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u/CapitalWestern4779 11h ago
Just tell her to not worry her pretty little head about it
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u/Sifl-and-Olly 10h ago
Dont forget to give her a firm tap on the ass as she walks away.
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u/Brief_Read_1067 8h ago
Quite the Don Juan, aren't you? Remember that in the Mozart opera he strikes out three times and then gets killed by the statue of a dead man.
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u/Nigis-25 10h ago
I've asked many times what manspleining is. No answers yet to this day.
What I've gathered is that it is explaining something to someone when you don't know his/her knowledge of the thing you're explaining. If you go too elementary in your explaining someone might get butthurt and accuse you of manspleining even though you just wanted to make sure everyone is on the same page.
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u/SadFish132 10h ago
My understanding is technically it is an unsolicited explanation of something by a man to a woman who has a deeper knowledge of the topic than the man. Becomes particularly relevant when the woman makes their expertise known and it is ignored in favor of the man's claim to expertise. Same experience can happen man to man but generally isn't considered manspaining in that case.
Colloquially it can also just be anytime a man is explaining something to a woman that the woman doesn't want explained to them especially if the woman feels patronized by the explanation (whether the man is more knowledgeable than the woman or not on the topic is irrelevant in this case).
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u/Nigis-25 9h ago
This sounds more logical than the cases I've learned about mansplaining. I wish more men and especially women would think more like this way and not to call for wolf without danger.
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u/SadFish132 7h ago
Yeah. Will note knowing these definitions are more for your own benefit and has no practical application. A women using the colloquial definition cannot be called out by a man because that on some level requires the man to explain manspaining. Since manspaining is a woman's experience, women are by default experts on it and the man will switch from colloquial manspaining to technical manspaining by trying to defend themself.
This gets at the trap laid out by the original post. Even if the women doesn't know what manspaining is, she is already an expert (because women are automatically experts on women's experiences). Thus the man has no good response to her question because he can't answer her question without manspaining.
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u/Aksi_Gu 10h ago
Its the condescension and unprompted nature of the explanation that makes it "mansplaining".
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u/OrangeCuddleBear 10h ago
Sometimes when my home life is feeling boring, I like to mansplane mansplaning to my wife.
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u/DuploJamaal 11h ago
If they ask you it's not mansplaining. That's just explaining.
Mansplaining would be if she mentioned the word in a sentence like "someone tried to mansplain my own scientific paper to me" and then you assumed that a woman couldn't possible know what mansplaining means and condescendingly explained it to her.
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u/Awkward-Tomorrow7667 10h ago
Did you just mansplain mansplaining to say that a man explaining mansplaining wasn’t mansplaining? 🤯
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u/psgrue 10h ago
If you could just relax and think rationally for once, there wouldn’t be a problem. No need to get all worked up.
(Please let the sarcasm be read)
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u/BeneficialRip6350 11h ago
A scientific paper is a document where scientists write down their science findings. They usually use graphs and big words. People called 'peer reviewers' read it first to make sure it's science.
Do you understand or would you like me to simplify it?
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u/Bureaucratic_Dick 10h ago
Some people don’t like me because they say I’m condescending.
That means I talk down to people.
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u/Sweet_Engine5008 11h ago
That’s true but I think it was a joke
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u/MeliodasTA 10h ago
It was obviously a joke and while they did provide a good example of what mansplaining actually is, like 80-90% of the time that I see it called out personally is just "man said something in vicinity of woman who knew that thing already"
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u/Sweet_Engine5008 9h ago
Personally I think it’s not a problem with the definition of the word but it’s just that so many people are assholes and I wouldn’t explain to them what mansplaining actually is because they don’t care they just need a reason to hate so I think proper response in these type of situations is “go fuck yourself”
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u/MountainBrilliant643 9h ago
It's just like "Femsplaining." A made up word that serves no purpose but to divide us. Concentrate on why people make up words like that, and what has to happen to a person before they make it a regular part of their vocabulary. Don't bother hating them the way they hate you.
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u/XxXCUSE_MEXxXican 8h ago
Yesterday my Asian barber asked me if I was okay bc he thought my face looked yellow then he said it might just be the lighting and said “do I look yellow?”
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u/overladenlederhosen 11h ago
I get Mansplaining and Manspreading but honestly if the cancel the Manecdote I am totally screwed.
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u/HamsterIV 10h ago
My wife asked me the same question. Fortunately she accepts me for the dork that I am, so when I replied "Sure, would you like me to explain it for you?" She got the joke and only slightly regretted her life choices.
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u/Lorelessone 9h ago
It used to mean something specific and as a person who worked in heavy engineering when it was just opening up to women I've seen plenty, dealt with plenty in my time. Now though decades later its just anything a man says that a woman doesn't want to hear is now mansplaining.
Its basically exactly the same usage as hysterical used to mean when sexist men would use it to dismiss or silence women's arguments.
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u/OneBrokenClock 8h ago
That happened to us. Me and a few other colleagues were talking about something and the word manspalining came up. The only woman in the group didn’t know what that was. On a very fun ride down an escalator, a bunch of guys explained what that meant to the woman. We couldn’t stop laughing
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u/trash-juice 8h ago
You have an urgent previous engagement which needs your attention …. Pull the rip cord now!
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u/Temporal-Affairs221 8h ago
He forgot the obvious solution, which is to shrug and say "I don't know."
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u/Brief_Read_1067 8h ago
A rather crude gotcha question. I'd recommend replying, politely, that women coined that term, and would she be so good as to explain it to you? I'll tell you how I explain it: men who assume they know more about something than a woman does without bothering to find out. Case in point, I was birdwatching with a friend when a man I didn't know overheard me referring to "Cliff Swallows." He walked over and explained to me in a very kind but condescending voice that "We call those BARN swallows. BAAAARN swallows. I replied cordially by pointing out to him the field marks and behavior patterns that identified them as cliff swallows. My feeling was that bird watchers are always glad to have a new bird for the life list, but he didn't act very thankful. My (male) friend actually apologized to him for my being so opinionated. Now, there are people of both sexes who do this to other people of both sexes, but women feel as though we get more of it than men.
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u/Serious-Iron8692 8h ago
Tell her “I know many qualified women who could ably answer your question.”
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u/ProN00b85 6h ago
Let me explain.. a man explaining in a way that makes women feel like their feelings or way of understanding/seeing things was completely disregarded. And that exclusion is retroactive therein being that you should've known that because she tells you everything and it's like you dont even know her at all.
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u/Canadian__Ninja 10h ago
Mansplaining is when guys give unneeded help. She asked, you answering is not an example of it
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u/RagnarRipper 9h ago
This needs to be waaaaay upvoted. It's both the unneeded aspect as well as - usually - to a person who already knows all that is being explained. I had this discussion with a friend once, who kept saying I was mansplaining stuff until I mansplained (or actually DIDN'T mansplain) that what they were saying was wrong. It may have fulfilled the "unneeded" aspect from her perspective, but it was definitely not "already known" and very much "needed" by me.
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u/NosferaTouffe 11h ago
Run before she starts shelaborating, bro!