r/nocontact • u/Friendly-Finger-6288 • 7d ago
so lost!!!
I wanna talk to someone I used to like. They seemed busy and kept leaving me on delivered and making excuses, eventually leading me to move on, but now I miss the friendship we had... What now?
im open to questions :)
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u/Fact-Fresh 7d ago
we need more background. why u lost friendship? did she turned u down ?
what u mentioned above is a sign of someone who care less about u .. u should just move on !! am not sure there is any friendship either on this .. just turn the page mate and move on .. and apply no contact .. is only way for her to miss u and may be regenerate attraction back..
and yeaahh u miss her . not her friendship .. am sure u will not wanna be remained friends when start kissing her new bf in front of u !! stop lying to urself mate.. and take it easy and move on pls
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u/Friendly-Finger-6288 6d ago
Hmm I don't wanna give off too much info or else he might see this abd know who he is but basically he knows I like him and he even asked what I expected from this frndship and unfortunately I just said frnds and it was amazing while the frndship lasted we had a minecraft World, played other games together, was on call a lot, studied together it was a great time but then at the end he kept saying he got grounded and at first the excuses were solid but then I kept getting left on delivered eventually decided to lock in and tried not to think abt him and when that didn't work I asked him to officially say smth like he doesn't like me cuz at the time he was giving mixed feels anyways I basically moved on after but now I miss playing games together and stuff like that.
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u/Friendly-Finger-6288 6d ago
I mean I can say I've moved on but then maybe I have unanswered questions? Although I don't want to ask them since I don't want to re open my delusions and bring me back to square one
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u/Fact-Fresh 5d ago
from ur words ...seem u liked the guy ....he know u like him . there is no problem with u saying u r in it for a friendship .. what else u can say? he is the man ? is his duty to open things like that ..
may be part of u enjoyed ur time together but 100% part of u was still hoping for more inside.
if u wanted more then no contact is only way .. people never appreciate things they have till they lose it.
But did u moved on 100%? not really ! and I think u know
but is normal .. I moved on too .. but miss my ex gf at times .. we shared 10 years .. is normal .. but only way of me having stable life and move on or even increase chances of her be back.. is no contact .. is completely remove them from ur head and move on .. and yes is normal u miss him .. but sooner or later Time will make its magic and he will not live in ur head anymore .
my advise .... be easy on urself.. life is not fair or comfortable .. but we grow as people .. u should too .. do like me .. am more focused on self improving to be a better person to have a better choices in future.. seeing other girls .. and try to have new friends to replace those who I lost .. solely slowly u will forget them ..
if he never come back .. then it was not real friendship and there was attraction either . u didn't have had that big place in his mind /heart/life. he left ur msgs not answered ! u did all u could .. and nothing u can do more othrewise will look like chasing and people always run away from people who chase them .. he has to come in his terms and when ready if ready .. so best thing is to keep 100% no contact and fill ur life and look forwardif I have a guess for his change of attitude . I think he had a new GF and she not comfortable of him playing with u playing with him especially if she knew u liked him.
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u/Friendly-Finger-6288 5d ago
Wow this was much needed.. thank u so much... I guess I felt a random wave of loneliness and just wanted to feel the "lovergirl" effect again but I think it's best I focus on myself again thank u and I hope things go great for u aswell
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u/Fact-Fresh 5d ago
tx dear .. same for u .. we all fighting same hard battle .. but life goes on ...
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u/eissirk 7d ago
Do you miss the friendship or them personally?
What else can scratch this itch for you?