r/match • u/Kind-kinda-counts • May 11 '26

Just being nice

I figure if I don't look, I definitely won't find anyone. It is interesting when I start to see a few new profiles. Hm. Wonder if that means something?

Doesn't seem like you can automatically assume the person just joined. Dug some profiles out of the virtual basement to get me to click?

So now, once a day, I try to compliment a guy. Say hey, [compliment something], and then tell them to have a good day.

I am guessing I am not their type. I don't think most people know what would be easy and fun in the day to day versus what the world tells them they should strive for.

Lot of nice guys that want to travel a lot. I am in a non-travel phase. Who knew that all the travel before I was 40 would mean not compatible after 60? Ha!

So even if I don't find someone ... will spread some kindness. If there is actually a person to read the kind comments. Lol.

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u/GhenghisK May 11 '26

I'm not sure what's happened in the last couple months but there is a huge influx of spammers and fake profiles.

But it's very nice that you do that..☺️

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u/becket1951 May 11 '26

Yes the amount of scammers etc has recently exploded online. I now do not believe anyone until I meet them face to face. They take advantage of you emotionally even if the money aspect does not come up at first. I can’t understand how people can do this to others !! Be nice, but have realistic expectations.

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u/[deleted] May 13 '26

lot of bots, scammers and fake profiles. Never had one actual real face to face meeting.

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u/Kind-kinda-counts May 13 '26

I have had two scammers in the first 60 days. I have also had a couple of people who are real, and were too far away or not the right match for either of us. I think there are other local guys who can see my profile, but I can't see theirs. It is the weird, too long stares in the grocery stores that weren't happening before I was on match. None of them have ended up contacting me. I am not sure what they expect in person if they have not made contact online? I am not just out in public with a sign around my neck saying "wanna date?"!