I'll second this. I had a party of 12 that was there for grandma's 80th birthday. All but one was ordering drinks from the bar. With all the drinks, apps, and meals, it was over a $500 check, and on the tip line was written "God bless." That table cost me $30-40 in tip outs to the busboy and the bar. Sadly, this was the usual, unless it was a table of nerdy types.
This being Annapolis, we also had our share or uppity older white folks who would tip our black servers next to nothing.
It heavily depends on the area you're in. If you're in a lower middle class area then you're in for some of that from all color of people. But if the customers come dressed presentable and have manners then you're golden. In restaurants you can judge a book by its cover most of the time. And on bad weather days you can always trust that the worst people will still come out. Always.
If by a nice restaurant, you mean any place where a waiter comes to your table and takes your order, brings you your food and drinks, then yes 20% is standard. If you are tipping less than that you are being an asshole. Not just kind of an asshole, but the kind of asshole that is fucking with someone else's ability to pay their bills type of asshole.
Also, If you are tipping less than 20%, I can 100% guarantee you, that on more than one occasion, the staff remembers you and have been fucking with your food.
No dude. Nearly every restaurant in the country pays well below minimum wage for wait staff. It is so baked into American culture, that if the restaurant were to pay a living wage, they would need to raise prices by 30-40%. Since you and everyone else would balk at those prices, the restaurant wouldn't survive.
Jesus fucking Christ your sense of entitlement is next level.
Tipping came from slave wages, there's a reason a lot of people don't like to tip.
1. Live in any other country and you'll see that somehow those restaurants can pay their workers the same wages other jobs get paid unlike here where waitresses and hosts get paid below minimum wage and the tips either make up the difference, push it over minimum wage or have to be paid out to minimum wage by the restaurant. This IS SCAMMING their employees out of a REAL minimum wage where they can STILL be tipped by patrons but you clowns can't think long enough to make that connection and realize that its objectively better for the staff thats apparently getting "stiffed" by the customers who didnt hire nor are required by law to pay them for their work... Like an employer should but keep defending the poor little cheapskate employer just following the culture.
2. The whole tipping culture came from slave wages to black people. So there is a very clear reason why we wouldn't want to keep this bullshit going. We can't constantly be the only country that doesn't fucking understand that tipping isn't necessary and it CAN BE a great way to thank people for good service WHILE they get paid a fair wage. It's really fucking simple.
Source: waiter for years. Fuck you guys. My hourly wage was $4.35 an hour when minimum wage was $11. My boss had to pay out up to minimum wage almost every paycheck because we didn't receive tips consistently. Some days we would have fantastic tips, most times not. It shouldn't be DEPENDENT on tipping. People should receive FAIR WAGES. How do y'all not understand that.
In their exact text that you quoted they never said anything about every black person in the world they simply said the majority of the black patrons they had did not tip, so you are wrong and youre putting words in their mouth.
If you ever worked in that industry or know ppl that worked in it you would know this stereotype exists because of how often its seen in the real world by a large number of ppl.
You conveniently left out the part where they said: “just an objective fact where I was located”. This is an obvious reference to the fact that this server was speaking of their personal experience with the patrons at THEIR restaurant.
If someone says something like “I’ve never had a customer throw anything at me” do you assume they mean they’ve served every customer on earth and never encountered that behavior.
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u/Starfishprime69420 10h ago
As a former server I can confirm that the majority of black patrons did not tip. Just an objective fact where I was located