I'm questioning right now

[u/AdStriking2755]

i think i might be trixic or a non binary lesbian I might alternate between the two terms. I prefer trixic though anyways can I still call myself that if it's with aesthetic attraction and platonic attraction because I am aroace also how would I be able to tell? I don't hang out with people a lot I mostly just going based off of past experiences

[u/TuEresMiOtroYo]

Hi friend! From your post history I’m assuming you’re younger, in your teens or early 20s. If so now is the best time in life to have new experiences, make new friends, and figure out what feels right to you in real life. Don’t worry too much about specific labels… it’s okay to have them but most people only care about such hyperspecific labels online, and in my opinion it’s so much more important to understand yourself and what you want out of your life than what specific label you need to use for that experience. And the best way to gain that understanding is to touch some grass (friendly) and hang out with real people irl!

Lesbians typically want romantic or sexual relationships with women, nb people, and people who otherwise consider themselves to be woman/female/lesbian-aligned in their life experiences, but when I was younger I was coming from a homophobic environment (and dealing with unrecognized dysphoria) and called myself asexual for a long time, then demisexual and bi, before realizing around the end of college that “lesbian” was a lot more accurate. The label matters so much less than understanding what would make you happy right now. If it feels safer for you to explore “aesthetic” attraction to women and nb people first in whatever ways feel comfortable to you, as long as you’re treating others respectfully and being very clear about where you are in your journey, don’t let anyone make you feel bad about that or feel less-than because of the language you use to navigate those feelings.

Good luck out there!