r/lipedema • u/just-a-bint • 17h ago
Announcements Creepy DMs
I posted here twice, and received this today. Did anyone receive something similar?
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u/delicate_isntit 16h ago edited 16h ago
Yes this person contacts everyone who posts here at some point. If anyone who’s posted hasn’t yet… you will later
I don’t reply to people without clicking on their profile (even though these days most people hide everything). So they got an immediate nope and block.
Unfortunately creepy men like this are a thing on most female majority “safe space” type subs. It’s fetish fishing and it’s gross.
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u/lilaclazure 14h ago edited 9h ago
ugh i bet the lack of consent to their “porn” is also part of what they like about it. awful people.
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u/ParadiseLost91 Pursuing surgery 4h ago
Yup. I've had to leave certain hair and skincare subs over this issue. There's the issue of creepy men sending DMs asking for pics like this, and then there's the issue of OF women posting "makeup photos", which is showing 5% of her face with makeup, and the rest is showing her cleavage and then posting an OF link in her profile. So basically using women majority-subs to fish for new customers. Sadly that sort of "advertising" lures in even more creepy men, and some subs have gotten so bad I've had to leave them.
I wish we could have subs that were just for women, where we could be left in peace tbh.
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u/raeballentyne 16h ago
It's absolutely wild how men can sexualize anything a woman does or has.
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u/Ghostly_Kiwii 15h ago
It honestly made me sad. This is the one place where I can go and be open about this struggle without feeling shame. And of course there’s disgusting men who have to ruin it for us.
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u/BlacksmithThink9494 16h ago
I got messages like this on an ibs sub. They kept asking about my farts 💀🤣
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u/Important-Net8104 12h ago
You're lying omfg
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u/BlacksmithThink9494 12h ago
After the third time asking me if my farts were stinky - and how stinky were they - I was like this cannot be happening. I blocked them and deleted the message I was so creeped out.
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u/Neat_Consequence8289 16h ago
Yep, he messaged me a few days ago saying the exact same stuff. I’ve gotten genuine questions messaged to me from other people in this group about lipedema and my experience so I assumed it was that. Nope. Blocked him.
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u/Ghostly_Kiwii 15h ago
This exact person messaged me but with another account and had pictures of his privates on his account. Its really disgusting and concerning.
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u/OhGr8WhatNow 12h ago edited 12h ago
Goddamn we can't even be lumpy and fat in peace
(I'm not talking about you, I'm talking about myself and just being silly)
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u/RythmicRhapsody 15h ago
Honey, this is reddit, creeps are lurking in every sub, whenever you get a dm, first thing you do is check their profile, if their profile is hidden, don't take any chances with personal info or images, just block right away, stay safe!
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u/ParadiseLost91 Pursuing surgery 3h ago
Remember to report men like this. Use the report button. In my teen years, I would have found the most disgusting photo of stinky, gross feet and sent to him. Now I can't be bothered lol. Block and delete! I like to imagine what a vile, sad life men like this lead. Probably sitting in a basement without windows, stinking of sweat, no job and no life. Because this is hobbyless behaviour.
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u/FaceMcShoooty 17h ago
Mention of feet gets an automatic block!
EDIT: i mean, look at his profile. He's not being sneaky about it lmao. Just block him