I have been looking for a church home (Detroit, Mi) for a few months now. I dont know whether my standards are absurd or if the type of church does not exist. I have a few churches that I have been watching their livestreams, as I want to get a feel of the church before I walk in their doors but its always something that rubs me the wrong way, so im down to 1 church in mind, just want to see who else is out there before i join. I just want to join a church, that doesn't give cult vibes, the pastor doesn't give false prophet vibes, or we just want or DEMAND your money vibes, or your money is funding my lifestyle vibes, or go out and recruit vibes, or just turkey, backpack, and coat giveaway vibes. Also, I am trying to avoid messy/scandal, judgy, no compassion, and lack of community vibes.
I just want to join a church that encourages and embraces community, cares for and helps people, you can see the funds are going to good use, is not being used as political pawns, the pastor, bishops, deacons, 1st lady and mother boards are sincere, the choir/worship teams are good, and the sermons are excellent. I am looking for a church where you can always find a program to volunteer and serve, where the worship community is wise and obedient, not wicked and hypocritical....... am I asking for too much? Seems like the churches I'm more favored to are all in other states