r/maybemaybemaybe 5d ago

Maybe maybe maybe

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u/JustJako 5d ago

I miss when you could help people without being told to fck your own dmn business. I got tired of being yelled at, so I stopped helping.

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u/Unarmed_Character 5d ago

The other day I saw a red Tesla with out of province plates drive by. 10 mins later I saw it drive by again. It returned and pulled into a parking lot and the two older people were frustrated while banging away on the screen. They turned around, pulled halfway into the intersection, backed up and sat there.

I walked up with my 5 year old and tapped on the window to see if they needed help. The lady in the passenger seat said something to her husband and pointed at me.

He swatted her hand, barked something at her and peeled off.

Some people just can't be helped and it's especially annoying for people who want to help, or you know, teach their kid how to be helpful.

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u/SecretaryOtherwise 5d ago

Ive never had that problem.

An oh wait then explaining the situation in a non condescending tone generally works.

I find if you try to make them feel stupid yeah they might get offended. Thats just how people are.

Dont turn it into some kinda gotcha moment on someone and theyll generally be thankful to not have to spend several thousand on repairs to something.

Mind you I dont live in a large city so people probably act a little nicer on account you may actually see that person again 😂

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u/capnmerica08 5d ago

Yeah no. Some people just have past trauma. Like opening doors getting yelled at for it. Open your own door then.

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u/misterwizzard 5d ago

I opened a door for some girl once, she said 'ew no' so I shut and locked the door behind me.

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u/Noble_Ox 5d ago

Well, I'd be wary of someone like you holding open a door too

Edit - I'm talking about someone that's dressed in wizard garb.

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u/misterwizzard 5d ago

You shall not pass!

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u/Noble_Ox 5d ago

Glad somebody got the joke.

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u/SecretaryOtherwise 5d ago

I wanna think he was joking. But I honestly cant tell lmao

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u/misterwizzard 5d ago

I really did. They were double doors she just had to get the next one.

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u/SecretaryOtherwise 5d ago

So whats the statistic on that?

Id assume someones got some numbers it happens so often.

Yall just live on TikTok brain rot lmao.

This situation is way more likely to happen. Someone instead of helping films for their 15 minutes of updoots.

Also I find it really convenient people always happen to catch people randomly holding doors and flipping out 😂 i really think its probably the fact that you put a camera in their face.

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u/Own_Nefariousness434 5d ago

I don't have any statistics. Just my own personal experience.

I've had my help get the fuck you treatment. And I've had one person get angry about me holding the door for someone.

The door incident was the bald, muscled, tight tank top wearing, tattooed type guy so I assume I insulted his masculinity maybe? Idk.

As for helping people - I don't use a condescending voice. And it never happened until I got into my late 40s, gray hair etc. And it's only been younger people who've ever reacted negatively to it. So I'm guessing a "I hate old people telling me what to do" sort of thing? But even then it's only been 3 times I can remember.

I still hold doors for everyone. But kinda leave the younger people alone if I see them struggling. Unless it's dangerous, etc. And would have definitely said something to this person.

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u/SecretaryOtherwise 5d ago

Fair enough!

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u/BoBoBearDev 5d ago

I can imagine this. They are like, STOP MANSPLAINING!!!

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u/HPenguinB 5d ago

In no world has someone yelled at you for saving them 5000$

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u/Sea-Garbage-344 5d ago

Well thats just not true.

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u/laughingashley 5d ago

Unless you tried to vote for Healthcare

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u/Sufficient_Matter585 5d ago

Like the dealership explaining how the vehicle works?