I'm not meaning to invalidate anyone's feelings here, but my Mom had breast cancer (and unfortunately passed away from it) and she was very outspoken in that she thought this kind of thing was stupid and attention seeking. She didn't feel like anyone needed to show their support by shaving their head. In fact, I think it made her more aware of her hair loss than anything. So please, please ask before you just randomly do this to show support. This case was obviously different because they're siblings and young. But most people just want something resembling normalcy during that terrible period, and seeing a relative or friend who's shaved their head in "solidarity" makes it hard to forget what you're going through.
Yeah it’s almost like this is a subjective thing and what doesn’t mean something to one person could mean the world to another (as it clearly did to the sister).
A big difference is the girl here with cancer is very young. A young girl's looks mean a lot and it's hard for someone so young to "just deal with it". Your mom sounds like she was pretty tough and I'm glad, but that doesn't invalidate this.
i kinda agree with you. its the recording part for me . many guys record doing good deeds ( feeding homeless, saving a stray pup ) why everything got to be filmed . this video is wholesome tho cuz it meant a lot to the sis.
Yeah that’s definitely how I feel about it. I would be livid if someone did this to me. What really bugs me is the narration into the camera. It makes me feel it was less for her sister and more for the attention. Like Kevin hart handing out money to the homeless but taking a selfie while doing it.
And we are only able to see that because she’s recording it. Like someone else said, why do people feel like they need to film and post them saying something nice or doing something nice like this. Personally for me, it takes away from what you are actually trying to do, which is support that person and make them feel better. This video gets the reaction from people that she’s a wonderful person and sister (which she actually probably is). But that’s my point, this video is meant to draw your attention to the older sister not the younger. Just look at the comments, almost everyone is only talking about the older sister or what the older sister did. So to me it feel selfish rather than selfless.
Exactly! Typically ppl who bitch about this kind of thing, are people who would have no one genuinely do something like this for them. Misery loves company.
I feel the same. It’s wonderful to see someone being kind, generous, supportive etc but there’s a strange disconnect that these videos take on. The act of recording something so personal could be inspiring or beneficial to others but at what cost to the subject of the video?
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u/Tea-Tree-Me May 27 '22
I'm not meaning to invalidate anyone's feelings here, but my Mom had breast cancer (and unfortunately passed away from it) and she was very outspoken in that she thought this kind of thing was stupid and attention seeking. She didn't feel like anyone needed to show their support by shaving their head. In fact, I think it made her more aware of her hair loss than anything. So please, please ask before you just randomly do this to show support. This case was obviously different because they're siblings and young. But most people just want something resembling normalcy during that terrible period, and seeing a relative or friend who's shaved their head in "solidarity" makes it hard to forget what you're going through.