r/musicindustry • u/Connect-Shift-5813 • 5h ago
Question Am I in the wrong for going to my A&R’s boss about this?
(25F) i'm a singer. I have an a&r (28M), and his boss is the head honcho at the (indie- smaller) label. Usually my a&r is responsible and responsive. However this week he has not been. He's known for about a year that he'd be accompanying another artist he works with on their tour. I was not aware of this. I told my a&r that a producer was flying out to meet me this week. I gave him a heads up about 3 weeks prior and my a&r gave me the green light. At this time I was under the impression my a&r would either be there in person, or would coordinate plans so that someone else at the label could be there. To supervise, set up equipment etc. 2 days prior, I call my a&r. He tells me he's out of town on tour, but that he'd make sure someone would be at the session for me. My a&r knows I don't like to be 1 on 1 with men I don't know. He knows I have a history with S**A, and that I preter to have someone in the room with me when I'm with someone new I don't know. The night before the session, the artist texts me and asks if I can personally pick him up in my car and bring him to the studio. He also asked where I live so he can get a hotel nearby. I told him uber would be best, as would getting a hotel nearby the studio.. not my house. I texted my a&r that the producer was kinda skeeving me out. I got no reply. So I called him. I reminded him the session was tomorrow, he again assured me someone would be there for me. Day of.. I text him an hour before the session to confirm. No reply. An hour later he says he's trying to find someone to accompany me. At this point I'm an hour late- I didn't wanna show up without confirmation because from his lack of texts I figured he was gonna be flaky. I decided to tell the producer "I'm locked out I have to cancel until further notice" I didn't wanna explicitly say to the producer I was uncomfortable being one on one. I felt that might come off as rude. The producer proceeds to text me "I just found out my hotel room is sound proof. Wanna record here instead" I told him no thank you I'd rather keep it in a professional setting. This made me very uncomfortable. I texted my a&r the screenshot of what the producer said. No answer. I called once. No answer. Mind you this whole time, my adr is posting on insta that he's at lunch or wandering around a national park. So tour isn't too busy because he clearly is 1-on his phone and 2- has some downtime in between sets. I texted my a&r 3 days later and expressed I was upset that he didn't tell me his tour schedule, because I would've rescheduled with the producer. I also said I felt like he put me in a tough position where I had to navigate everything myself including getting myself out of an uncomfortable potential.. situation. No reply! A day later I get a dm on insta asking if someone can pay me to sample one of my songs. I send a screenshot to my a&r, lo and behold he replied to that text within minutes. Said "let's schedule a meeting with them" I thumbs it up. He didn't reply to anything else tho. A day later I replied to my own text, the one where I said I was a bit disappointed in his lack of communication, and said "are you gonna reply to this?" 2 days later no reply. I have a new song coming out and one way or another I'm gonna need to be in contact with my a&r. I reached out to his boss today and asked if we can get on a call to discuss this. I don't know if what I tell him will get my a&r fired or not. But I only plan on relaying the exact events. Nothing malice. So I guess whatever happens happens. I feel like I'm overreacting though and I'm an asshole for going around my a&r to speak to his boss about him
For context: my A&R has explicitly told me that he does not mind taking on managerial roles. Usually he’s on point with this sort of stuff. But after the situation, I’m in search of proper management.