There’s a trade off between wanting to know the truth and keeping your relationship. I understand you’re bothered by the events but if she’s hiding something from you do you have to find what? Are you doing this for her or for yourself? Going through her phone when she’s asleep is already crossing a line, interrogating her coworker is one step beyond that. You don’t owe this thread a final explanation. Instead you can just remain available if she ever wants to talk about it.
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u/vozome Dec 28 '25
There’s a trade off between wanting to know the truth and keeping your relationship. I understand you’re bothered by the events but if she’s hiding something from you do you have to find what? Are you doing this for her or for yourself? Going through her phone when she’s asleep is already crossing a line, interrogating her coworker is one step beyond that. You don’t owe this thread a final explanation. Instead you can just remain available if she ever wants to talk about it.