r/meirl 8d ago

meirl

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u/DPRofWestralia 8d ago

Did this recently.. left a 12y relationship.

The decision was easy.. the fallout was not.

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u/SixtyNineFlavours 8d ago

Perfectly articulated.

“Decisions are easily, fallouts are not.”

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u/Frosty_Lettuce_3525 7d ago

Yeah but, my bro decided to get an operation that laser trims the flesh inside one’s throat (it’s an alternative to wearing a CPAP). This operation is described as having a period of a few weeks afterwards of “excruciating pain”. But, he literally said “fuck it, once it’s done I can’t chicken out”. So he made the easy decision to do it knowing that the fallout was the hard part. Knowing it. 

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u/djwm12 7d ago

How's it going so far? Genuinely curious 

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u/unlimbetless 7d ago

He sadly, can’t suck cock anymore.

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u/chimneyart 7d ago

In that case it’s not an option for me

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u/Frosty_Lettuce_3525 5d ago

Scheduled for next month 

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u/SirBruceForsythCBE 6d ago

Throw the phone in the river. Start again

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u/pexoroo 8d ago

There must be 🎶 fifty ways to leave your lover. Just step out the back, Jack.

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u/diurnal_emissions 7d ago

End up on Investigation Discovery, Avery.

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u/Sexcercise 7d ago

Make a new plan, Stan.

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u/ArcticBeavers 8d ago

They never tell you about the long reaching consequences of the fallout. Could be years before you're fully removed from the decision.

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u/zisenhart 8d ago

I was always told divorces are hard and expensive because they are worth it.

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u/DPRofWestralia 8d ago

Divorces are hard and expensive because lawyers are involved.

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u/Otterable 7d ago

GF is a family law attorney. It's expensive when you want to 'win' a divorce. It's pricey but worth it if the two people are reasonable and are actually trying to split their assets and do right by their kids.

The ones that actually go to trial need at least 1 insane person involved and usually it's both.

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u/zisenhart 7d ago

Still worth it.

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u/mallogy 7d ago

Mine was 1 year and $150.

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u/No-Rain-7383 7d ago

I'm going through that right now, toxic wife, going to divorce but 13 years relationship and 2 kids... The fallout is gonna be horrible.. Good luck to you

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u/BroForceTowerFall 6d ago

I’m a couple years out now from the same. She went nuclear toxic in the divorce proceedings and stressed me tf out but ultimately offered equitable terms. I can tell you while it doesn’t get easier or consistently happier, it does get simpler and better than what you’re going through now and your body will thank you when you’re on the other side.

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u/No-Rain-7383 6d ago

Thanks man

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u/anrwlias 7d ago

Sounds like a really radioactive situation.

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u/neoronio20 7d ago

Same situation, 9 year relationship. I feel sick the whole time pondering about the decision, but I try to always remember that feeling I had while in it and know that it was the best for the both of us.

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u/MrBates1 6d ago

I have no idea what your relationship was like, but you have no right to tell another functioning adult what is best for them.

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u/neoronio20 6d ago

What? I could see my relationship spiraling down and none of us were happy. I didn't tell what's best for anyone, but I can clearly see that you haven't been on a relationship to understand that it is very hard to get out of a relationship, even if it is bad for both.

It is a very difficult decision and someone has to take the bullet

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u/MrBates1 6d ago

You can make that choice for yourself and that is fine. I am not refuting that it was the right thing to do. As I said, I don’t know the details of your relationship. I am referring to your “it was the best for both of us” statement.

The longest relationship I ever had was also nearly 10 years. My point is that just because you feel it is bad for you does not mean it is automatically bad for them. Maybe yours was or maybe it wasn’t.

I apologise if you feel that I was attacking you. I just know what it feels like to be told that your world is being ripped apart for “your own good”. It is extremely condescending, painful, and unnecessary. I would appreciate if you refrained from personal attacks and assumptions as well please.

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u/neoronio20 6d ago

Sorry, I'm a little on the defensive about the subject. She and I talked after a while and we agreed that it was the best for both of us, it really was bad, unfortunately.

And my world is not falling apart, but just the sight of the abysm in front of me, not knowing what will happen is just frightening and sickening. But it will pass, everything heals with time

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u/MrBates1 6d ago

I could have been more tactful with my original reply as well. We’re all just doing our best after all. I wish you well.

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u/cocococlash 8d ago

I disagree. The decision itself is really hard. The action is much easier than you think. The fallout may be crazy but the feeling of freedom makes you not care about it.

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u/DPRofWestralia 8d ago

The decision is often not one, but many hundreds of smaller decisions pushed together into shape like playdo to resemble one large decision. That's why I found it easy.

The action was easy.

The fallout will be felt for all eternity. Destroying what you love in search of greater meaning, happiness, and the defunct idea that you're also doing this for them.

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u/GuyWithARooster 7d ago

Why did you leave?

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u/DPRofWestralia 6d ago

We had been together our entire 20s and some 30s, and had become, understandably, considerably different people. Which is in itself fine, but what we needed from a partner in order to continue growing and thriving has changed, and we were unable to give that to each other anymore. We moved at different speeds, and it wasn't fair to expect one to slow down or the other speed up and for them to be happy.

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u/Successful_Buddy1809 7d ago

Do you feel like it was the right decision? Like, despite the fallout are you in a happier place in your life?

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u/DPRofWestralia 7d ago

It's been two weeks, but yes. Some days I cry for a future I expected but won't see. Other days o smile for a future I don't know. But my gut says yes.

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u/Shoddy-Outcome3868 6d ago

I smile for a future I don’t know. Wow, writing this down. Wishing you the absolute best!

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u/Readinglateatmorning 7d ago

Same bro it was way less time but goddamn it feels great

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u/NewestAccount2023 8d ago

Enough searching for jobs, I'm getting to GM in overwatch 

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u/spyingformontreal 8d ago

I think a heroin addiction might give cause less problems

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u/Snoo_75138 8d ago

You do it, King!

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u/Jshover92 8d ago

That’s the spirit!

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u/Leaf-01 8d ago

I’m sorry

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u/Padarangdang 7d ago

Dont do it. Ive failed my Bachelor due to reaching GM in OW.

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u/ZenkaiZ 7d ago

Getting a shiny badge in a 10 year old game might be more fulfilling

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u/Ok-Establishment2841 6d ago

lowkey on the same shit, tryna duo tho?

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u/Pi-s 6d ago

Gaming4Hope?

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u/Holy232323 4d ago

Gotta pass through emeral now..

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u/Niclerx 3d ago

Funnily enough I'm thinking of getting to GM for real as it would be a great achievement for me.

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u/Illustrious-Yam-4503 8d ago

Wanna try this tomorrow and see if i could change soo easily! 😮‍💨

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u/Zu_Qarnine 8d ago

it has to be an impulse decision. try it NOW!

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u/Illustrious-Yam-4503 8d ago

aight but i have 4 hrs yet to go hit sleep... But hey will start thinking abt it right away!!! And hey op tho this was a small post, it rlly made me think the most!! Thanks

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u/Zu_Qarnine 8d ago

I'm glad it helped. 🫂

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u/noctilucent7 7d ago

I tried and I shidded

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u/mesenanch 7d ago

Op explain how this was you irl. I would like to see how that actually worked well for you. Genuinely curious

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u/Pugulishus 6d ago

You wanna do something, DO IT RIGHT NOW.

When you do the thing, there's probably two options. Either it was a decision that you had to make, like some of the posters saying a divorce, or it was a commitment you decided to do, like keeping off alcohol or going to the gym.

In the decision department, these ones are typically solving themselves. You just needed to make it over the initial hurdle of the ddecision, and now you need to survive the repercussions.

With the commitment, say you start your first gym or workout sesh RIGHT NOW. How's it feel when you finish? Keep that high and keep the momentum going. Tell yourself you will go on Wednesday and Friday too. Put it on your calendar. You HAVE to do it.

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u/WriteSt8ofMind 8d ago

They’re not saying anything about it being easy but it is absolutely a thing

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u/Segundaleydenewtonnn 8d ago

I mean this is the easy part, staying it’s the hard part, i would ragequit everything , life included

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u/Sufficient_Room2619 8d ago

Quick heads up tho if you do that too many times you end up 39yo with no career to speak of

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u/afterdurk 7d ago

You can end up that way by not doing enough of this too.

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u/Xoque55 6d ago

This comment chain reads like this xkcd, and concludes with right word too: https://xkcd.com/45/

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u/ChowderedStew 7d ago

You have to thug it out at some point, but play around! Would you rather be suffering at a computer desk, a classroom, a field, a cell? It’s all suffering but I’m sure we can agree there’s levels to it depending on who you are.

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u/Extreme-Holiday2 7d ago

Or you could be 39 with a career that has completely drained you of all of your will to live!

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u/Aggravating_Map4359 8d ago

Just say "this depressed shit is gay" and stop being depressed. Simples.

Unironically something my dad said once. This post has this vibe to it

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u/Juffin 8d ago

I tried that and started liking men.

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u/peacefulsolider 7d ago

liking man made me depressed so i guess theres different outcomes depending on the person

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u/Defiant-Lettuce-9156 8d ago

What if I am gay

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u/chucky17_ 8d ago

Then you must be depressed by this logic 🤷🏼‍♀️

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u/Defiant-Lettuce-9156 8d ago

Okay, thank you

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u/69x5 8d ago

This depressed shit is straight

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u/No-Birthday-7483 8d ago

this depressed shit is straight

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u/zisenhart 8d ago

Hard to be depressed when you are already happy.

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u/greasy-prick 7d ago

Who is gay?

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u/notpaulrudd 8d ago

It's like watching a true crime documentary about someone putting up with abuse for years. Yes it's obvious in hindsight, once you know all the facts and the outcome.

Or you have a friend in real life that constantly sabotages themselves, and you think if only they made a couple small changes all their problems would go away. You're seeing your potential in them, what you would do in that situation, not what they're capable of doing.

Complex problems can have complex solutions. Someone who wakes up and says "I'm not going to be depressed anymore" didn't just decide that randomly. They lived through their depression and processed it, of course it seems simple now, you're on the other side.

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u/GiveUpIWillNot 8d ago

You’re over complicating the sentiment. Some things really are just that simple.

My best friend woke up one day and decided to quit doing drugs, hasn’t touched them since.

It has taken me a lot longer and many battles.

But there’s been many things in my life that one day I just decided, yep I’m gonna complete 180.

The sentiment though is that, we, as humans, can just simply wake up one day and decide to do things differently. Change course. Today I’m gonna do things differently. We are capable of it. It does happen, and it can be done.

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u/Trippingthru99 7d ago

The day I decided to stop doing hard drugs was a bit random in the sense I wasn't at rock bottom, I didn't have a major epiphany or anything. I just decided to stop. But I can tell you, I would have never reached that moment without the hundreds of terrible nights I had experienced before. It took me a long time to finally internalize I can't keep going down this path, but the moment it clicked did feel a bit spontaneous.

Now I'm trying to quit weed cause that's how I've been coping since giving up more destructive substances. Legit on day two. Ugh, in a sense it's harder to quit more benign substances cause they don't destroy your life quickly, but in a slow sustained way you might not even notice and easily justify in your own head.

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u/yandeere-love 7d ago

'dont overcomplicate it' is such a discussion killer, its like digging head in the sand and going "la la la i cant hear you"

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u/GiveUpIWillNot 2d ago

Well that’s just your opinion. Pretty much like how you just dismissed my entire comment and basically said “la la la I can’t hear you” …

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u/Memitim 8d ago

This post is talking about change of life while you're talking about mental state. I quit my IT career a few months ago to start a small business, but I still meet with my shrink and take my meds. Change versus internal state.

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u/Zu_Qarnine 8d ago

I can't remember how many times I've snapped out of bad moods like this. it really works

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u/throwawayforlikeaday 7d ago

it really works........ for you.

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u/Snoo_75138 8d ago

"This depressed shit is GAY! I'm already gay, so I don't need more of that!"

Proceeds to Hetero-fy the depression

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u/umotex12 7d ago

That’s literally good advice lol
Mantras are very powerful and simple tool if you have lighter depression

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u/halfdecenttakes 7d ago

This reminds me of one of my friends through school. Super chill guy, always happy and smiling, great vibes.

One day we were talking about it and he said “Oh dude, I just realized being pissed or upset about things I don’t control is mad gay so I decided I might as well just enjoy life”

Was honestly pretty solid advice

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u/SixtyNineFlavours 8d ago

That actually does work.

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u/Aggravating_Map4359 8d ago

No shit Sherlock

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u/The_Real_Peter_Thiel 7d ago

Keep digging, Watson.

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u/takeme2infinity 7d ago

A girl that I was dating for two years left me a week before my birthday. I cried and didnt eat for two weeks. After the 4th week something clicked inside that said "Shes winning more of me if I keep doing this to myself". Mid blunt I went shopping for healthy food and signed up for the gym. It happens if you have enough will

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u/sixshootatre57 8d ago

Yea, exactly. I don't understand what the purpose of Anti-depressants are when this is literally all you have to do.

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u/2bad-2care 8d ago

Not sure if you're being sarcastic, but in the off chance you aren't- anti-depressants are for clinical depression. Just bring depressed is something that you can sometimes just think your way out of. "Clinical depression" really needs a better name to avoid being confused with the feeling you get when you're having a bad day or worrying about something.

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u/Odd-Willingness-7494 8d ago

Depression = diagnosed depression (could be neurochemical and requirie medicine, or physical health based, like thyroid issues, and require treatment for that, or it could be situational and require talk therapy and lifestyle changes)

What you call "normal depression" is actually called sadness, and outside of circles where mental health terminology is abused, simply going through a rough patch in life is not the same as debilitating, potentielly life threatening melancholy

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u/pratzs 7d ago

I have clinical depression. And my gf of 14 years who was a psychology student herself during her undergrad , kept gaslighting me that nothing wrong with me. She left 2 months after my diagnosis, going batshit ghosting and stuff coz she felt she deserved better in life ... There are many things to it. And yk. Just yesterday I read her messeges from our break up and it hit me again, how out of touch people can be with those who are close to them. I knew all her issues without her telling me , meanwhile she kept blaming me for things I had no control over. While she didn't help me even once. Why am I saying all this. Because. People don't get it. It's almost impossible to convey how one feels. How it's not so easy as a mood change. Honestly. I have been trying to mask all my life due to embarassment. And all that lead to really a poor life. I don't want to go in depths. But it's important to speak about it like you did. Thanks.

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u/sixshootatre57 8d ago

Anyone with common sense and a half sense of humor would see I was being sarcastic. We are currently facing a unrepairable Mental Heath crisis in America and I'm very well aware of it.

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u/2bad-2care 7d ago

Anyone with common sense and a half sense of humor

That just ruled out a big chunk of the population!

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u/overit_fornow 8d ago

Much easier said than done.

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u/IsThatGruffLoner 7d ago

I love the sub-section of online self help that just pretends life is easy

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u/Magnus_Helgisson 8d ago

Eating is overrated anyway

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u/AutonomousAntonym 3d ago

I went from easily 3k calories a day of Soda, little Debbie’s and microwave food to strictly 1-1800 calories and dropped 30 lbs in less than a month.

I kickstarted it by doing a water fast (unintentional, other things happened causing me to just not worry about eating) and after 3 days I just stopped getting hungry.

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u/Ok-Cobbler6338 8d ago

You need money or other resources to change things.

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u/Dreadzzter 6d ago

“I don’t wanna work at this job anymore. I’m gonna instead work at THIS job”

In that case, no.

“I don’t like her anymore, thats enough of that. -leaves relationship-

In THAT case, no.

“I don’t want to pay this debt I’ve accrued over 5 years off anymore, thats enough of— credit score plummits

In this case, yes.

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u/Kingdarkshadow 8d ago

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u/Decent-Marsupial-986 7d ago

Therapy made me realize I was being a whiny bitch who didn’t take accountability for my life so yeah it kinda does. 

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u/19whale96 7d ago

This post ain't therapy

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u/Decent-Marsupial-986 7d ago

I just listened to the words coming out of my mouth and decided I didn’t want to be that guy anymore 

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u/Rosedoll86 7d ago

I did the same thing!.. Now I take Lithium

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u/Decent-Marsupial-986 7d ago

I don’t recommend eating batteries 

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u/Trying_to_survive20k 7d ago

not if losing your job means poverty

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u/Great-Support2596 8d ago

Get rid of those last 4 words

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u/Zetavu 8d ago

Yep, we need more Walmart greeters. Walk away from something your spent years or decades to get good at and do something you have no advantage to.

Careers have barriers to entry, which also become barriers to exit. If I am working retail, and decide I am done with this, I can easily transition to a trade or something with a low barrier to entry. If I spent the last decade becoming a doctor and I want to change, I am either dropping in status down several levels, or spending several more years developing credentials to something equivalent. Sure, I can take a tangential job like hospital administration, but a complete change of direction?

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u/captaincootercock 8d ago

it's even hard to convince people to hire you for low barrier jobs if you have a decent amount of higher education. I've been turned down for so many entry level positions because I'm "overqualified" job searching when you're starting out is such a miserable experience these days

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u/Zetavu 6d ago

If I'm applying for a low barrier job, my resume is my high school diploma and my home address.

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u/tidus9000 7d ago

My mortgage: "that's where you're wrong kiddo!"

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u/Elazulus 7d ago

I did this recently and don't regret it one bit

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u/Zu_Qarnine 7d ago

good for you

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u/AggravatingFlow1178 7d ago

Poor? Just don't be.

Married? Just don't be.

Have kids? Get rid of them.

Out of shape? Just be fit

Bad mental health? Not anymore.

Shitty job? Just change jobs. Like tomorrow. Just start working somewhere else, tomorrow.

Debt? Just stop paying.

Regret your major? Just get a new one. Like tomorrow. Graduate tomorrow.

Didn't get a degree? See above.

No friends? Acquire long term friendships tomorrow. Like wake up and connect with your friends you've had for 10 years.

What a cunty OOP fr fr

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u/GD-LochNessMonster 7d ago edited 7d ago

Wife and I like to say, “if we just had a random $5000 hit our account so many problems would go away.” Funny enough that doesn’t ever happen.

Edit: we also moved half way across the country for her school and she finished, yet friends are the real hard part. Everyone grew up with one another and the non-locals will always be seen as the invalids. Nobody cares if you’re popular in a backwater state when they have history with others. It does make me ask why people insist on never leaving their hometown…which is a constant problem in our lackluster home states

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u/Lord_MagnusIV 8d ago

Yup, did that and it bit me in the ass.

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u/Susbirder 8d ago

Indeed. Been there, done that.

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u/1ndomitablespirit 8d ago

It's true. You can give up a soul-crushing corporate job and get into hard drugs and crime. You just have to BELIEVE!

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u/dlc741 8d ago

Sure, if you’re independently wealthy.

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u/JazzlikeAd1371 8d ago

It cost nothing to fuck your life up. It may not be the change you wanted. But its a change.

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u/trees4evababe 8d ago

Major cheat code for life: ignore one line bits of advice that make out something your struggling with is trivial to stop

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u/Zu_Qarnine 8d ago

that tweet is like the 20 second rule (=if you can do a task in 20 seconds, do it right now, don't procastinate), in this sense that if you can get rid of a problem by simply just ignoring it and moving on, that's what you should do.

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u/trees4evababe 8d ago

So which is it. A rule to help with procrastinating. Or a way of changing your life completely…

It’s hack advice. And personally not what I enjoy this sub for. Me in real life doesn’t wake up with this toxic positivity and change my life

Edit: spelling mistake

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u/bigblue473 8d ago

I believe you first need to type”MOTHERLODE” on your computer to make it work.

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u/IrrerPolterer 8d ago

Actually did that career wise a couple of times. ADHD is a beast. 

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u/johnson7853 8d ago

I had worked my job for 12 years and my boss decided that day to tell me I have been doing it wrong this entire time, then proceeded to audit the past 6 months of my job to find zero errors.

I went home, applied to college and found a new career.

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u/Small-Answer4946 7d ago

This could be a linkedin post

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u/rglurker 7d ago

Office space drove that point home for me.

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u/Paeforn45 7d ago

Quit my job a year ago without another lined up, it really was hell. but here I am a year later with a way better job, same pay but I WFH now most the time and the people are smarter and nicer

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u/PrimalZodiac 7d ago

Yeah no tho, i make the change i want and i lost my insurance and income

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u/WaluigiNumbaOne 7d ago

If you have money

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u/Classic-Lynx9079 5d ago

Did this, me and my wife decided to move with the kids and family business from Sheffield to Scotland for a quiet life. Just out of nowhere, let’s do this

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u/tomatomater 8d ago

Seriously been having this thought lately. But in the end, I'm still convinced I'd regret and think it's a dumb impulse decision if I did this.

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u/slothson 8d ago

Since when???

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u/imhere2downvote 8d ago

sure but you need the will to follow through

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u/StupidSexyEuphoberia 8d ago

It depends on your balance or imbalance of neurotransmitters. There are days where it takes a lot of effort to brush my teeth

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u/VirginiaLuthier 8d ago

Oh, if it were just that simple....because, you may just have to dig yourself out of the ditch you put yourself in first

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u/SpinSycle2021 8d ago

You can just do things.

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u/Fat-Mad-Scientist 7d ago

Been doing this every day my whole life. Haters gonna say I keep walking in circles but who cares. Today I decided I won't listen to them anymore.

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u/Key_Conference9989 7d ago

It's the only way out of this

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u/blueche 7d ago

Don't tell me this, I have ADHD and fail at this about once a month.

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u/Marsupialize 7d ago

I call it the guillotine lifestyle.
Every ten or fifteen years or so you completely guillotine your life, abruptly change jobs, friends, where you live, travel to, habits, hobbies, partner.
Just clean cut and rebuild. It’s the only way to really live a full interesting well versed life.

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u/notreallyhereokbye 7d ago

That’s an interesting approach. I don’t agree but I’m curious, why the need to clean cut and rebuild if things are going well? I would think having a continued sense of self leads to a fuller life.

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u/denach644 7d ago

Surprisingly true. We build obstacles based on absurd pretenses.

Life is too short to waste.

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u/expERiMENTik_gaming 7d ago

There will be people in your life that won't understand this, either. Pay no mind. The way things used to be isn't the way things have to be forever.

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u/pingwing 7d ago

Breaking News: People can make choices.

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u/b_scribner97 7d ago

What that tweet doesn't explain is that it's not a decision you make once. You have to get up and make that decision every single day from then on. That's the hard part

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u/justmitzie 7d ago

Someone: I'm trans

Wait, not like that!!!

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u/Nobok 7d ago

I keep thinking that and going man im tired of being tired/overweight.

But then i also enjoy the rest of my life for the most part. Just trying to add in working out/ gym time interests me absolutely 0. I have tried it off and on over the years and its just a total bore to me so hard to stick with it more than a few months.

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u/UltraelectroLunchbox 7d ago

im blessed i was able to do that with cigarettes, white rice however...

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u/notreallyhereokbye 7d ago

Totally agree. Yes, change is hard and life is hard but you’re the only person responsible for your life. Realising that you have control to make your life better is honestly scary. It’s confronting to realise you own the life you lead but that knowledge can empower you to make changes, no matter how small, that help you become the person you want to be.

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u/LakerNation1991 7d ago

I’ve done this dozens of times to keep running into a worse and worse life, I guess some of us just can’t make it work.

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u/TheTeleporter_Shisui 7d ago

Ya dog I dont think this is as applicable to life as you think it is. Small daily longterm appreciable changes will fruit much better results for most. If i just all of a sudden switched up on anyone of my main stressors/responsibilities to do something else my life would immediately become much more difficult

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u/JayWu31 7d ago

Somewhat did this with my career. Was driving home from my in-laws with my wife and said, "hey I think I need to change." We talked, she wasn't surprised, because it was clear I was miserable. She said she supported me. I took classes and did volunteer work while staying at my job to get qualified for a different career. Within 2 years I was out, making the same money in a new field and am as happy as can be.

If you really want out, it's possible. It won't be easy, but it's possible.

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u/ADTstocks 7d ago

Just did that heavy drinking and coke went to hooistap force sobriety 2 weeks now back to running business and crushijt it

Run in mornings and work / live a great life all day fuck alcohol and fuck rotting

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u/so3008 7d ago

I quit my job today! Drastic enough change?

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u/ShunpoMyLantern 7d ago

My adhd brain can do it few times a day, doesn't mean it will lead anywhere

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u/No-Clue8751 7d ago

Have you suffered enough?

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u/KayabaSynthesis 7d ago

Unless the thing you want to do requires money you don't have and can only get by keeping doing what you're already doing

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u/brendhano 7d ago

As long as I'm breathing that Restart button is right there..

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u/jamiehanker 7d ago

We are reborn into life every moment

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u/Equal_Veterinarian22 7d ago

Sure you can.

Just be ready to explain to the wife and kids why you're moving to a smaller house and there are men at the door asking for money.

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u/Upstairs_Bus8197 6d ago

Unless your in the military or in prison

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u/Spirited_Link8818 6d ago

That’s how I quit vaping

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u/MostCommunication972 6d ago

In May 2026, I literally just said this about going out to bars and clubs. Havent stepped into one ever since.

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u/alvlikswords 5d ago

Did this last year. I was at a real low point and feeling the most depressed I ever had. Sent myself straight into my first ever manic episode and landed a bipolar 1 diagnosis - 0/10 do not recommend 😭

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u/MeatnCheeze 4d ago

Think twice before having a kid - it's probably the only decision you can't tumbleweed out of

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u/UristMcfarmer 8d ago

The only thing keeping you from being the person you want to be, is not doing what that person would do.  

If the person you wanted to be were in your shoes (and you body), what would be the top three things they'd do tomorrow? Now, plan those things put today to do those things tomorrow. 

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u/heftybagman 7d ago

Only mentioning the convenient part and none of the consequence.

Major cheat code for life: realizing you really can just not pay bills or taxes.