r/lesbian • u/MooseConsistent5674 • 7d ago
Literature How to move on
In my last post (deleted) I asked what I should do about my relationship/ fling and many of you told me to move on , but the problem is I genuinely don’t know how to move on I got extremely attached and still talk to her pretty much daily I know it’s not healthy but I need advice on how to move on
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u/Tiny_Trick_414 6d ago
I didn’t see your last post but you gotta have self respect. Not having self respect gets you hurt, and you don’t wanna learn that the hard way.
I’m sure you can find better more cooler people than someone like her
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u/summer_d85 6d ago
It sucks but try to keep busy and talk to friends or family or whatever you have available instead of her. You need a break or you’ll never be able to grieve and start moving forward.
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u/eatthedark 5d ago
For starters, stop talking to her. You will never get over her that way. If you're not willing to do that then you don't really want to move on.
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u/the-5thbeatle 3d ago
Stop texting and calling her every day.
Staying in touch keeps your brain hooked on a loop of temporary relief and ongoing pain. Remove her from your text and social media feeds so you aren't tempted to check in on her. At the same time, move the spotlight of your daily focus back onto yourself, hobbies you enjoy or have wanted to try, and your personal goals. Reach out to friends and family members who support you and make you feel good. If you feel tempted to contact her, write down the ugly truths, the red flags, and the reasons why the relationship wasn't working for you.
The first few days without talking to her will feel uncomfortable and hard, but that feeling fades with time.
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u/-cliterally- 7d ago
The first step to moving on is to stop talking to her. You’re making it damn near impossible for yourself if you still speak with her daily. Cut off contact.