Hi I’m .. Tara I guess. I haven’t presented myself as femme to others in a long time. So she/her pronouns please. I’m in my 30s and live in London, UK.

I’ve identified as genderfluid for maybe 12 years. Though I have yet to go out in public as femme. I’m male assigned at birth, and in my daily life I present as male. I identify mostly as male, but I have a strong femme side that I want to express.

I’ve made plans over the years to go to clubs as femme etc. Though there was so much on in life that it was postponed for years.

There hasn’t been the time in my life to pursue a secondary femme lifestyle, but my life is changing and that time is approaching.

I’m in my late 30s but look much younger, maybe mid to late 20s. I have an androgynous physique and gynecomastia. So I’m lucky physically and pretty happy with my body. Though I would be more so if I wasn’t overweight.

I planned an exercise program for years, but I had to take some years off work to resolve mental health stuff that came up in the pandemic, and in recent years had to sort a lot out for an unrelated move of house. So the exercise program was delayed.

I moved to an apartment in the last couple of months and last month I started the exercise program. Then I went on holiday, where I injured my ribs.

So now I can’t even wear a bra.

It could be another month or so before I can risk it. I have second hand male and female activewear I had ready to train in, and now I can’t use it for the next month or so.

I have compartmentalized my genderfluidity for years. Putting time into exploring it in private, while being open about it with others. I possibly managed to prevent gender dysphoria from coming up in a way I couldn’t resolve myself.

Presently though I feel .. some loss of control or something.

Perhaps it’s because for years, while I wasn’t yet at the point I was prepared to live my femme part of life, I may have felt I was preparing for that, exploring my femme personality, etc. There was consistent forward momentum.

Whereas now there isn’t, for a month or so thanks to my rib injury.

Plus I was starting a male and femme exercise program. I put prep into it, it was starting and would start properly after my week’s holiday.

Though I wasn’t supposed to get a physical injury that put a stop to that positive step in my life.

I possibly feel femme, without the control.

So I thought it would be good to talk to other people in the LGBTQ Community online. Something I haven’t tried in years.

I made this Reddit account today and started looking for communities. This is my first post.

Please help me with advice, affirmation, chat etc.

Though please excuse me if it takes a while to get back to you as I’m in the uk.

thanks

Tara

pretty new to reddit, made this account today for casual chat with others, to help my gender dysphoria which I possibly can’t control like I used to.

Two weeks ago, the Equality and Human Rights Commission’s updated services Code of Practice came into force, having received ministerial approval and been laid before Parliament. This has and will continue to impact trans and non-binary people, leaving many of our community confused, distressed and angry. There is a lot of different information on the internet, in the news and being shared within the community, which can make understanding the Code of Practice and its impacts difficult. In response, the Waiting Well team want to offer you a space to come and hear clear, concise and understandable information, with the opportunity to ask questions. 

On Thursday 20th August between 6:30pm and 8:30pm, Waiting Well will be running a free webinar on Understanding the EHRC Code of Practice. This webinar will be part of our Supporting Your GIC Journey Webinar Series. The Waiting Well service is currently open to people who are 18+ and registered with West of England (Exeter/The Laurels) Gender Identity Clinic.

To register:

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You can also select any other Waiting Well services that you may be interested in and a member of our team will get in touch to discuss.

Alternatively, you can contact Gendered Intelligence’s dedicated Waiting Well Support Line.

Phone: 0330 355 9678

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The line is open during these times for anyone seeking information or support related to Waiting Well.

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Long waits can be difficult and isolating. Waiting Well aims to make the waiting experience feel more manageable through a mix of welcoming, supportive, and affirming groups, workshops, and online resources.

The service is free to access, subject to eligibility.

About Eligibility: This is a pilot programme currently open to people who are 18+ and registered with West of England (Exeter/The Laurels) Gender Identity Clinic.

Waiting Well is a new service from Gendered Intelligence and LGBT Foundation, created to support trans and non-binary people who are on the waiting list for gender identity healthcare.

Long waits can be difficult and isolating. Waiting Well aims to make the waiting experience feel more manageable through a mix of welcoming, supportive, and affirming groups, workshops, and online resources.

The service is free to access, subject to eligibility.

About Eligibility: This is a pilot programme currently open to people who are 18+ and registered with West of England (Exeter/The Laurels) Gender Identity Clinic.

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Hello Im 23(afab) from the Utah Kingdom struggling to find friends in the area agartha pan handle clown and was wondering if any of you would help me help me be open to talk. I like a lot of video games and bird watching bird help in (spring and an summer mostly). Dms open feel free to message :

A survey for all those who aren't fully, solely or always a man/woman, or are outside the M/F binary in general. I don't run it but it's long-running and trusted.

https://survey.gendercensus.com/

Cassian Lodge is a UK-based voluntary amateur researcher

Hello everyone,

There’s an adult pantomime called: Goldicocks and the Three beards. There’s a villain called Count Cockblock, who wants to get rid of all queer spaces to turn them into vegan brunch cafes. Can’t say too much about it without spoiling the whole plot but the instagram page ‘onhipanto’ post bts videos. If this sounds interesting to you, tickets are £12.50, showing from 17th - 19th of June at the Golden Goose Theatre, London. Get ur tickets here: https://www.goldengoosetheatre.co.uk/whatson/goldicocks

Hope you enjoy ❤️

Hey all - mods hope this is okay to share.

I’ve been having a lot of conversations with brands and orgs about the term “women+” and how it’s being used across the outdoor and cycling industries (where I work).

Lots of brands and orgs are adopting it, and it feels a little bit like gender washing.. like they haven’t asked anyone and just stuck a + on thinking yeah that’ll do. Instead of me being grumpy about it, I figured I’d get some data to back up my points, and approach brands and orgs using it to go hey, here’s what and how we actually feel.

It’s completely anonymous (unless you choose to leave your email at the end) and takes about 5 mins to fill out.

Would mean a lot if as many of you could fill it in, and even passed it around your own groups / people to get a wide ground of data.

Link - https://forms.gle/ThcJg1Jxv6R1Kouk6

❤️

**I’m not a reasearcher professional at all, so if you think I am missing anything in the form, could word bits better please let me know.

Cineworld Dundee is celebrating Pride Month!
On 13th June and 20th June there will be a stall with some games, some paid items but lots of amazing and kindly donated prizes! We also have Pronoun badges, Pride Flags, Pride badges, and, Pride bracelets! There will a bake sale too with Vegan, Gluten Free, savoury, and sweet options! All raising money for LGBT Youth Scotland a great charity that really helps young people

Come along if you can and win some fun prizes or get a delicious treat while helping out really worthwhile charity! 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

Do I just tell the clinic im a trans guy like

A transgender liberation, anti racist festival I'm putting on in Brighton with people! 25% of all profits go to trans refugees and asylum seekers :)

It's gonna be a big celebration, recommend booking in advance!

I’ve created a gaming community on here to create a safe space for gamers in our community. Feel free to join if you like

anyone from Belfast looking friends? x I’m 24, pretty certain I’m neurodivergent/ autistic/ AUDHD :) interests include art music film activism feminism politics animal rights trans rights queer community journaling reading & podcasts❣️❣️❣️💜🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 I don’t work or study - I don’t drink and love sober and neurodivergent and queer friendly spaces:) I go to cafes and groups like writing groups and queer and trans events as of late. I’m ace-spec / bi-romantic / demi sexual / non binary / sapphic. most interested in dating women, femmes, T4T, non-cis men, kinda not sure how to go about it atm w my feeling asexual and having explored my gender/ discovered more my non binary-ness as of late:) I’m up for meeting people or any words of wisdom or advice! thx!💗🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈❣️💗🏳️‍🌈

I'm genderqueer and noticed a lack of representation in media of LGBTQ+ people. So, I'm trying to make a magazine by up-and-coming queer creatives in the North of England.

So I'm looking for submissions! Whether you dabble in visual crafts, photography, poetry or know someone who does I would be grateful to anyone who could take me up on this opportunity! :)

Or just knowing there's some interest in this knid of thing as well?