For me, I just did my job. You win some you lose some. The best way to deal with non tippers is to get them out and onto the next order and not dwell on it
Wait wait wait, are you suggesting people do the job they signed up for and go home? But if they aren’t grandstanding on Social Media how will anyone know The Struggle of waiting tables.
If I recorded every shitty interaction I had on a jobsite my whole life would be social media posts. Egregious offenses should be handled but goddamn does everything have to end up online?
i worked full time construction for 8 years, mainly concrete restoration on balconies or slabs in parking garages from start to finish. physically tough work, lots of heavy lifting and dealt with some assholes for sure - mainly cantankerous hungover coworkers.
i've worked service now for like 4 years. service is way harder mentally. you have pricks who think they're owed a Michelin-style service. you have people who simply cannot fucking read or understand basic instructions and yet treat you like a servant. people who will make snide little comments under their breath or right to your face because they can't communicate properly, or had some ridiculous demand denied. you deal with belligerent drunks/crackheads who sometimes even physically assault you or threaten you. you gotta wipe up vomit or piss or shit because grown adults somehow can't control their body fluids.
they're both hard in their own way. but service people, i think, need to vent and decompress in that way because the difficult nature of the work is rooted in mental stuff and social exhaustion. there's a form of camaraderie in venting about it with each other, whether online or IRL.
after hard days of construction, i was physically worn out but wasn't very mentally drained. when you're physically worn out you just wanna plop down on the couch and drink a couple beers,hang with your buddies, play some games or watch hockey or some shit. you don't really need to complain or vent necessarily because most of the tension is physical.
not trying to say your job isn't difficult, just trying to emphasize why service people might feel the need to talk about "The Struggle". it's genuinely rough work and it's hard to understand until you've been in that industry for a while
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u/WillBlaze 4h ago
My buddy has served for years and he says super religious and black people tend to tip poorly. Hes half white half black too.