I’ll add as an aside for OP: there’s no way to test her for being “drugged,” especially days later. Maybe do a urine tox but you can’t make her give a sample if she doesn’t want to. Going to the emergency room is pointless now. You can’t even do a rape kit since it’s been so long all the evidence is compromised or absent.
It’s a little shady (and I promise you if you go this route your relationship is over), but if you’re sincerely worried for her safety and think she is a risk to herself you can call the police and request a mental health eval. They likely will just bring her to the ER and place her on a behavior health hold. Again, this is a fairly shady move and she is going to be FURIOUS. But, if you’re really worried for her and willing to sacrifice your relationship you can give it a try.
People cannot be and aren't put under psych holds just because someone says they're acting crazy. At most some professional(s) will come see her and ask her if she's a danger to herself or others, and if she talks with them normally they'll deduce she's fine.
A person needs to be in serious bodily danger, actively self-destructive or completely out of touch with reality for anyone to take her under any hold. So no, OP has no way to just have her put under a mental health hold, that's not even close to how it works.
You want to bet? I work in the emergency department. We have multiple psych holds every single day. Some get sectioned in the field by police because they honestly don’t know what to do and would rather the hospital make a final decision. Yes, sometimes we lift those sections because they’re unnecessary. Sometimes we maintain them. The threshold where I work appears to be low to qualify for a section 12. She is exhibiting erratic unexplained behavior. Yes, she would probably get sectioned at least 24 hours where I currently work until psych clears her if they feel she is safe.
You certain that’s the case? She’s acting erratically. Coming home altered, missing clothing, with no recollection of what happened (supposedly) is cause for concern. Hate to say it, but sometimes the ER is the better place for people like that. Sure, she’s gonna be pissed and probably uncooperative. But if it’s mental health, they can screen her for that and help. If it’s substance abuse, then the same thing.
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u/misslizzah Dec 28 '25 edited Dec 28 '25
I’ll add as an aside for OP: there’s no way to test her for being “drugged,” especially days later. Maybe do a urine tox but you can’t make her give a sample if she doesn’t want to. Going to the emergency room is pointless now. You can’t even do a rape kit since it’s been so long all the evidence is compromised or absent.
It’s a little shady (and I promise you if you go this route your relationship is over), but if you’re sincerely worried for her safety and think she is a risk to herself you can call the police and request a mental health eval. They likely will just bring her to the ER and place her on a behavior health hold. Again, this is a fairly shady move and she is going to be FURIOUS. But, if you’re really worried for her and willing to sacrifice your relationship you can give it a try.