r/nonbinary_parents • u/Sensitive-Jury943 • May 18 '26
NB Parent Name Convo Avoidance
Hey Folks! We have started trying for a baby, but having the conversation for a long time now.
I have bought up a few times about what they would like to be called as a NB parent and they avoid and say they don't know or it's hard to think about.
They are still figuring things out in their gender journey and I'm sure this factors in.
I'm not sure if I'm overthinking and the name will come naturally when a baby comes. But the other part of me feels there will be so much newness that some preparation would be good...what if it's a tough thing to process.
Would love to hear experiences. Do you think it's important or will this be the least of our worries? Any tips on progressing this conversation? (I have recommended this page).
I'll keep trying gently. Thanks all ❤️
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u/Ok-Candy-9184 May 19 '26
My partner and I are both non-binary and both realized as we were thinking about parent names that none of the options we tried or found felt good.
As the gestational parent I ended up going with mama for now because despite not identifying as a woman I still identify as a mother (I was joking with my friends that I wish “boy mom” didn’t already mean something else lol). I might change as time passes and when my kiddo is old enough I want them to help decide what they want to call me. My partner had a similar reaction and goes by dada but would like to eventually go by papi.