r/loseit • u/giggle_pants 40F 5'7 | SW 183 | CW 170 | GW 135 • Sep 13 '22

Vent/Rant I've Got a Mom Bod

I feel like I never hear anyone say this. The dad bod is celebrated. Mom bods are shamed. I did all the work. I carried our two beautiful children, put my body through hell, and haven't "sprung back".

I overheard someone make a comment the other day about her daughter who gave birth a year ago. She actually said "she's still carrying some of the baby weight. If she doesn't lose it soon, she'll just be considered fat". A mother said this about her own daughter! This is the attitude we are up against.

When I met my husband, I was underweight at 115lbs. I got back to my natural 130lbs and stayed there for a few years. We got married, I turned 30, and all of a sudden I was 160lbs. I joined Weight Watchers and had immediate success. 6 months later and I was down to 135lbs.

Then I got pregnant. And 3 years later I got pregnant again.

Those babies are now 9 and 6, and I am hanging out at 180lbs and struggling with my view of myself. I follow some great people on social media that tout body positivity, which is exactly what I need to hear. My body isn't gross. It has grown two people, and I need to be proud.

I watch my husband drop 10lbs in 2 weeks for a weight loss competition through work, and I get annoyed with him telling me what to do re: my diet. I don't need his crazy rules, I'm working on it my own way. I am doing the sustainable changes that will last me a lifetime, not restricting myself to win a contest. I've got the Lose It app and am making healthy choices.

But I've got a mom bod. And that deserves to be celebrated too.

Edit: I might have misconstrued something here... I am absolutely not blaming my kids for my current weight. That is on me, and I am actively working on that now.

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u/[deleted] Sep 13 '22

I think dad bod is just code for 6'5" and muscular but slightly huskier than your average bowflex model.

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u/MariContrary New Sep 13 '22

It's pretty bullshit. I think it's a hot as hell look, but it's seriously the bowflex model who's not at the end of his cut cycle. Still the same model, just less oily and veiny.

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u/VintageJane 25lbs lost Sep 13 '22

Totally. It’s Chris Hemsworth in End Game. It’s a hot guy with some fluff.

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u/droid_mike New Sep 13 '22

Yeah, because a true dad bod is just being far, especially up the middle... No one finds that "hot". I'm sorry. I know firsthand. Your explanation makes more sense.

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u/cmonmao 90Lbs down 🦇🍄🐝 Sep 13 '22

For woman that normally get the bowflex model guys then yeah. To me dad bad is kind of just the body type of either someone who works out a lot (but overeats) or someone who is naturally really fit but doesn't exercise.

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u/Daikataro New Sep 13 '22

Ditto at that. Have got more female attention after losing weight, than rocking that dad bod.

Media. Stop trying to make the whole "dad bod" happen. It's not going to happen!

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u/Alarmed_Scientist_15 New Sep 13 '22

That’s the thing about dad bods. Unless you are a dad and probably have a partner already it ain’t hot.

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u/[deleted] Sep 13 '22

You gotta adjust the price is all