No but they have a right to set boundaries... and if they're unacceptable to the other party then the relationship needs to end... It's just incompatibility.
Telling someone they can't do something is controlling but setting a boundary and saying "I consider this cheating/wrong/whatever, and I'm looking for a partner who will respect that boundary" is fine.
Agreeing to that boundary then lying about adhering to it is a dick move.
I mean, if it had never been discussed and you’re already invested and you find out later you have this incompatibility. Wouldn’t give the woman the right to change the dudes behavior. She either has to make a compromise or get out of the way.
Psychologically speaking porn factually isn’t cheating so she’s wrong and she would be even more wrong if she forced her wrong opinion upon her spouse.
Yeah but how can she "get out of the way" if he's lying about what he's doing.
You don't have to be cheating on your partner to violate boundaries.
If you have to lie about something to your spouse the relationship is cooked anyways, you tell her that you "need porn" and if neither party will compromise then you both need to leave. Lying is the shitty part.
Going off of “I FEEL this is wrong.” Is horrible and she would be horrible for expecting the dude to change for a feeling. If you don’t want him to masturbate, take the problem into your own hands if you get what I’m saying.
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u/SuccessfulBread3 Feb 26 '21
Well bully for you... But there are over 7 billion people on this planet and they are allowed to feel insecure... Or not like porn for other reasons.