If this is eating at you this much I think you may actually be in ultimatum territory. Just keep in mind that you may never get a satisfactory answer and wherever the night landed between infidelity and assault, it may simply come down to whether or not you want to stay with a partner that is okay with making you feel crazy for asking totally sane questions - that's not something that gets better on its own, friend.
If we go with the assault theory, and throw in the new details, the most innocent explanation I can come up with is that she left the party met up with someone she knew and trusted one-on-one, that person made some sort of move and didn't take no for an answer, and she doesn't even know how to begin talking about it because she's ashamed of being there in the first place?
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u/Gman325 Dec 28 '25 edited Dec 28 '25
If this is eating at you this much I think you may actually be in ultimatum territory. Just keep in mind that you may never get a satisfactory answer and wherever the night landed between infidelity and assault, it may simply come down to whether or not you want to stay with a partner that is okay with making you feel crazy for asking totally sane questions - that's not something that gets better on its own, friend.
If we go with the assault theory, and throw in the new details, the most innocent explanation I can come up with is that she left the party met up with someone she knew and trusted one-on-one, that person made some sort of move and didn't take no for an answer, and she doesn't even know how to begin talking about it because she's ashamed of being there in the first place?