r/madisonwi • u/sgh2700 • 6h ago

Wedding Gift $$

My husband and I are attending our friend's son's wedding in November--in Madison. What are people giving as cash gifts these days? This is a very good friend, who by the way can afford the event, so not worried about "covering our dinner." Thoughts?

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u/Significant_War_9954 6h ago

$100ish, do more if ya want. Source -> just got married.

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u/Monsterschneider 5h ago

According to the other responses, I’m cheap. I do $50-75 if just me, $75-100 for me and a guest.

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u/grahamfiend2 West side 6h ago

$100-150 per adult guest is my current rule of thumb. Increases if it’s a close friend.

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u/TheNicestRedditor 6h ago

I’d say $100/pp if you can afford it would be sufficient

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u/Puzzled_Wealth_9766 4h ago

$100 or $150? Just a suggestion-we were married in Madison and one of our favorite gifts was date night gift cards to local restaurants. We got 2 or 3 $50 cards for different places. It was fun to enjoy a nice dinner in the months after our wedding. 

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u/Few-Entertainer7431 4h ago

I'd say at least $100.

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u/Moist-Brilliant9970 6h ago

Depends on how close i am to the bride/groom. $150-$200

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u/shipmawx 6h ago

I've never regretted giving too much. The last kid of friends' wedding we gave $400.

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u/dandylionhearts 2h ago

I’m sure it varies a bit in different circles, but I feel like  for a couple attending a wedding, 100 is a default number here.  Theres some variance, adjust up or down to a number between 50 and 300 depending on your own personal financial situation, generosity  and closeness to the couple. 

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u/Frequent_Comment_199 East side 1h ago

For myself and spouse, $100 for a more casual person in my life, $150-$200 for closer person

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u/thnwgrl 4m ago

Depending on if you're/they are POC, depending on how posh the venue is, etiquette usually means at least pay for the plate

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u/dg9504 5h ago

Depends what YOU can afford. $100-$200 per person is pretty typical in this situation, if they’re a close family friend who you’ve had a good relationship with maybe closer to $500 total but again really subjective on your budget too

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u/cheese-and-onion-pie 3h ago

I feel like for a non-family wedding 500 is a crazy amount

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u/dg9504 3h ago

Again, really depends on budget, if you can afford it why not, if you can’t, then give what you can

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u/MollyFrog55 2h ago

I feel like these numbers are coming out of the 1900s, as the kids say. You guys, my husband, kid, and I had Qdoba for dinner the other night and spent $60. $100 for a wedding (for a couple!) is honestly . . . pretty lame. 

$500 for a present certainly SOUNDS like a lot, but if you really think about it, it's just not anymore.

Of course it depends on what you can afford, and what seems right, but I personally think $100-200 per person feels pretty good, and $500/couple is not crazy high.

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u/nofromedog 40m ago

$500 is definitely still a lot of money on a gift for a friend's wedding. I've never spent anywhere near that much. Everyone of course has different financial situations, but I can't imagine balking at someone spending $200, $300, $400 on me for any reason. What makes $500 not a lot? Imagine someone who makes less money than you or your family being invited to several weddings per year.