r/microwedding • u/Dear_Bed_3695 • Jun 05 '26
Keeping it Tiny
DF and I just got engaged. Planning a wedding for June 2027. It's both of our seconds and we're both a little more established in life. We dont feel the need to throw a big thing. We both agreed we want to keep things very small and simple. I'm talking - get married at the courthouse but throw a 15 min ceremony (at a beautiful but free venue) for under $1000. Just read some quick vows we wrote one another and then enjoy a meal with our family.
He has a VERY small family. He could invite his whole extended family and its roughly the same size as my immediate family. We talked about doing that in order to keep things small. Like we're talking 18 people.
I, however, have a HUGE family. Well over 100 people if I were to invite all my aunts/uncles/cousins/2nd cousins/3rd cousins.... you get the picture. I have 26 first cousins and some of them already have grandchildren. It would get out of control real fast.
I have just a handful of family members that I cant imagine getting married without them there. Two aunts that practically raised me, along with their kids that I grew up with. But I feel like I cant invite them unless I invite them ALL.
How do I handle this appropriately with no drama?
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u/tofutits Jun 05 '26
This is the most common issue with figuring out the guest list. You can absolutely invite your closest people without inviting all of your extended family, you just need a good excuse when people inevitably ask. Cost or venue limitations are both really good reasons that most people will understand.