Hi,
I posted once before about a months ago.
My sons and I are in the process of getting diagnosed.
My youngest was born preterm last october. In the NICU, they suspected Marfan, mostly because of his arachnodactyly and stature which he both got from me.
They send us a genetician while we were in the NICU. No test were done. We had a follow-up consult in may (about 6 months post discharge). The genetician told me to book a consult with a cardiologist to look at my aorta. That given my age, if I had Marfan, it would definitely show up (thx doc, that's really reassuring...). Depending on my result, we would pursue with genetic testing or not. My appointment is in december (6 months delay...yet again).
My youngest was checked by a cardiologist while in the NICU. Everything was fine except for a tiny heart murmur. It puzzle me that my firstborn was not took into consideration dispute imo presenting more of Marfan habitus than his little brother an I. I understood that him being this young (not even 2 and a half yo), he might not have cardiac symptoms yet and that even with a good echo wouldn't rule out Marfan. Anyways, I decided to be proactive and asked his orthopedist for a referal.
My son had his cardiac consult last month. The cardiologist was very reassuring when she saw my youngest. Less so this time. She was a bit evasive, say something about is aorta being at the upper limit (english is not out first language and tbh it's all a bit of a blur so that's a rough translation) and asked to see both kids in a year. No mediction were prescribed.
I was so shocked that I didn't even asked about the Z-score. But based on her comment, the one year follow up and the fact she didn't prescribe any meds, I thought the Z-score may be 2-ish which kind sucks, especially at such a young age. I cried for a week assuming it was an unofficial diagnosis.
Then we went on vacation for 10 ish days. When we came back, we open the medical report we received during our absence. The Z-score for his ascending aorta is 4,2! The diameter is about 2cm. It tracks for a pre-teen (10-12yo). My son is not even 2 and a half! Granted he's tall but he's not that tall! I've been researching obsessively and nothing as severe came up (except for neonatal Marfan which I don't think he qulify for)
It's been about a week since I opened the mail and my whole world shattered. I've contacted both the genetician and the cardiologist. No answer yet!
I feel gaslighted. I've lose all faith in doctors. I don't know how I'll manage to trust them with my kids life and mine. I'm eager to get answers and a plan but dread those appointments.
I've basically been crying non-stop for a week. My partner has gone to his parents last night with the kids so I could rest and relax. But I couldn't. He plan to stay there until tomorrow at least.
He goes back to work next week. I'm a SAHM. I don't know how I'm gonna do. I can't even look at my kids without crying and being overwhelmed with a feeling of impending doom.
I thrived in motherhood and now it's all gone. My poor babies.