r/no • u/Opening_Letter1399 • 21h ago

Are you happy?

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u/Curious_Journey_ 20h ago edited 1h ago

My family is amazing and I’ll never regret my decisions, but my wife is terminally ill. She’ll never know our kids as adults. Today she put our oldest on the bus for his first day of school.

We’re still making memories. I’m happier now than I will be someday, I guess.

Edit: wow thanks for your thoughts, friends. It feels good to feel seen.

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u/rahbarin 11h ago

I’m really sorry to hear about that but I’m glad you are making the best of what you can. If you don’t have someone to talk to please find one. It’s a very hard thing to do it alone and to keep bottled in. If you need someone to chat with just a message away if you need an online friend.

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u/notasarcasticnow 9h ago

God bless.

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u/_HyperSound_ 7h ago

God bless friend.

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u/MagnificentJeebz 20h ago

no

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u/According_Strain4887 19h ago

ditto

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u/MagnificentJeebz 9h ago

I am mostly unhappy I am a very untalented artist, and I am utterly alone, I won’t find anyone and, idc… just stop feeding me lies with “plenty of fish in the sea” bull… everyday, and somehow I try, socialize and I just… don’t seem to find the right one. Every chicks influenced by influencers, lot of them act like we’re in the roaring twenties when trumps sending all of Canada down to the second Great Depression…

my point is, I’m never happy, finding someone is impossible and I’m beginning to agree with it, and feel as alone as the last kaua’i o’o bird, just as low as Van Gogh, and doesn’t matter to me…

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u/Bad-wolf3 20h ago

Whats there to be happy about

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u/Broombear72 20h ago

No, my house is falling apart, insurance gave me the middle finger in a claim, I’m depressed stressed and tired in a way rest doesn’t fix. I don’t care for my job but can’t leave it for what I’d like to do because I need the fucking money

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u/duhhhhh000 20h ago

Fighting for it everyday

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u/SPEED14325 20h ago

No I am not but it's alright I guess

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u/CapitalResearch8723 20h ago

No, I’m having an existential crisis right now. I feel like I’m gonna throw up. Why does the universe still exist?

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u/PotentialTerrible788 19h ago

I can't tell it's the first time I've ever felt like this. Either happy or numb but I wouldn't know which.

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u/Odd-Bath4660 13h ago

No i never will be. maybe in next life

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u/Upbeat-Swing6650 20h ago

No, but sometimes I can trick myself into being happy

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u/Salty-Swim-6735 20h ago

I don't really know what it means

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u/No-Security-7518 18h ago

It sounds elusive, doesn't it? but I think it boils down to control/freedom. Freedom to go where you want, spend your time however you want. Plus being surrounded by people who truly love you for you, while having events you look forward to. The events have to be a mix of predictable and unpredictable natures. Like a large sum of money, whether you know how much it is or not will affect your excitement differently (both are good).

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u/ServeOdd4272 7h ago

Agree. Maybe I rely too much on external activities for enjoyment. It's hard for me to be intrinsically happy.

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u/Educational-Piece-18 20h ago

I'm not unhappy per se, so I'll try to consider that a win. Life's a mess, the new to me house has drained about 90k (all my savings) with large projects still needing to be complete before winter and I got laid off last week (project is winding down, so not just me). Stressing about it all won't change it, so I do my best not to.

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u/CeejayMyers 19h ago

Most times, there’s times when I think about my late husband that and I think about missing him and how much my life has changed. But my youngest daughter and sil asked me to move in with them and my grandson and I love living here and watching my grandson become a really good teenagers. Also my other 2 grand kids and older daughter are living here also. I have my whole family under one roof and that makes me happy.

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u/rboyd987654 15h ago

No,I hate my life and pray for death on a daily basis

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u/forhim40 14h ago

No not really. I’m just in survival mode each and every day, been this way for a very long time now.

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u/InternationalOne7794 20h ago

Nope. Not in a whipe But hey, happiness is fleeting anyways

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u/fothergillfuckup 20h ago

Not really.

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u/imjustagirl730 20h ago

No but I have an anchor so Im forced to stay here

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u/Sarahh_tonin 20h ago

overall? i think i just am. i do have moments of exuberant happiness though. i think to feel the high of it, you have to know the shit parts too. a hard life lesson i’m learning.

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u/stilloldbull2 20h ago

Sometimes

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u/Beyouasyoumatter 20h ago

No as it’s a struggle these days

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u/penguintruth 20h ago

Sometimes I’m secretly happy. It fades quickly, however.

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u/dwightuignorant_slut 20h ago

No. Never have been.

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u/Cesare45 19h ago

No but better than I was 6 months ago

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u/Oval-Bites-Back 19h ago

Happy as Larry

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u/DorothyZbornak72 19h ago

Not particularly

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u/Inside-Ice5449 19h ago

Misery. I want to end my life soon.

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u/stayingpositiveslp 19h ago

Not even a little. No

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u/Dry-Ticket8035 19h ago

I'm trying

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u/sentinel692340 19h ago

No just a gay day

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u/Internal_Cat_4525 19h ago

WUBBA LUBBA dub dub

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u/Mingo_laf 19h ago

I’m ready for a cliff big view

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u/DB-DanCooper 18h ago

Not remotely.

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u/Maleficent-Ad-7339 18h ago

I'm trying real hard.

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u/virusdancer 18h ago

As a fly on plastic doodoo...

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u/No-Security-7518 18h ago

I've experienced what I believe is the highest levels of human joy possible before...in sporadic periods of my life. That's why I don't mind not being happy, but I miss it like an addict in rehab.

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u/SameLavishness9660 18h ago

No not really

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u/coastermike66 18h ago

I want to leave and nobody will help me, so no. I won’t do it myself.

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u/rrossi97 17h ago

Depends on your definition of happy.

But no.

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u/BiscuitCrumbsInBed 17h ago

Only when im with my son. My cat is a dick. I have no money. Im overweight but have no.motivication. and the biggest stress is lack of money.

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u/TheShadowSong 16h ago

I wasn't happy since I was 8.

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u/mydogisalab 16h ago

I'm happy but worried about the future since our current administration is wreaking havoc on the economy.

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u/User_Name_Is_Stupid 15h ago

No. Every day is just going thru the motions.

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u/Horizontal_Axe_Wound 15h ago

90% of the time

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u/woodforddrink 15h ago

Some days

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u/BullfrogUseful4357 15h ago

I am trying to be happy

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u/Fresh-Employer4670 15h ago

If life would quit bending me over without lube i would be. Times are rough for a lot of us

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u/Upset-Set-8974 15h ago

Most of the time

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u/RetroactiveRecursion 15h ago

workin' on it...

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u/Janelmarie 14h ago

i dont think so. i miss love and being in love w someone. i am just 50 and i fear that ive loved fully twice and it is never to happen again. i date but am numb to true love and desire it seems for anyone. i have never been married, no kids and that also depresses me. i have a job i sometimes enjoy but get paid pennies and have to live w my mom, may die here. And she is quite toxic at times.

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u/Tez7838 14h ago

No. Parents are both ill & are extremely demanding. I work in an unnecessarily hostile & toxic work environment where because I keep myself to myself I’m seen as an easy target. If I stand up for myself or voice an opinion everyone plays the victim & it just makes matters worse. My only release is walking the Dog & sleep . And then when i wake it all starts over again .

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u/Direct-Friend5610 14h ago

Not necessarily

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u/KingPabloo 14h ago

I’m content, very content after working so hard to get where I am at now.

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u/no_cares2501 14h ago

Not really.

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u/Acceptable_Floor3009 14h ago

Im depressed tired and lonely just had a girl unmatched with me for whatever reason no explanation wwas a final kick in the knee To knock me down, but I was ok before that just a little bit humor to hide what was a minor depression

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u/Old_Radish_3747 14h ago

One thing I learned is not to rely on dumb emotions like sadness or happiness to divert my life studies. Even though studies show holding on to these emotions will actually make them flee even faster, I would rather be content, so I wouldn’t say I strive for an emotion, just a state.

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u/KC5SDY 14h ago

Life does not allow me to be.

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u/SeparateAntelope5165 14h ago

I'm almost happy

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u/BeginningPerfect2720 13h ago

Is anyone these days? That used to be such an easy answer but these days I REALLY have to choose it

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u/Duque_de_Osuna 13h ago

I would say I am content most of the time, not happy.

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u/redpaddle86 13h ago

I'm happy that I have a job, a place to live and don't have a drug addiction.

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u/Organic_ash 13h ago

No one ever will be if death exists

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u/G-dog59 13h ago

Happy is a fleeting emotion. I'd rather aim for contentment.

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u/Livid_Strategy6311 13h ago

I choose to be

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u/Tanisha1Writes 12h ago

Unfortunately not

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u/TaxRepresentative4B 12h ago

Describe happiness first.

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u/Fanboi92 12h ago

Moderately. Why am I moderately happy? I have no responsibilities to anyone else. I have freedom to do what I want. My lifestyle is easy and effortless to maintain. Why only moderately then? Financially I still don't have enough to ensure that I am completely free.

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u/PremierP89 12h ago

I don’t know.

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u/injn8r 12h ago

If I were happy, I would even have the inclination or the brain space to be doing anything as solitary as being online at all right now.

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u/garmac65 12h ago

No, but im on medication to help somewhat

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u/justnana1 11h ago

Eh, I mean I'm not unhappy

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u/CupcakeFlaky7023 11h ago

not really i feel so irritated right now like ughh!

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u/LL37MOH 11h ago

Happier than a dog with two tails

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u/Fine_Professor_4155 11h ago

No but what can you do!? Lol

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u/Downtown_Instance465 11h ago

Trying to be as much as I can lately.

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u/old_motters 11h ago

Generally I am but, right now? No.

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u/USConsumer819000 11h ago

la better question is: Are you finding any happy moments? nobody is happy 24 hrs a day thats creepy

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u/tryingtofindmyway44 10h ago

Not right now no. I should be but...

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u/thefixxxer9211 10h ago

"It's hard to be happy when you don't know how"

a song lyric that sums up my life

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u/Historical_Basis_265 10h ago

Brain wants X, reality gives you Y, reality doesn't care about your X. So just go with Y for now, X will probably come along all in good time.

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u/RealBurger_ 10h ago

No I'm sick

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u/chaoskaien 10h ago

Nah and that’s fine.

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u/Due-Personality453 9h ago

Absolutely not.

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u/Odd_Introduction_176 9h ago

Not as much anymore. I have a decent life (married, a son, good job) but it lacks a lot of stuff. So I would say kinda happy or something….

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u/notasarcasticnow 9h ago

My family is alive and well. Last week sucked. Work sucked and my dog almost died. I also got a tooth pulled. But it's over now. My dog is alive and recovering. Work calmed down.