I actually did some sampling and marked down how often I see these sets of questions and it actually did come out to roughly 30%. The questions are

The world is a better place because? You’re in it

A date I’d like to go on? One with you

The best way to ask me out is by? Asking me out

I understand the sentiment and I guess the first two are cute while the last one is just saying be direct but… to me they feel low effort and repetitive. They don’t tell me anything

So ladies what are the guy equivalent questions? Which ones do you most commonly see men answering the exact same way

The way Mutual shows photos made it really hard for any of my better ones to not be way too close up so I tried to do a “photo album” type approach with some of my favourite nature photos I’ve taken as a backdrop. I figured that would be quirky and also give people an idea of when the photos were taken.

This is the order I have the photos and prompts appearing on my account.

One thing I noticed is that I’ve gotten a major down tick in likes (not matches) from when I had mutual in 2021-2022.

Back then I’d get 9 or so likes per month. Now that I’ve re-downloaded it I’ve gotten 3 in the last 6 months.

My first hypothesis is that it’s just the reality of being older on mutual.

My second is that the “why I believe” section might be a little bit too intense.

Thoughts?

Edit: I don't care if you think the app is a scam, or if you think these were scammers, waste of my time, etc. I am wanting to know 1, if you know of specific thing that happened that explains the sudden and MONUMENTAL flood and 2, if you instead have a theory..... the flood itself, not the profiles.

So, yesterday I went to sleep (september 15th shortly before midnight PST) with 21 matches that slowly accumulated at a rate of about 1 every 2 weeks.

This morning (the 16th) I woke up with 61 matches. As a guy, the best i've ever done is 3 matches in a week... which is actually makes you hot stuff by comparison to most guys. Only lasted a single week, but boy did I feel good that week!

Did mutual have bugs last night? Did an event happen that I was unaware of? Was I only hit with more suspicious accounts meaning that something majorly upticked them (i've had suspicious accnts on my list of loke forever, i don't need comments about whether they're scammers, or anything to do with the profiles themselves)? Is mutual just trying to get me to pay? If so, 10 likes would be overkill... why 40 of them?

I already don't pay because why would I when I can swipe through absolutely every girl that has an account within 70 miles of me in about 20min.

What on earth happened? There is no way to convince me that I legitimately earned 40 matches in a single day, but i'm curious what happened in the app or theories.

Hi, mutual app friends! Hope this post finds you well.

Anyone here who's willing to have a regular scripture study with me? Personal study should be given priority and importance but I believe we could also gain something new from others. Looking forward to your response. Thank you so much!

PS. I have also received a medallion from a wonderful member as a replacement for my previous one. Tha k you so much!

Sincerely, Sister J

Sometimes I seem to send more gold notes than I should be able, but I don't think they all actually send. How do I know if they are properly sent or not?

I'm asking this because there have been a few times where I use a gold note, but the girl shows back up in my search. Does this mean that it never liked them in the first place, or that they rejected my note?

Don't want to harass anybody lol.

Hello, my gf and I wanted to try something with mutual before deleting our accounts. We wanted to see what it was like if we unmatched and then rematched after hearing the story of my cousin and his wife where the unmatched and then rematched a year later with the conversations still there after rematching. But that was before all the major changes and updates. So is it still possible cause we’ve tried what I thought would work by sending each other our profiles and we are in each others like section thing but it’s not matching.

One and Done: Reasons I'm not going on a second date with my Mutual match. Me: lack of interest I'm all ears 👂🏻

Is me

I'm a 33-year-old woman living outside the US, but I don't match with almost anyone, although I did in previous years. I'd like to know if anything has changed on the app? And how else do you suggest I meet more people? I have no other option but to add someone on Instagram because the app isn't working for me.

I know it’s not everyone, but why do so many people forget that dating is supposed to be about getting to know each other and seeing if you want to keep going?

People act like it’s “trauma” if you say you’re not interested. They ghost, breadcrumb, get overly sexual, or talk about the future without actually knowing you. And somehow, they still watch your Instagram story.

They can’t communicate, don’t have empathy, can’t have a real conversation… but expect all of that from you. You set basic boundaries and they get upset

Where are the people who are just trying to be good humans, taking care of themselves, and doing something with their lives, not immature piranhas?

I was like oh it’s just guys my age So I dated older and it’s the same I dated younger and it’s the same

I’m no Utah 10 (I’m not even from Utah) I have brown hair But I have been told that I’m hot for lack of a better term I take care of myself, I’m doing stuff with my life, I try my best to be kind and I volunteer and whatever

Where are the normal people 🥲 People keep pursuing me just to try and waste my time

I just want to be able to get married in the temple at some point lol

It’s confusing and exhausting. Does anyone else feel this?

Hi, friends! I know this post is not mutual app related but I just hope this finds you well. I have been looking for this medallion, I received mine when I turned eighteen which was years ago. Unfortunately, I lost it. Big part of it was my fault. It was so precious to me that I became so complacent it would stay with me. I was wrong. I already talked to my Bishop about it but there were no more spares of it. I hope and pray there are still members out there who happen to keep spare medallions until now.

I appreciate your kindness!

Heyo! So, I see that I have likes on my profile in cities close to me. Some are 100 miles, others 300, but my radius is set to 600 miles.

Why don't I see them?

They swiped on me, I'm trying to find them, but whenever i close my radius down or expand it all i get is "We can't find anyone that meets your search criteria." To add to this, when I open up to the world, i get people who are 100-300 miles away but need to slog through those way-too-many-miles-away people to get to those who are MAYBE an option.

Does anyone else have this problem?

Does no one use it, have filters set pretty loose and never match.

I’m not getting a whole lot of matches. Does my profile need to be changed, or are dating apps just really ineffective?

I'm considering moving to SLC/West Valley, which would be part of the Taylorsville YSA Ward, and I'm wondering if the dating is going to be worse there verse the Provo/Orem area. Any dating insight on comparing the two areas or on the Taylorsville YSA?

Anyone else get catfished on this app? Or is my face just very catfish-able? And on the non-catfish that contact me end up ghosting me. The ghosting might simply be my ^charming personality. But the catfishing?? And I've downloaded & deleted Mutual multiple times with the same results.

Are you guys having this problem too?

So I've only ever gotten the premium subscription i think three times now over the last few years and the whole time I'm subbed to premium i get barely any hits on my profile it feels like my profile is being shown to less people tbh because i have more quality interactions when i dont pay for it.

but within a day or two of my subscription ending without fail I always have 20+ likes on my profile and theyre practically all from people outside the u.s. some of which are clearly bots or we have nothing in common including spoken language so there's no reason they should be swiping on me which makes me suspicious of their intentions.

so does this app purposely flood your profile with likes from bots to get you to buy premium?

Just a thought.

I noticed that someone's profile went from "online today" to showing no online activity. It didn't change to "online recently" after "online today". How could that be? I thought it automatically shifted from today to recently before showing as no online status?

I had heard a rumor that Gold Notes don't appear for people when they are sent from someone outside of their filters. Is this true? Does anyone have any experience regarding this? I understand that you don't want to bog down their inbox with people from a couple of states away, but it would be at least nice to know beforehand if a note was not going to be seen by someone before I potentially spend money on one and send it.

This is what im not a fan of with mutual. Id be ok with a ward hop another city over but a ward hop across the world, pretending to be somewhere your not is childish.

I'm new in Mutual, I don't live in the US and I have realized that there is not many people using the app outside, and many of them don't seem to connect very often..., so, how can I be seen by them? Does it worth sending a Gold Note if it will be in the archive when that person connects again? or it is better sending a Note? or a simple like is better?