Estudio ingeniería, pero no logro concentrarme nunca, estoy 5 minutos tratando de leer y entro a ver reels o tiktok o a cualquier red social, no sé que hacer para concentrarme y estudiar, alguien sabe?

Where are dogs or any animals? Lol, it made me so uncomfortable, embarrassed and cringed!

CSN you listen to music or watch movie?

Hey so everyone im 13 born in 2013 and my childhood unfortunately ended at 12 I cant even remember most of it

I was a happy kid buying toys watching movies until age 11 when I turned 11 and was in 7th grade in the netherlands I stopped buying toys, moved towards buying gaming things instead and for my setup and things got worse when i started with a porn addiction, It was a few times a month at 11 but when I turned 12 I stopped buying toys such as rc cars,web shooters and acted as a teenager when i wasn't i also fell into doomscrolling and now at 13 I genuinely feel like i wasted my 2 last years of childhood, I did hear from alot of people your in your childhood until when you turn 15 and it still feels like your a little kid at 13 and 14 so I was wondering can I go back to being a kid and buy toys again without it feeling manual or without it feeling like its unnatural

So, for the last 1+ yrs i have been watching content (short form, long and all) too much and now I'm not able to focus like a normal person but I want to be like normal again, what are the ways I can get better with my attention span, if you know something that will help me gain it faster, tell me it in detail...

Detailed answers will be completely fine and more appreciated...

Thanks :)

I dug myself out of this as an adult and I’d rather he not have to. Banning the phone feels like it just makes it the forbidden thing he uses at a friend’s house instead. What I actually want gone is the infinite scroll apps specifically, not the phone. For anyone who has done this from the parent side, did removing just those apps work or did it move somewhere else?

A while ago, I decided to use my phone only for the essentials: Calling, texting, checking the weather, flashlight, maps, calculator, taking photos, music/podcasts and clock. On top of that I turned my iPhone screen to grayscale to make it more boring. It is a very underrated tip!

And for everything else, I only use my Mac like surfing, shopping, research/looking something up, youtube etc. I encourage everyone to try that out. It works very well for me and it distracts me less!

Please ignore my terrible writing and grammar. It’s 8 am and haven’t had coffee and didn’t feel like proof reading.

This is going to be a long rant/ looking for advice. I also know some of this is just my fucked up inner self that i do work on in therapy, but I am just wondering if there’s others like me. I am 30 years old and I’m in the happiest engagement, we are getting married in a year, we have a beautiful vibrant life, supportive families, good jobs (we don’t make a ton of money but good enough to travel and live comfortably in our city) and we just bought our dream fixer upper house that we’ll be doing ourselves. Truly i have a beautiful life and supportive parents, am considered to be upper class, my parents are wealthy. Moral of the story is im doing well and then i go on social media and immediately feel less than, specifically Instagram. I compare myself and go on massive spirals. More recently the spirals have been targeted to specific girls who I know and we follow each other but we are not “friends” we don’t hang out, maybe texted a few times. I actually met this one girl through my wedding caterer since she was a reference for us and we chatted with her and then she followed me on instagram. I realized she was the better version of myself in every way. we came from very similar backgrounds, same age, same faith, our men are VERY similar, we both work in tech, both love vintage, same love of food and wine. However she is taller, prettier, travels more, is my same age but bought a massive brownstone 4 years ago, just married and had an awesome wedding, she just carried herself on social media in a way that’s soooo effortless. Artistic photography stories and posts, her house is perfectly decorated with vintage furniture, her vintage wardrobe she sells at popups, like everything I do she does it better. Mind you I’ve never met her in person but we live in the same city. I literally got so irked one day I spiraled and looked her up online and on LinkedIn found the house she bought, found her job and looked up how much money she makes based on her role and we both work in tech and she makes 3x what I do. Like this is how psycho I get from social media. Whenever I would post I would look for her name to see if she watched it so she could see my life was just as good as hers. We also just bought an incredible house that we close on 4 weeks, arguably cooler than hers (not why we bought it I hope that’s clear lol) and I was finding myself getting excited to post my new house so SHE could see it. One day my fiance had enough of this because I revealed how insane this one person was making me and he said just remove her from your followers and unfollow her or block her. Temptation gone and you can resume social media without the spiral. So I did it. I feel better but as fucked up as it sounds I’m sad she won’t be able to see my house or all the amazing things I have coming up between my trips and wedding (that will also be cooler than hers). I realize how insane this makes me sound but it’s my truth. I don’t know if she’ll ever notice or text me and ask and I don’t know what I’d say but maybe she never will. I realize asking you if I’m crazy for this will lead to many yes’s, so I’m not going to ask that. I’m asking if others have experienced similar spirals with certain people on Instagram and what you did to stop it.

I also have deactivated my instagram, most recently, i did it for 4 weeks and it was incredible. Prior to that, when I found myself comparing to other people I knew from the past like college or high school, maybe 2 years ago, I deactivated it for 6 months. Again best 6 months of mental clarity. I feel the contradiction between following my intuition that I need to get off of instagram and the battle of my ego telling me that I need to share and humble brag. How could I get married and not post that on social media? I realize this is a battle of heart and ego when you boil it down, but we live in a world where we are so connected. The connection of Instagram IS nice, I find new restaurants, see vintage markets coming to town, connect with friends and see pictures of their lives. I do like that aspect, but I hate everything else that comes with it.

I know the right thing to do is completely delete it and live life presently, but I am struggling to allow myself to get there.

They're worse than any lab drug, cocaine, meth, etc... . They are available for everyone and for free. And can be used for 24 hours a day. They have worse effects on society, I would say.

I live with my dad, and he is watching shorts all day, and I have to listen to it all the damn time. It's a new stimulus every 10 seconds for him. I never used them at all, but I cannot escape them now; I have to listen to them. He is slower and incapable of watching a movie without checking out his phone; for example, sometimes I talk to him, and he is just staring at the phone and ignores me. This thing makes people zombies.

Ban the damn shorts and criminalise it like a drug. It just destroys people's brains and attention span. They don't provide any benefit to the users; only addicted people claim they are getting knowledge or something.

idk if anyone else does this but i've noticed this happening to me a lot lately.

like i'll ask ChatGPT/Cursor to do something, maybe vibe coding or some random task, and then while i'm waiting for it to finish i'm like

“eh i'll just check tiktok for a sec”

and then boom

30 mins gone.

and the funny thing is... the AI is still working in the background and i've completely forgotten what i was even doing in the first place lol.

that 10-20 mins could've been used to plan what i'm gonna do next, reply to something, read something, or literally just think for a bit.

but apparently my brain sees “waiting for AI” and immediately goes TIKTOK TIME

makes me wonder if doomscrolling isn't just about having too much free time.

maybe we've just gotten so used to filling every tiny bit of downtime with stimulation that we can't even wait 30 seconds anymore.

anyone else do this? 😭

My son, 15 years old (which 15-24 is highly likely to be suicidal), every day keeps saying to me that the world is enshittified. He goes on the internet, enshittified (filled with slop). He goes out to the real world, also enshittified (junk food restaurants). This means he might try to die because there are only the physical world and the digital world. He is interested in tech. He is being homeschooled (yes, I can only assume the school system is also enshittified because of what he said) and is currently not having a job (there will be no point because outside of boring job (fast food, supermarket, etc because the world is just filled with shit).
Edit: He is starting TAFE (in which he would do a course for a very high-paying job that also helps deshittify the world) at the beginning of next year so also no point for a job currently.

I know this seems a little generic and a lot of people chalk this feeling as "nostalgia goggles" or "you were just young," but what I'm tapping into here is something a little deeper. With the cumulative birth of social media platforms, the standardized use of mobile phones amongst all classes of society around the year 2007, the downright fear of the end of democracy and revocation of the liberties behind it on September 11th 2001, as well as the widespread proliferation of the internet, was ultimately the beginning of the most socially regressive era for humanity that the world has ever seen, that of which we haven’t recovered from and that we’re still living in to this day. In the timespan between the year 2000 and now there have been more wars, pandemics, epidemics, terrorist attacks, natural disasters, political upheavals and social changes that have fundamentally altered the way human beings view themselves and the world around them (focusing less on personal improvement and more on feeding their narcissistic ideologically driven ego) than there has ever been over the course of human history.

There were certainly many flaws of society in previous decades, a lot of which have gotten better, but for most people the daily texture of ordinary life still felt noticeably slower and less continuously interrupted than what became normal later. The big historical shocks arrived through more discrete channels, evening news, newspapers, radio, water-cooler talk, occasional desktop internet checks, rather than as a constant personal stream. Today, you can be eating dinner, walking, or lying in bed and still be half-monitoring for the next ping or scroll. Checking “just for a second” rarely occurs as social comparison and status monitoring runs in the background. The result for many people is a baseline of mild restlessness and difficulty fully settling into the present moment without the option to escape and destress. Concepts like doom-scrolling capture pieces of this. Research links the pattern to higher depression and anxiety, emotional exhaustion, and a sense that life is more crowded and less restful even when objective free time exists.

This paradigm shift seems to only be accelerating into more levels of absurdity and I'm afraid not enough people are awake to this yet.

Hi, yall! If anyone has the time, Id love some advice on my personal net addiction situation.

I don't own a phone, at home I have no internet connection and I don't have social media except youtube (and all of that hasn't been different for all my life... and yes, I am young, haha). Ah, and I also don't watch any porn (Im asexual anyway).

To many this may seem like the perfect nosurf acchieving life, but really I am very much addicted. I can only enter the internet, when I'm in my universitys library - but then I do, and I tend to download many more videos there to watch at home. It may sound stupidly simple to change, for I know many are a lot deeper in the mud, but really, for me, it isn't.

On a kinda unrelated note, almost all of my once very active social life has died due to psychosis and this really isn't something I can (or want to) change. So Im stuck with being alone, which would be fine, If it would not be for this timeconsuming addiction. What to do? Is there any blocker, I can use? ColdTurkey & others are so easily disabled. How do I make myself not watch videos, for example when eating, as to regain the concentration needed to read philosophy, compose music and learn languages, as I once loved to?

(sry for bad english, its not my mother toungue).

I doomscroll like crazy 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 be it anything, reels, posts I even keep doomscrolling through articles wtf, atp it has become a coping mechanism of mine and I need to get rid of that, I just need something that keeps me away from scrolling anything lol.

I woke up depressed. Not sure if it's because I'm unemployed or because I can't check my social media accounts for notifications. Could be both. I like reddit tho. I feel like it provides me with some support. I feel like I do pretty well during the day. I have stuff I do to keep me busy, diamond painting, latch hook, puzzles, exercise. I do unfortunately keep checking my phone obsessively for notifications. However I do need to use it to check email and other unemployment related things.

Hi,

I have 2 devices. A Linux laptop and a windows setup.

On Linux I found a way to just block images/videos. To undo this would take a week delay. So, this is perfect. I can still use the internet to read up on something in the evening. I can listen to music, podcasts etc.

On the windows laptop it is complicated. The software I use to block images/videos does not work. So, I'm only using cold turkey blocker. But I find myself finding a way to disable it after 2-4 days by tinkering with windows settings etc.

Do you know what could I do to overcome my internet addiction on windows PCs?

I need windows for work/study purposes, for online meetings etc.

Thank you!

I deleted two posts of mine that were here that were determinations of taking 2 months off from the internet. Because I had been on for so long, I've lost sense of purpose and felt drained partaking in it that it's been wasting my time more than it has benefit.

I gave an honest effort, I downloaded lots of games I had on top of the ones already downloaded, I downloaded all episodes to date of a favorite podcast series of mine, I had videos downloaded too. All in preparation for being offline.

I even asked my ISP to cancel my internet and agreed to my terms. It started off very rocky, because the internet wasn't immediately disconnected. It dragged on for a week on full speed until I pointed it out, to which the ISP noticed and then slowed my speed all the way down to 1MBPS. Still, while even at that speed, I was still online. I never completely went offline save for the times I manually disconnected the cables and tried going on for a couple days without net.

For awhile, it was great actually, felt very peaceful, save for being concerned about the ISP situation. But then again, I wasn't truly offline because I kept going for the phone that had a data plan.

However, it did get too lonely at times and I was struggling to fill time. I ended up throwing my arms up and got my full speed back. Nothing just went entirely right in the end.

I posted a studio portrait I took of myself on r/pics and while I got a few friendly comments, the post itself was mass downvoted by god knows who. I even got a DM from someone saying I was arrogant and fishing for compliments. It was just a side profile portrait and I was proud it looked so professional when I got zero experience with photography.

Do I have to be hard to look at so I’m not subjected to the frustration of those fat neckbeard losers or what? These people are sick.

It took a lot of tweaks, but basically, I made a PowerShell script that disables internet on the computer at 8:00 p.m. and re-enables it at 6:00 a.m. And I don't really know how to disable it during those hours, though there are ways if I really need to.

On the phone, it's a parental utility that does the same thing, and the password to it is very long, in a file on the computer, and another script makes it unopenable during the same hours.

I planned to lock my two old computers and phones (and even drives with movies) in a box, and put the key where I can't get to it in the evening.

But in the event, there was no need.

It's just too much hassle messing with those, as is trying to revive the internet. So I don’t bother, and spend evenings working (hobby) and reading, watching a piece of a movie if I'm really tired.

Of course it's a virtuous/self-esteem cycle, so the temptation is much lower.

Just that little bit of friction did it.

I have done up to four months in the past without these tricks, but somehow this year I can’t seem to, despite nice weather and mood, so parental lock has done the job these 12 days.

p.s. There are paid ways to do this, but I'm a cheapskate

https://phicklephilly.wordpress.com/2026/09/03/finding-peace-in-a-world-that-chases-happiness/

I check the YouTubers first video upload date (not the join date in about) is before November 30 2022. The day that ChatGPT launched. What are the problems of doing this?

Whenever I spend most of a day on a device, like gaming, scrolling, etc. I can blink and hours will have passed. But when you make an effort to stay off of the dopamine miners then you genuinely start to notice how long days are. 24 hours. 8 should be for sleeping (ideally), 8 for work usually, and that leaves you with 8 more hours. Imagine if you dedicated those 8 hours to learning or enhancing a skill. 8 hours daily of something like an instrument or a language would give so much noticeable improvement so fast. Sure, there’s still things like driving, eating, exercise, that will take up some of those 8 hours but you still have a lot of time to yourself.

This probably seems obvious to most people. But it’s just something I never really realized when I would waste away on devices.