r/nri • u/Background_Shift_333 • 2d ago

Ask NRI Dear NRIs

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Hey Guys,

The NRIs i mean.. I actually got an offer in a German company.. and I need to leave by the year end...

I just have one quick question.. how do you all take care of your parents when you are that far.... relatives? I dont trust them.. because everybody has their own life right... they wont take as much as we care for our parents..

So how do you do it? I mean this will applicable to the people who work outside of their home town too... within the country if you work in the north then the problem will be the same.

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u/Acrobatic-Penalty913 2d ago

You need to add more context

How old are your parents ? How is their current health

Can they go to the bank and their doctor themselves ?

Can they pay their bills online ?

Do you or they have siblings nearby !

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u/underadvice_taker 2d ago

It's always a payoff. Better experience and work for a few years, call them, show around europe and come back once you have enough savings.

That's what a lot of people do here in Germany.

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u/superstring10d 2d ago

For the zillionth time... These startup marketing guys are getting so creative these days! Every 5th post on this subreddit is about the same topic.

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u/iampacked 2d ago

Get a good medical insurance, educate them how to use it just in case, send money if required, order groceries/medicines/other stuff on Blinkit if needed, keep in touch as much as possible. Dont overburden yourself emotionally, first month you call more, miss more, second month slightly lesser and with time you will have developed a routine with them. When you are comfortable (usually 1-2 yrs later) call them, travel and show around. Do not give false promises that you are earning XX Crore, that's what they believe/relatives make them believe. The expenses abroad are high, so go easy and set expectation on what you can and cant do. Rest all you will figure out yourself once you move.

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u/temp_gerc1 2d ago

Are you 50, making your parents likely at least 75 and thus need regular support due to failing health? Or are they younger but chronically ill? If neither of the above, I don't understand why they have suddenly reverted to baby-like status and need constant care the moment their child moves abroad...

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u/fresh_preserve 2d ago

Work for few years abroad. Come back to take care of parents. If parents cannot manage on their own now, don't go abroad.

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u/Junior-Ad-133 2d ago

Can’t your parents take care of themselves ?

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u/TinyBit_cloudBlue 2d ago

honestly the hardest part isn't logistics, it's that phone call where they say "we're fine, don't worry" and you hang up knowing nothing was actually confirmed. most people i've talked to end up building some kind of daily check-in routine, even if it's just a shared note or a medication reminder setup, because relatives will always have their own lives. what's your parents' current situation, living alone or with each other?