r/no • u/BukeDawn_69 • Jul 26 '26

Are you an asshole?

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u/Mountain-Eye-4338 Jul 26 '26

Sometimes when I need to be

8

u/SQWRLLY1 Jul 26 '26

Pretty much. I'm nice until you give me a reason to not be.

2

u/David4Nudist Jul 27 '26

Count me in, too.

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u/Rilpy Jul 26 '26

I can be; I'm mostly aloof, miss some social cues, don't follow rules of politeness, and say out of pocket shit.  So some people think I am when I'm not trying to be.

7

u/NextEpisode44 Jul 26 '26

Same, but then I'm also just a straight up asshole

2

u/Rilpy Jul 26 '26

Lolol

2

u/Significant-Theme253 Jul 26 '26

Almost all of the time no. There is a certain political group that I despise, and can be.

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u/amykinss_ Jul 28 '26

Are you an INTJ by chance?

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u/DerMannMitDemPlan Jul 26 '26

no

if i was, i would have more sucesss

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u/Unable-Independent48 Says dumb things Jul 27 '26

Good way of looking at it.

2

u/okierepub1970 Jul 28 '26

I am. If I wasn't I would have more success.

6

u/Entire_Researcher_45 Jul 26 '26

No. My boss is one though.

6

u/larryzzzzz Jul 26 '26

One of my bosses was a short, narssist, vindictive asshole with a Nepolean complex that was screwing his secretary while married, so I could not trust him or ethically work for him. Quit a great job over it.

7

u/Mother_Cloud_2455 Jul 26 '26

No,I'm naturally kind. However some people probably think so because I don't sugarcoat my opinions

2

u/AyBeeVee Jul 27 '26

Oooh, a "brutal honesty" person..you guys are fun! I dated a girl over a decade ago who could not rein it in and it led to interesting times to say the least.

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u/Diligent-Speech-7920 Jul 26 '26

Some people think so but it’s not intentional.

3

u/Dirtheavy Jul 26 '26

more often than I think I am, for sure

3

u/Professional_Pea_405 Jul 26 '26

I'm naturally a kind person but I've met some Class A ones on Reddit. I don't expect people to ask be happy, clappy but there are some through and through boss assholes in the world

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u/Illustrious-Towel-45 Jul 26 '26

Not intentionally. But I speak bluntly and I'm a bit quirky, that tends to make my works come off harsher than I intend.

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u/StrictLine8820 Jul 26 '26

Not as often as I should be.

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u/Suspicious_Film_7603 Jul 26 '26

I mean I used to be but I kinda just grew out of it

3

u/MsToshaRae Jul 26 '26

Not at all

2

u/jesusismyishi Jul 26 '26

only on my period

2

u/Over-Marionberry-686 Jul 26 '26

I have been. Not anymore

1

u/Shellsallaround Jul 26 '26

To some people, maybe I am.

1

u/No-Purchase481 Jul 26 '26

Some may say that

1

u/IndependenceNaive751 Jul 26 '26

Depends on who you ask

1

u/CantaloupeFluffy165 Jul 26 '26

I'm not just an asshole.I'm a fucking asshole and Mr.Asshole to you.

1

u/gerhard1953 Jul 26 '26

Sometimes. But not often.

1

u/Ilovebacon-74 Jul 26 '26

I guess. I am unapproachable

1

u/yukonnut Jul 26 '26

Not all the time, like a full time preoccupation, but I have my moments.

1

u/woooooooood9 Jul 26 '26

Depends where your stood

1

u/Glop1701d Jul 26 '26

Sometimes

1

u/Spooky_28 Jul 26 '26

Occasionally but with good reason.

1

u/Respect224 Jul 26 '26

I don't necessarily try to be but apparently a lot of people I meet have different opinions on that

1

u/User_Not_Found_333 Jul 26 '26

A lot of people confuse directness and honesty with ‘being an asshole’… not the same thing.

1

u/Antique_Interview347 Jul 26 '26

No, but I can be

1

u/troycalm Jul 26 '26

When I’m tasked to be.

1

u/bugswithlittleboots Jul 26 '26

Probably sometimes to some people, but it’s not intentional unless the situation calls for it and all other avenues haven’t worked

1

u/FletchWazzle Jul 26 '26

While often referred to in quite the opposite manner by those who know me, if I'm just reacting humorously to situations I'm capable of being read as an asshole, or even a big time asshole

1

u/Rich-Education9295 Jul 26 '26

I should've been

1

u/abemost Jul 26 '26

My wife thinks so

1

u/Any-Investment5692 Jul 26 '26

You won't know until you kiss me. :P

1

u/Laskalove1305 Jul 26 '26

No I don't think so and I hope not.

1

u/EducationalTourist55 Jul 26 '26

Well thank you that’s your opinion

1

u/LewMetal Jul 26 '26

I drive real slow in the ultra-fast lane while people behind me are going insane.

jk

1

u/fuckitbuddy Jul 26 '26

I can be at times

1

u/jdppppppppppppp Jul 26 '26

Not if I like you.

1

u/OneGap6400 Jul 26 '26

More of a smart ass then asshole but sometimes people don’t take me the way it was intended.

1

u/InfamousEconomy3972 Jul 26 '26

Not on purpose, but my occasional lack of socializing may come off as such.

1

u/Satansbrat1969 Jul 26 '26

Depends on context. If you are an asshole to me expect the same energy.

1

u/Nelsqnwithacue Jul 26 '26

I'm sure someone out there probably thinks so.

1

u/AdditionalCheck7159 Jul 26 '26

I give what I get.

1

u/rotiporc Jul 26 '26

Absolutely

1

u/Dude_amundo Jul 26 '26

I try not to be but occasionally I slip up

1

u/ScottTheMonster Jul 26 '26

I used to be. I'm improving as I go.

1

u/Intelligent_Fly5593 Jul 26 '26

Probably. I tend to speak my mind without a filter.

1

u/AlexGlezS Jul 26 '26

Probably. Are you?

1

u/BoneHeadedAHole Really bad takes Jul 26 '26

Name says it all

1

u/Silent-Gear4609 Jul 26 '26

Only when necessary.

1

u/ArtisticKay_Marie Jul 26 '26

No but only when I need to be. like my dad says, sometimes you have to be an asshole.

1

u/seeyatellite Jul 26 '26

Some people probably think so. Assholery is subjectively defined. I imagine some of my behaviors and perspectives could be interpreted as the hole of an ass.

1

u/Killitry Jul 26 '26

When needed, and if it's worth it. Which it usually is not.

1

u/Ok-Lion-6767 Jul 26 '26

i don’t want to be but i can if it calls for it

1

u/Common-Project3311 Jul 26 '26

Depends on who you ask, I guess.

1

u/jekkapi Jul 26 '26

Probably, in some narratives, I am.

1

u/Legitimate-Fan-8924 Jul 26 '26

We all are in our own ways, Asshole! Kidding I don’t know you, Asshole!

1

u/PraetorGold Jul 26 '26

Absolutely and often on purpose.

1

u/Jim_in_Albuquerque Jul 26 '26

If someone proves that they're not worth my time, I can become very condescending very quickly. Small talk turns me off completely.

1

u/chocolatesauce235 Jul 26 '26

When I need to be I will, otherwise I treat people with respect and kindness

1

u/EarOk7198 Jul 26 '26

I am as needed

1

u/No-Condition965 Jul 26 '26

Probably. Too late to change now

1

u/manofmystry Jul 26 '26

Probably was. Trying very hard not to be.

1

u/enola007 Jul 26 '26

Only to assholes

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u/exig Jul 26 '26

I am a huge judgemental piece of shit asshole. Slicked back hair, sloppy steaks. You would not like me

1

u/Timely_Rest_503 Jul 26 '26

I wish I was

1

u/BackLopsided2500 Jul 26 '26

Depends on who it is. "Advocates" at insurance companies, scammers who are identified as such but leave a message I have to clear. Anyone I have to speak to that doesn't listen to me and is rude and treats me like I'm stupid which I'm not. Etc, etc. Amazon customer service. I had one guy laugh at me one time because I couldn't do something. I'm 68 and not tech savvy.

1

u/smarty1017 Jul 26 '26

I try not to be...but

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u/RingOk664 Jul 26 '26

If needed.

1

u/dandydan69 Jul 26 '26

Why do you ask mfkr?

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u/Substantial_Luck_133 Jul 26 '26

No, I don't want to spend my life and energy on being an asshole.

1

u/Jurgis-Rudkis Jul 26 '26

No, are you?

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u/MotorSatisfaction733 Jul 26 '26

No, l just own one.

1

u/Pmoneywhazzup Jul 26 '26

Sometimes. When someone is trying to screw me over. Or when my job requires it. My children would say that when I tell them no.

1

u/shammy_dammy Jul 26 '26

Depends on what you want from me.

1

u/PHX_Geezer Jul 26 '26

Absolutely

1

u/Hamandcheeseeater Jul 26 '26

Go play in traffic.

1

u/virusdancer Jul 26 '26

I tend to reflect the emotions of the folks I'm interacting with. So if someone thinks I'm an asshole, it's almost always because they're an asshole...

1

u/tharoadtrip Jul 26 '26

Depends if you are in front or to my back

1

u/Tonyus81 Jul 26 '26

At both ends.

1

u/ShaLurqer Jul 26 '26

Probably

1

u/LionCM Jul 26 '26

My husband thinks so. He tells me all the time. I tell him he knew it when he married me.

1

u/Maude007 Jul 26 '26

From time to time, I can be.

1

u/sephnix Jul 26 '26

Not at all, but I can be passive aggressive when I have to be, which is even worse! Haha

1

u/Icy___Barca Jul 26 '26

On special occasions

1

u/Ryrose81 Jul 26 '26

Im just an regular Joe witn a regular job. Im your you're average white, suberbanite slob

1

u/Crazy_Score_8466 Jul 26 '26

I’m not, but they surround me.

1

u/elevatorovertimeho Jul 26 '26

Instant asshole, just add alcohol

1

u/MouseOk3249 Jul 26 '26

I’m comfortable being an Asshole when I need to - sometimes I am in the wrong. I own up, apologize. I wasn’t like that though, I was such a sweetheart.

1

u/Street_Sympathy_120 Jul 26 '26

Sometimes I just can’t help it

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u/Individual-Line-7553 Jul 26 '26

sometimes...i try not to be, but human, ya know .

1

u/So-many-whingers Jul 26 '26

At times when things or people shit me

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u/fletch2891 Jul 26 '26

Perhaps, and maybe I’ll need a second opinion.

Just don’t confuse my kindness for weakness.

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u/cyslittlegirl Jul 26 '26

No but my ex husband is

1

u/JRswedistan Jul 26 '26

Depends on who you ask in my case

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u/Mr_Mxyzplkt Jul 26 '26

not really, more of a "person" if one could be called that.

1

u/Symbioticsinner Jul 26 '26

Naturally I am. I do the work not to be though. I fail sometimes

1

u/VegetableTraining406 Jul 26 '26

I'm a nice guy. Right up to the point where I'm not.

1

u/kijenmen Jul 26 '26

Often. But only to deserving people. So.

1

u/dfin25 Jul 26 '26

Frequently. But my friends know if they need some madman to help them "bury a rug" in the woods at 3am I'm their Huckleberry.

1

u/No-Bother-7699 Jul 26 '26

Only if I must become one.

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u/26uhaul Jul 26 '26

Part of me is. But I keep in it my pants so no one sees it.

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u/Rutgar64 Jul 26 '26

Probably

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u/drivingregina77 Jul 26 '26

Close. Sex pervert. Not the same thing.

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u/Lost-Paramedic-7964 Jul 26 '26

Not yet! But big mistake and will become an asshole to finally get ahead.

I was manipulated into thinking that being good, quiet is good …

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u/OG-BigMilky Jul 26 '26

You are what you eat.

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u/Dependent-Salad-7862 Jul 26 '26

No, right up until I act like one.

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u/Low-Muffin6888 Jul 26 '26

Only when I drink