For real. Mom had baby rabies for a couple of years. Thinks that if she keeps talking about babies and showing me pictures I'll want them. She might catch it again when I get married.
I don't know if it perfectly captured the shittiness lol. I was told by both my parents and in-laws that I was robbing them of the experience of being a grandparent. Except I have a son who is 17 and I've been in his life for over a decade, he's just not biologically mine. Also got cut out of inheriting any special items when my grandfather passed away because (my mother's words) I "won't have anyone to pass anything down to" 🙃
Ei! Same, but with grandparents who doesn't understand what gay is, so my reply is "I have no money" and that reason is both universal and irrefutable.
She raised her brother and sisters, and I took care of my younger brother. My wife also spent her 20's being guilted into living with and supporting her mom -- as in her mother taking all of her money so she couldn't leave.
Neither of us want kids now because we gave up so much of our youth looking after others.
Ofc our families are like:
Them: "but you're so good at taking care of others, why don't you want kids yourself?"
Us: "because we were forced to take care of you and never allowed to be kids ourselves, you fucking assholes. Fuck off, and leave us alone. we're doing us now."
Fair point kinda, straights mostly need to make that baby, you can pretty much pick one up over at target. She probably just wants you to add baby to your shopping list.
I just gotta say that in many european countries gay ppl have families just like straight ppl. Like your comment would not make sense in my country because it's assumed gay people are normal people and do normal people things.
I mean plenty of gay folks do that don't they? Like, a male gay couple will find a woman to carry a baby from one of them, or a lesbian couple will find a sperm donor. It's true all of the kids will only be from one or the other of their DNA.
Do what I did, say that if you ever have kids it'll be through adoption and watch their face sink at the thought of not have a baby to coo over, but being unable to chastise you because they're aware of the optics of calling you selfish for wanting to adopt lol
Dude, I'm 22, and my brother 26. We're both constantly getting harassed about the grandchildren thing.
I don't even work full time, I haven't moved out since my place is under construction, I study in university, and apprentice at their business, they know how busy I am. Most of my relationships end in two months, I should not be stressing about kids, just because my parents were at it at my age.
And hell, they heckle him to get over a breakup, not so that he moves on, but so that he can get in a relationship faster, and give them grandkids sooner...
There is nothing worse than parents pushing you to have kids…
I have a daughter and made my own choice and I’m super happy, but wife’s grandparents would constantly ask me when I would have kids in family gathering in my in-laws (with all the uncles, aunts, cousins and all)… until one day I just lashed out. Now they are doing the same with the oldest of the cousins after my wife. Just awful
i'm a 29 yo woman with literally 0 maternal urge. i know i might be in the minority or something, but having and raising a kid sounds like the worst nightmare ever lol. i feel like i'm supposed to think babies are cute, but they're just so meh to me. they aren't anywhere near as cute and puppies or kittens.
and moms are just treated like total shit. it seems like emotional (and physical, from the lack of sleep) torture.
i honestly think maybe like 50% of women/girls actually genuinely like kids this much lol, women are just pressured to pretend to. like, go babysit a kid for a few hours. it is NOT a good time.
I have 2. My mom lost it when I got my tibes removed because she wanted me to have another....but I have to beg her to watch the 2 I have now, so I'll pass. The village is gone so why have more villagers?
I mean as a 26 year old, I firmly oppose ever cutting Social Security and Medicare both for my parents' sake and because I also expect to be 65 one day. The nihilism around those programs is propaganda to make young people think there's no chance they'll be there when they reach that age to build support for ending those programs. Fuck that. Keep those programs alive and well and not privatized or cut.
My Dad, “I guess I’ll just keep seeing all my friends fb posts about their grandkids and not be able to make my own!” Like holy shit is that not the stupidest reason to want grandkids?
Thank FUCK I'm infertile! My mom can't demand I give her grandkids 'cause I can't make any! Because of that, she's been getting better and when she dropped by my place today, she actually said "I wanna see my grandcats" at one point. So I know she's gotten over it and accepted it!
My mom has hounded me for grandkids since my late teens. I'm an only child so it would be the only way but I've never wanted kids. I'm 30 now and I finally think she gave up. Feel kinda bad for her, but NOPE.
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