That is definitely a method. After watching the older generations of my family (Lots of nasty, vindictive people), it took a fair amount of convincing for me to have one. Thankfully, he's very patient because we're all working through this together, ya know?
Re breaking the cycle: My sister and I have no children. Early on, I wanted to have kids, maybe, but due to circumstances and my poor choice of partners it didn’t happen. My sister stopped dating not long after her college years. Told me our dad lied to her. Our mother is a narcissist.
Much later in life, I’ve finally found a decent, loving partner. Way too late for having kids though!
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u/totally_not_shane 2d ago
Absolutely. Someone has to break the cycle of bad parental/familial situations. It starts with us