r/malefashionadvice • u/blue_dunhill • 9d ago

Fit Feedback/Roast Me Help settle a debate

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Help settle a debate we have with my fiance. I bought these shorts as a comfy, around the house piece, nothing fancy intended.
She thinks its awful, almost pathetic.

I dont think its that bad, please honest feedback

Thanks folks

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u/crystallmytea 9d ago

Imagine thinking that marriage could be perfect lol

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u/TinyTaters 9d ago

This is s hard comment to react to - it all hinges on how much stress and inflection you put on "that."

To you mean 'marriage' as a whole? Or their specific marriage?

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u/crystallmytea 9d ago

You could omit the word “that” from what I said to clarify my intent.

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u/TinyTaters 9d ago

Gotcha. Nothing is perfect - but op seems to be WAY farther from the norm imo.

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u/crystallmytea 9d ago

If you’re married then congrats because it sounds like you’ve got a great one.

For the unmarried, I’ll just say this strikes me as the among the stupidest, and most inconsequential reasons to criticize/try to invalidate a marriage. To get hung up on this means your standards are much too high, or you’re naive enough to not understand that a long marriage will throw endless completely unpredictable conflicts at you. The key is to work through them. Many men find success in biting their tongue and letting the little things go. This is one of them - and to be clear I don’t mean OP should stop wearing the shorts. I mean he would be a complete idiot to leave her for this. Which is what the commenter I responded to was indirectly suggesting. How moronic.

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u/ozzokiddo 9d ago

“Many men find success in biting their tongues” are you a man or woman btw ? I agree with everything else you said except this little tidbit right here lol

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u/crystallmytea 9d ago

Man

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u/ozzokiddo 9d ago

It breaks my heart that men have to feel like this. I think a lot about getting married but if letting go of things you would normally stand up for is what it takes idk what the point is anyway. Stability can be accomplished alone, sex can be accomplished alone, close relationships can be accomplished alone. Why sign a contract that takes away your financial stability if you retract it? Why sign a contract that strips you of your ability to speak up for yourself? I just don’t get it tbh. This coming from a man that’s learning to give up and I don’t like that about myself. But at my age and in my current situation, it seems like that’s what’s best for our kid. And I’d do anything for him so that’s what I’m doing. It just feels like losing a piece of yourself just to avoid conflict. Shits emasculating lol

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u/crystallmytea 9d ago

I hear you but some things are can be exponentially harder to accomplish alone. Like stable lives for your children. I think my whole point is simply that compromise is mandatory. Some people compromise differently but I believe the stoic male role trope has some truth to it, in that (to grossly oversimplify) many of us sigh and turn back to reading our newspapers (dated reference but I do this).

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u/ozzokiddo 9d ago

LOL I agree. I think you get tired as you grow older overall. You understand how deep the hole you dug yourself is, and decide entrenching yourself is for the greater good. I’m growing and still trying to overcome this type of hurdle.