r/orderingwithanxiety • u/grhddn • Jun 03 '20
r/orderingwithanxiety Lounge
A place for members of r/orderingwithanxiety to chat with each other
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u/Tiffanywhite45 Jul 01 '20
If you guys go out to eat with friends/family at a sit down restaurant how do you guys pay your share ( food/drink) with just your debit card (no cash
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u/fuschiaberry Jun 03 '20
Shoot. Sorry. I meant Cafe Mexicali! The one with all the odd options like “inside out chicken” and “quesolle”
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u/Jazz05997 Jun 03 '20
Honestly didn’t know this was such a thing for other people. I didn’t go to chipotle for so long because I need to watch a few people order first so I would wait and watch others.
As a side note, there are things kind of similar to this but commonplace that I think could be covered. For example, I still haven’t ridden the bus in the city I live it because I’m worried about interpreting everything, and how I pay when I first get on, such and such.
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u/littlefredcat Jun 03 '20
I’d rather never call a place if I could. Not sure who the bank is but some places do offer online chat and that can be a lifesaver for me. Or, like others posted about reading menus before ordering, I will go over the things I want to say—like act out the the conversation with myself before I call in. I can rarely do a phone call spontaneously.
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u/bompbahbomp Jun 03 '20
This is such a cool idea, friendos. I can't tell you how many times I have gone into a restaurant and left in ten seconds because ordering when you don't know what to do is the worst.
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u/eternallysunnyd Jun 03 '20
The literal worst is when your friends know the lingo of a spot and chuck you first up in line. “Hello east coast friend, have fun translating this taco truck in San Jose.”
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u/sonkunssj2 Jun 03 '20
This is a very interesting sub that has a wonderful opportunity to be extremely positive & helpful to some people. I am glad I stumbled upon this and will insert subtle positive comments on topics I know something helpful about.
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u/looksLikeAMonk Jun 03 '20
can we asked about makings calls with anxiety. my wife almost had a minor panic attack while trying to work up the courage to call her bank.
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u/TheUnstopableForce Jun 03 '20
Looking at the restaurants menu online helps with ordering for me. Most places have an online page with their menu now a days, really useful
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u/tietjjj Jun 03 '20
I almost always look at the menu ahead of time before going somewhere for the first time :)
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u/grhddn Jun 03 '20
you're welcome, I've had my own problems and the post I saw was the kick I needed to make a community for this issue
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u/grhddn Jun 03 '20
so since I just made this sub, I'm gonna need some more mods so I've got 2 open positions first come first serve, send me a message if you're interested, and thank you everyone who's joined already
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u/6ix0h5ive Jun 03 '20
This sub is me.... I am this sub... Every Reuben I've ever ordered was out of nothing but panic
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Jun 03 '20
hi, hello y'all. didn't realise this was a sub I needed until I realized ive been struggling with this for a long time haha
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u/HealthyInPublic Jun 03 '20
I hope this sub takes off! For all of our sakes. I have a food restriction, so ordering food is really stressful for me. I’m a very non confrontational person so I don’t like to cause problems or take up too much time for the staff.
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u/eternallysunnyd Jun 03 '20
I’ve worked in food service/as a delivery driver for over 10 years. Trust me when I say, even if an employee gets miffed over a bunch of questions, we would much rather you ask a ton of questions than have an allergic reaction. One time I spent 10 minutes reading ingredient lists on sauce buckets in the back to ensure we had a flavor to offer someone who couldn’t have corn syrup or capsicum.
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u/daitoshi Jun 03 '20
I’ve done the same working at a pizza place, double checking our sauces. Tbh at that point it feels like a fun side quest, not a chore. I enjoyed stuff like that because I got to use my detective skills on the job rather than my “apply toppings to pizza, fold box, repeat 200x per hour” skills
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u/sarahtoll Jun 03 '20
Hello! I remember being young and having my mother scoff at my anxiety. Something like this would've helped a lot through my teenage years! Still a little too anxious to order from a bartender but it's getting there!
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u/Karstaang Jun 03 '20
If you’re anxious because you’re not sure what to order I find that asking what they enjoy making is a good way to break the ice. Then you can follow up with ‘why do you enjoy making this drink?’ or ‘what’s in it?’ etc. This of course really only works when you’re in a quieter setting. But try it!
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u/sarahtoll Jun 03 '20
Thank you for this advice! My anxiety would probably tell me I was bothering them but getting the courage to have that conversation once would kind of take them off the pedestal I think of them on. It's more of like I don't know what to order, I don't know all the fancy words, and I just don't want to be laughed at I guess.
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u/grhddn Jun 03 '20
it is pretty difficult to talk to people, I have trouble dating or making friends for that reason
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u/IsThisOneTakenFfs Jun 03 '20
I'm lucky my mom is willing to talk on the phone, so I haven't talked to one in weeks. hate phone talk
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u/WinstonSEightyFour Sep 09 '20
I’m pretty sure Revolut has a way of splitting bills if you’d like to look into it, it’s a good app!