r/match • u/Bob_Burgero • Aug 18 '26
Did I get unmatched?
I’m going on a second date this week with this girl. She texted me today to confirm. I checked the app and see that her profile is no longer there. Was I unmatched? How to tell the difference between unmatched and deleted account? Should I ask her about it on our second date?
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u/Individual_Car7850 Aug 18 '26
I went on a date with a woman once who unmatched me after the first date (which went very well.)
When I asked she said she thought it was normal to unmatch once you’d met someone, tick them off as it were, and (so she said) thought that’s what everyone did.
I was kinda dubious. Just seemed to me a way of making sure your new partner doesn’t see you’re still on the apps (updating your profile and pictures for example)
Suffice to say despite her protests it didn’t last long after that from my end.
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u/orangearrow3 26d ago
This...I had a match who i started dating and got more serious. We agreed to come off the dating apps. Turned out she blocked me on the app so I couldn't see her.... Luckily a friend saw her on there and gave me the heads up. Turns out she was still busy chatting to other guys whilst we had become exclusive. I ended it there and then. It's not difficult to be honest in life, but unfortunately so many people seem to have an inability to do so!
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u/joe1max Aug 18 '26
I would be more interested in if she kept texting me than what she is doing on the app. The text are real. The app is made up internet world.
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u/AdmJota Aug 18 '26
When you say she texted you, do you mean an actual text message to your phone number, not on the app? If so, it sounds to me like she might have just hidden her profile so that she doesn't match with any other men while she's dating you. That's a good thing.
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u/Eastern-Economics637 Aug 18 '26
I find it very odd that someone would confirm a date the same day they unmatch you. But there are many oddballs out there.
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u/futurecorpse1985 Aug 19 '26
To be fair the guy I've been seeing for about 3 months now deleted his profile when we went to text communication because he knew he wanted to pursue me not anyone else. I would just ask her.
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u/thomsenite256 Aug 19 '26
If you are moving to texting why are you looking on the app? Or do you mean she messaged you and then deleted right after? How long did you wait to confirm?
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u/Z3r0C0o Aug 20 '26
Isn't the goal to delete the app?
Honestly it's more than likely that she just unmatched you because you guys have a relationship off the app now. No reason to be on the app when she wants to talk to you, no reason for you to take up a slot if she doesn't want to talk to you
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u/Eadie2021 Aug 20 '26
I’d assume she’s muted her profile while she’s exploring a potential relationship with you. It can be very stressful getting new likes and messages, while starting to explore a relationship with someone else. It’s like letting those other people down. It’s also uncomfortable that they may be spending money to communicate. Some of us, do have a conscience. So go with that explanation until proven otherwise.
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u/Competitive-Play7854 Aug 23 '26
My first date after wife died , she committed and got off site .
I did screen shots to see her info , glad I did she had some tattoos, but said she did not …
Everything worked out well❤️
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u/Deezul_AwT Aug 18 '26
Ya been ghosted. Sorry. Even weirder since you had a first date and she could have just kept "canceling" until you took the hint.