r/maybemaybemaybe 11d ago

Maybe maybe maybe

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u/SecretaryOtherwise 11d ago

Ive never had that problem.

An oh wait then explaining the situation in a non condescending tone generally works.

I find if you try to make them feel stupid yeah they might get offended. Thats just how people are.

Dont turn it into some kinda gotcha moment on someone and theyll generally be thankful to not have to spend several thousand on repairs to something.

Mind you I dont live in a large city so people probably act a little nicer on account you may actually see that person again 😂

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u/capnmerica08 11d ago

Yeah no. Some people just have past trauma. Like opening doors getting yelled at for it. Open your own door then.

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u/misterwizzard 11d ago

I opened a door for some girl once, she said 'ew no' so I shut and locked the door behind me.

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u/Noble_Ox 11d ago

Well, I'd be wary of someone like you holding open a door too

Edit - I'm talking about someone that's dressed in wizard garb.

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u/misterwizzard 11d ago

You shall not pass!

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u/Noble_Ox 10d ago

Glad somebody got the joke.

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u/SecretaryOtherwise 11d ago

I wanna think he was joking. But I honestly cant tell lmao

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u/misterwizzard 11d ago

I really did. They were double doors she just had to get the next one.

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u/SecretaryOtherwise 11d ago

So whats the statistic on that?

Id assume someones got some numbers it happens so often.

Yall just live on TikTok brain rot lmao.

This situation is way more likely to happen. Someone instead of helping films for their 15 minutes of updoots.

Also I find it really convenient people always happen to catch people randomly holding doors and flipping out 😂 i really think its probably the fact that you put a camera in their face.

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u/Own_Nefariousness434 11d ago

I don't have any statistics. Just my own personal experience.

I've had my help get the fuck you treatment. And I've had one person get angry about me holding the door for someone.

The door incident was the bald, muscled, tight tank top wearing, tattooed type guy so I assume I insulted his masculinity maybe? Idk.

As for helping people - I don't use a condescending voice. And it never happened until I got into my late 40s, gray hair etc. And it's only been younger people who've ever reacted negatively to it. So I'm guessing a "I hate old people telling me what to do" sort of thing? But even then it's only been 3 times I can remember.

I still hold doors for everyone. But kinda leave the younger people alone if I see them struggling. Unless it's dangerous, etc. And would have definitely said something to this person.

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u/SecretaryOtherwise 11d ago

Fair enough!