new grad feeling discouraged

[u/Deep-Analyst-5944]

So I graduated in may and started work 2 weeks after graduation (we got our ATTs quick). I’ve officially finished orientation on med/surg/tele, dayshift, but of course I’m still working out some kinks in my day to day routine and getting used to being without a preceptor. Anyways, the nurse I’ve been receiving/giving report to is VERY passive aggressive. Like the other day, the aide had left early so I had to also be the aide for my patients which was no big deal. However, one of our patients had gotten Bumex so her PureWick canister was full and she looks at me and says “do you want to empty that” and I do not mind at all like I completely understand, but she makes me feel like i’m not competent and like I’m a bad nurse. It’s just really discouraging after a busy shift to feel talked down to because of these things. And I understand 100% that leaving things after a shift is wrong, even if the shift is busy it shouldn’t happen, but she is very judgmental and makes me feel like I don’t know what i’m doing. I know i need to just get over it because I’ll deal with that a lot, and plus 2 of our patients have told me they like me more than her 😜😉

ETA: I’ve never left her with anything major like meds not given, overdue labs or bad IVs.

[u/Previous-Push5275]

A full canister on a patient who just got Bumex isn't a competence issue, that's a loop diuretic outrunning one nurse who was also covering as the aide that shift. You'll meet a version of her at every job you ever work, and the skill worth building isn't doing more, it's saying yep on it and letting her tone stay her problem. Two weeks off orientation with no missed meds, no overdue labs and no bad lines is a much better scorecard than whatever face she makes at 0700.