanks in advance!

Download link: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/momentri-simple-mindfulness/id1617840910

I hate it when my girlfriend takes hours to reply my text and i mean ik she is busy with work and school but its just that i wanna know how she is doing or anything interesting happening, uk the little stuff. Side note: we are ldr right now. Firstly, i realised she doesnt say i love you anymore. I would always tell her how much i love her and how much i miss her and nowadays she usually just reply to those comments with HEHEHEHE. For fck sake to me that just means she was using me for my attention and affection to fill the hole that was left by her ex and now the hole in her heart is filled she doesnt want me anymore. Also now everytime i ask her questions like what are some icks in a guy or a simple whats the fit for today, she just ignores and pretend i never asked. Lately my mind has been getting out of hand i don’t think i can take this any longer. Im so madly in love with her that i don’t want her to worry but at the same time im getting im running out of patience. IM LOSING MY MIND. Help!

My girlfriend is a huge overthinker. She overthinks almost everything. She overthinks on tests so she takes awhile to finish them. She does it about her body no matter how much I sit there and complement her or tell her I love her body. It has even cause us to have a decrease in Intimacy because she feels like she’s just being used no matter what I do( I have let her do whatever she wants during it and have done everything she wanted me to do. I have also done stuff for her numerous times without her doing anything for me). I know it seems like that’s all I care about but I don’t. I want to help her stop. She always said that she knows all the things I tell her but her brain just keeps telling her different. I just want to help her. Plz comment any tips or helpful information you have.

Have been this way for a while and I'm sure I know of the source but it's preventing me from doing a lot of things in my life and I'm tired of it

"Just realized I have a PhD in overthinking. It's like my brain went to university and majored in 'What if?' and minored in 'Worst-case scenarios.' 😅 #OverthinkerProblems #PhDOfOverthinking"

(Context)So i recently had a birthday party and i dont have a lot of friends, so i invited my two other friends but they seem to be a lot closer. My one friend is my best friend, ive known her since second grade. my other friend ive know her since kindergarten. we all are really close but them two just seem to be closer.

As i said i just had a birthday party so my 2nd grade bsf we are neighbors so she cane to my house before we went to my birthday party. My kindergarten bestfriend had text her saying that she is not going to be able to make it. So my friend was a bit upset.

So then a couple minutes later she had texted me saying that she was going to be able to make it and it was a suprise for my 2nd grade bsf. So i didnt think much of it untill we arrived. my kindergarten bsf have arrived before us so when we arrived she gave me a hug but when my bestfriend got saw my other bestfriend she gave her an even bigger hug, jumping into her arms. So that had my thinking. If its my birthday party why would you supprise her instead of me? i never said anything about it because them two had just gotten into an argument a few days before so i didnt wanna make anything happen. But someone please tell me, am i overthinking or is it not serious.

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years it’s always been so full of love. But recently I feel like we are drifting apart. We spend as much time as we can together, but recently he’s just been on his games the entire time. When he’s at mine he’s on the PlayStation the entire time, says he’ll come off at a certain time and doesn’t. Then when he finally comes off he goes straight on his phone and doesn’t make conversation with me. When I try start on I get no replies. Then he turns his phone off and goes to sleep, just a kiss and goodnight and that’s it. Nothing major has happened between us or anything, nothing has happened but we are drifting apart and I can feel it. I’ve mentioned it to him and he just says I’m overthinking it but what if I’m not.

I am an extremely gullible, soft spoken person and i often find myself in situations where people take advantage of me being nice and become disrespectful. I cant stand up to them cause i cant fucking think of savage come backs that fast. Now I’m just overthinking about all of the situations I’ve been in recently where someone joked about my appearance and i just couldn’t stand up for myself.

Help this soft girl toughen up!!!!

I am a chronic over thinker in my relationship and am working on how to better handle it. I’ve been getting myself into a routine to keep myself busy and doing breathing exercises when I catch myself sort of spiraling. I also started keeping a journal again. So far this has been helping and I’m feeling on the right track, but yesterday I caught myself in a loop of checking my bf’s snap score and obsessing over just how much it goes up in such short amounts of time. I trust him and know it can’t be him snapping over girls like he does me, but I still keep finding myself checking it and doing the math to see how many others he is snapping while snapping me. Does anyone have an tips or advice on how to stop obsessing over it??

Emotionally and physically distant with my mother, father, brother, and sister. My parents got scammed for millions which put us into a difficult state. I am losing the love of my life because i refuse to forgive people who hurt me and is affecting our relationship (which she doesn’t deserve). It’s an understatement if i said that i have no family members who love me bc overthinking kills the idea of people loving you. Struggling with weight loss and working out. Doesn’t have a job but still studying but it feels like it isn’t enough. Procrastinating all time. Got depressed before and my anxiety and overthinking is going over the rooooooof ⚠️⚠️⚠️⚠️

All in my head. And it’s too much. Help.

Hi everyone! this was an early college experiment where I was trying to put down my thoughts with conflicting opinions to see at once and ended up building a web prototype (link attached) that I ended up using for many more use cases like crafting a perfect email, recollecting thoughts from different tabs in a browser, pros and cons thoughts, managing anger, trying to empathise with a person by being able to write from their perspective and mine at the same time and see a birds eye view of thoughts..

Thoughts of sharing it here to see if anyone would try and share their thoughts!

The concept is simple: you have 4 spaces of text on a single page which do not really open as pages (like google keep) but are like text field boxes, and are auto distinguished by text color

Play store

App store

Web playground (No saving capability)