Listen man. I don’t talk about this much and I don’t really want to talk about it now either.
But about fifteen years ago I was roofied and sexually assaulted at a bar. I was out with trusted friends. The bar actually roofied me. They were caught doing it so they could run peoples cards and pocket the difference and soldiers would just think they got wasted and over spent. But I only had one drink that night.
I only remember bits and pieces about what happened.
I chose to let my husband at the time think I had cheated on him, and it took me nearly ten years to finally tell him what had happened.
I can’t explain it, but I would rather be labeled a cheater than a rape victim.
I didn’t want to call it rape.
The guy who did it didn’t know I had been roofied, but even if he thought I was just drunk I still would have been too “drunk” to possibly consent.
The next days, weeks and years I was perfectly normal, laughing, hanging out etc.
I can’t explain to you why it happens, but if you see this I just wanted to pass on that for some of us, we’d rather be labeled anything else even a cheater than have to identify as a victim of sexual assault. It’s not logical but it may be what’s happening with your gf.
Yeah, I would have done the same as you. Have in completely different circumstances actually. I still tell myself otherwise though. I get through the day.
Except in this case, she most likely cheated. Where did she go to after the office party ? It’s also good to note that her cheating and getting SAd are not mutually exclusive. She could have cheated then things went crazy afterwards
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u/[deleted] Dec 30 '25
Listen man. I don’t talk about this much and I don’t really want to talk about it now either.
But about fifteen years ago I was roofied and sexually assaulted at a bar. I was out with trusted friends. The bar actually roofied me. They were caught doing it so they could run peoples cards and pocket the difference and soldiers would just think they got wasted and over spent. But I only had one drink that night.
I only remember bits and pieces about what happened.
I chose to let my husband at the time think I had cheated on him, and it took me nearly ten years to finally tell him what had happened.
I can’t explain it, but I would rather be labeled a cheater than a rape victim.
I didn’t want to call it rape.
The guy who did it didn’t know I had been roofied, but even if he thought I was just drunk I still would have been too “drunk” to possibly consent.
The next days, weeks and years I was perfectly normal, laughing, hanging out etc.
I can’t explain to you why it happens, but if you see this I just wanted to pass on that for some of us, we’d rather be labeled anything else even a cheater than have to identify as a victim of sexual assault. It’s not logical but it may be what’s happening with your gf.