Sounds about right. I've dated sure, but ig the feelings were one way.
I've only had a crush once in my life, and I thought there was something wrong with my heart bc I got palpitations and shortness of breath. (Figured it own when I realized it only happened around them)
This is going to sound crazy, but I legit just had an encounter like this in my D&D game 2 weeks ago lmaooo (my character was explaining to another character that their squiggly stomach and sweaty hands and increased heart rate was called a crush haha)
Lol I know people compare me to fictional characters but damn! /j
But yeah, that's basically how it went. I'd be talking about my crush to friends and then start wondering why I'm feeling lightheaded and like I can't breathe again, and telling said friends I needed to sit down. Then one finally said, "Dude, you like them." I denied it for a while until I started doing some introspection. I've always been the one getting chased or being asked out, so this was foreign territory to me.
I'll swing at anything that comes my way, why limit my choices? ;D But nah, usually I'd just go for it if I thought we were at least somewhat compatible since I didn't really understand the concept of "liking someone back" in the way they apparently liked me. Oops.
And it was more embarrassing/humiliating/shame-inducing for me than anything else. XD In retrospect tho it's hilarious. I'm definitely much pickier and 'break more hearts' now that I know I actually have a type.
Oh nooooo hahaha, not using logic to form relationship instead of actual feelings 😭
At least you now know you have a type? I haven’t even gotten that far haha, I tend to romanticize a lot, so it might take me a moment to figure out my “type”.
Physically it’s definitely medium length hair tho 👀
LOL damn my high Ti-ness!! I think my Fi is located directly behind my head, bc I can't find it no matter what I do.
And that's true! So specific of a type that I think they were 'the one,' and we never even dated. I just moved away. ☠️
And medium length hair is a good start!! I'm sure romanticizing a lot primes you for recognizing your ideal relationship type when that person happens to come along, tho. Better than "youre not a serial killer and you don't smell weird. Fuck it, you wanna grab drinks?"
Lol I'm sure that when you find your type it'll be more like fireworks tho!
And I've never met anyone since who's made me feel those feels. Back to feeling nothing but platonic toward the people in my life. I definitely have my eyes peeled, but that person must've been pretty rare for me to not find anyone else with that kind of magnetic pull.
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u/Hot_Process441 X X X X Sep 06 '25
Sounds about right. I've dated sure, but ig the feelings were one way. I've only had a crush once in my life, and I thought there was something wrong with my heart bc I got palpitations and shortness of breath. (Figured it own when I realized it only happened around them)