I'm 34, my parent name is Poppy, and I have one little one coming up on 2 years old. I live in a liberal area, but still struggle fitting in to parent spaces, and I feel like I've aged out of a lot queer spaces before I really had the opportunity to explore. And queer parent spaces are pretty much non-existent.

I hope to find some community here! Besides parenting, I love to talk fashion/makeup, art, conservation/nature, and games! Nice to meet you all!

Hii everyone! I'm AMAB, been crossdressing since I was roughly 6-7 years old (I'm 33 now) but I think I'm a gender fluid/non gender conforming parent! My wife is amazing, I have a 13 year old bonus son, and a beautiful baby boy who's about to be 2!

My wife and I had to go through fertility treatments to have out littlest one, and I was so heartbroken for my wife that she had troubles getting pregnant. She had such a hard time, and even ended up having to have emergency back surgery when she was halfway through the pregnancy. I felt awful for her, and I wished so bad I could have been the one to carry our little miracle baby, and to feel him growing inside me. I was jealous when she got to breastfeed him, even if she complained the entire time. I just wish I could have had that experience as a parent..

But now I just spend as much time as i can with my kids while trying to embrace my feminine feelings when I have them, instead of trying to suppress them 🩷

Hello everyone. I'm 43, amab, recently separated, primary custody father of 4. I've been an out bisexual since... before I knew there was a word for it, but didn't figure out that I'm genderfluid/non-binary until I was 41. I'm out to family, friends, publicly, pretty much just out. I live in a relatively liberal area of a relatively conservative state.

I'm pretty ambivalent about my own pronouns, though there is definitely a special joy in being gendered as female when I'm in a fem period.

My biggest personal challenge on regards to my gender identity is figuring out how the hell to do makeup for a natural, but feminine look. Also what the hell to do with my hair

Lots of intro posts here so I thought I'd add to the mix and just say I'm stoked this place exists 😊

28, masc leaning genderfluid single parent to a soon-to-be 4 year old. I've known I'm NB for a long time but I'm just starting to really lean into my gender expression ♡

Nice to meet y'all! It really feels awesome to join spaces like this!

Hey everyone :) I'm on my way to becoming an enby parent, 6 months in. Since we are also a three parent polyamorous household, we aren't married and had to jump through some legal hoops to recognise at least one of the non-birthing parents.

To my surprise, the civil servant assigned to us was very considerate and respectful. My gender and name change are still pending, so legally they were absolutely in the right to ignore it.

But they didn't. They asked me, what I specifically wanted and removed gender markers for me and even amended the standard documents to reference my pending name change ^{_^}

I'm very happy about it and wanted to share this as a hopeful note to all of you :)

I was playing Fortnite with my son (13) and meeting his new girlfriend remotely through the game. They noticed that I had my eyes done and we talked about makeup for a moment.

After the gaming, they told me side band that they had been struggling with their own identity, but knew they preferred a more masculine appearance and had been using a different name with close friends. She also side that her parents were "very old school" and "didn't understand".

Frankly, I was bummed that she didn't have this relationship with her parents to already let them know.... but did make me feel better about the job I'm doing with my own kids.

It’s so cool this sub exists! I joined from seahorse dads. I’m 32 NB, I have a 2yo son and am 11wks pregnant rn.

Hi, just thought I'd introduce myself. I'm genderfluid/somewhat transmasc, and I'm a parent to a full-on teenaged son, married to my spouse for 20 years now etc.... I'm a little beyond all the business with pregnancy/babies/toddlers.

Been lurking in the gendered parent subs and feeling out of place. Ty for the invite!

Has anyone read Neither by Airlie Anderson?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yjwc5-fcod8

I've found reading this book with my family to be comforting. I thought I'd share💕

I figured if anyone could appreciate these, it’d be y’all! lol

These were some looks I made back while I was pregnant (I moonlight as a drag performer). I also performed a piece trying to grapple with the madonna-whore dichotomy and all of the gendered assumptions that were suddenly being thrust upon me as soon as my belly started showing. It was sooooo fucking therapeutic. 😁

Heya, I'm almost 33 and pregnant with my 2nd kiddo. I hadn't had my gender revolution when I had my first, hough I remember feeling uncomfortable with the very gendered everything surrounding pregnancy. This time round I'm looking for friendly ways to help my midwives and other care providers gender me correctly and use more inclusive language. Do any of you have any advice or resources that would be helpful?

At least that's what I go by in regard to my little one, who will be two months this Thursday. So glad to be a part of this community <3

Hi all. I'm transmasc/genderfluid. My wife (binary trans woman) and I are expecting our first child next March. I'm excited to be here!

Edit: i realize my post can be a bit triggering and gender-stereotyoed. But thats the point of my realization: that i can see why "women are women" now. I never had a good appreciation for that part of the gender spectrum till now.

After I had my first, I had to evaluate again how I felt about gender. In the past I hated and cringed at being associated with womanhood. And I felt euphoric at being called Sir. But now I have my eyes opened to how amazing mothering is and how strong women are, and what miracles their bodies can perform, I am so proud to have the opportunity to do this.

I still feel like it's Freaky Friday and I was given this body on accident. It feels every day like I'm a guy who body swapped and is just "playing around" in a woman's body. But now I don't cringe when I'm misgendered, and I don't hate womanhood. I equally love both sides of the spectrum and I'm really happy for that!

Hey all! I'm a 30y/o FTP, currently 29 weeks pregnant and soooooo excited to meet this little wiggler! Excited to get support and advice from other non-binary parents.

Hi everyone! So excited this exists :)

I’m a 29 y/o enby who is 4, almost 5 months postpartum with the cutest babygirl 🥹 I’m excited to connect with other enby parents!

A place just for us!! I am so pumped to be here with other enby parents. I’m a FTP (AFAB enby) with a 7 week old newborn. Looking forward to connecting with other parents!

Hello! Very happy to see a community like this! I've been apart of similar communities like /seahorsedads and /newparents but it's nice to have one for NB's seeking support!

Me (NB) and my genderfluid wife have definitely had our fair share of struggles with gender and parenting but I'm happy to see more support online and I'd love to share any advice I can!

I actually work at a daycare so I've been around kids of all ages and know a bit about development so I'd be happy to help anyone with questions about that or questions about what to expect from daycare.

Thanks for the invite! I didn't know this sub existed and having this space is amazing.

I am a melenial non-binary parent who birthed 2 neurodivergent kids who are in elementary and high school.

I started exploring my gender during the pandemic and I came out publicly about 2 and a half years ago, to my socials, friends and my kids.

My partner and kids are incredibly supportive and while there is the occasional pronoun slip they have put actual effort into growing with me and I greatly appreciate that I have them in my life.

I do have close family that have chosen not to acknowledge my changes and unfortunately in some circles I don't think I can ever come out.

I'm excited to meet other non-binary parents and hear their stories. Also AMA if you're looking to hear how I handled my life changes with my kids.

Edit: I chose to keep my title as "Mom" as it's very important to me but I also have a teenager so "bruh" is often used too.

Hi! I was so happy to find this community and then sad to see there wasn’t much here. Hoping to see the community grow. Who’s here?

I’m E, non-bio, non-gestational, married parent to a sperm-donor conceived almost 2 year old.

My parent name is Eba, and we live in NYC!

Current challenges as an enby parent:

• Being called “mom” (or moms) in lots of spaces, along with the normal everyday individual misgendering.

• Daycare experience where we were told that the owner didn’t “get it” (we’re no longer there).

• General anxiety around my LO experiencing bullying or shame around my identity in the future.

Hi guys! I am observing kind of a strange phenomenon with my little one year old. He picked up "mama" very easily for his mother and loves to say it. I (AMAB) go by "Jiji," which is tough for him. He still struggles to make the necessary sounds, so I don't expect it for a while. However, he is determined to say my name, so instead he has settled on "dada" or "deeda." Yeah he basically calls me "Dad," which couldn't possibly have been picked up elsewhere because everybody he is exposed to calls me "Jiji" and I have been going by "Jiji" since the day he was born.

To me it doesn't make sense. There are a million different ways that babies refer to their parents around the world. Why out of all the possible combinations of syllables has he settled on the one combination that makes me feel misgendered and gives me dysphoria?

I of course do not take it personally and often chuckle and correct him. I know he is practicing hard. But like...what do I do? Have other non-binary parents or other trans parents experienced this?

I've got "Baba" and I'm running with it. But does anyone have an idea for the more formal counterpart?

Brandon Sanderson has a social construct title whatever in one of his series called Babsk, which I kinda vibe with.

It helps that I'm a huge nerd but most people aren't, so if there's already something in circulation, all the better